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I don't understand what you mean by pitter-patter? Like gushing?
I love my fiance and am very committed to him, that to me is what matters.
fi definitely makes my heart go pitter-patter when i think about him :)
beekiss- pitter-patter is that indescribable feeling, like butterflies, when you just KNOW
I know the feeling she is talking about but honestly, no not that much. I have very rarely had that punched in the stomach/heart beating out of your chest kind of moment with him.
What I do get pretty frequently is this overwhelming warmth and sense of gratitude for him and for our relationship. I like that better. :)
All the time, (well, most of the time). When I think about him i get that feeling. When I wake up next to him or when I come home from work I get that feeling. In fact every time we kiss I still get butterflies. That super lovey dovey feeling you get in the first few months of a relationship has only become stronger over the past 3 years.
@beekiss2: Basically gives you butterflies.
@CorgiTales: I agree! I always look at him and think How did I get so lucky as to marry this man?!
I guess maybe I don't is because we were friends first? I don't know.
@Miss BBQ: I think that everyone is just different (Captain Obvious, to the rescue!) lol. In a previous relationship I got that feeling a lot but for me personally I feel like it was because our relationship was so tumultuous. When it was good it was great but so much of the time it was shit (which in comparison made the great times SO great). I would pitter patter and have an almost panicky emotional reaction to the good times because I was so scared of them going away. With FI I'm just not like that... we're on an even keel. I don't roller-coaster my emotions with him and I just have this slow steady love for him.
There was more “pitter-patter“ during the initial infatuation, though it does still happen.
Mostly I am in the same boat as Corgi “...overwhelming warmth and sense of gratitude for him and for our relationship.“
I get the pitter patter every once in a while. When he does something incredibly sweet . . . and when I'm OVULATING. lol
Er, i got over the pitter patters after the first couple of months. After 6 years of being together, we're just like how Corgi said.
My mom once asked me if i was sure i really loved him because I didn't really talk or gush about him much. It's just not my style--some women go on...and on....and on...about their SOs, though, and to her that equates something. To me, it doesn't--it really just depends on you.
Miss BBQ - When I read your post this quote totally came to mind (i had to look it up -- but i remember after watching that movie and thinking that that's what love really is... as corny as it may seem. Although we all have different thoughts, opinions and feelings, which are all right -- i just wanted to throw this in there.
"Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident."
— Louis de Bernières (Captain Corelli's Mandolin)
Me & the future hubby have been together since we were 13 and I still occassionally do get butterflies (or pitterpatters) every once and a while --but what I feel for him and when i am with him everyday is even stronger and more real than that. If laughing hysterically at silly things together, smiling when I think of something funny that happened the night before, telling him my secrets and wishes sans pitterpatters all the time -- I'll most certainly take it!
I get the "butterflies" version of pitter patter at least once a week- and a blame my SO's eyes. Holy cr*p something about my SO's eyes when giving certain looks....
The strong pitter patter, like I forget I'm breathing happens about once a month... Usually its after a long day when I've been on my own, getting sappy, and I finally see SO and they've gone and done something that just melts my heart.
I did not feel this way in previous long-term relationships, so I feel pretty lucky. I try not to take it for granted.
I still smile when someone mentions his name but we have been together for 6 years but I don't think I go "pitter-patter" anymore. I used to though. When we were first together people at work would call me C9, as in Cloud 9, not so much anymore LOL.
@vanillabean: We used that reading at our wedding! I love it and think it's so true.
@CorgiTales: Agreed. After almost seven years together, we're happy, content, in love but also stable. I had more of the pitter-patter thing with an ex, but that was usually after a dramatic fight/breakup. I think we were both addicted so the highs that came after the extreme lows, and I'm so happy not be to in a relationship like that. Sure, I do still sometimes get the pitter-patter/butterflies with DH, but it's not daily. And I'm 100% great with that.
I have to agree with what you said but not the quote you use.
I believe it's so important to be IN LOVE. I mean I love my dog, love my nieces and nephews, my family. But I'm IN LOVE with my husband.
After 10 years I still get the occasional pitter patter. Is it all the time and everyday? Of course not! We're not teenagers with all the free time in the world to spend together anymore. Life gets in the way of pitter patter.
But I do think it's important that every now and then your heart jumps just a little bit. Your heart swells so big that you never imagined it could for one person.
My husband and I have that comfort, that ease that you girls are talking about.
But yea, sometimes all it takes is a look or a smile from him that I know only comes out for me. Or a bouquet of flowers he picked up for me while grocery shopping for no apparent reason. Sometimes that's all it takes to bring that pitter patter back.
And I guess according to outsiders we still give each other ooey gooey eyes. Hehe.
@Mary Poppins: LOL!
@vanillabean: That is beautiful! Loves it!
I'm not much for pitter-patter either. For me, I get those feelings when things are uncertain- and we're in a very certain relationship now, so I don't so much pitter-patter anymore.
haha I posted on another thread earlier that FI and I have a mature love. He doesn't make my heart go pitter-patter and I think in many ways this is the most beautiful thing about our relationship. Love blinds you. It makes you ignorant. FI and I are probably one of the most odd couples. We fight and bicker about the most ridiculous things and stop speaking to one another like immature little brats. But then we level out, realize out silly-ness and move on.
I once heard that "the one couple that screams at one another and seems to fight non-stop has the most healthy relationship. At least they can be honest and truthful with one another. There is nothing fake about that."
EDIT: Okay, I totally just made it sound like FI and I do nothing but fight. That's not what I meant haha
I definitely don't get that pitter patter with my husband very often. I felt that when we were 12 and 13 and making out for the first time...and when we lost our virginity to each other...and when we got together for real when I was 18...but after a total of 12 years, that's not what's keeping us together. It's enjoying the time we spend together generally more than we enjoy anyone else, feeling totally safe together, and totally getting each other. To me, that's what love is. He and I always laugh because my sister says she broke up with her last boyfriend because it didn't give her the chills to kiss him anymore (after 6 years). But that's not what love is after 6 years!
PS when i read the title of this post, i totally thought it was going to be about having kids! you know...the pitter patter of little feet?
I used to get that a lot when we were first dating. I think that kind of feeling is more common at the beginning of the relationship before you become comfortable with eachother.
I have more of this feeling now than when we were first dating! I think the security that we now have in each other and our relationship allows me to be comfortable enough to just let myself go and indulge in that feeling and trust it. I hope it never fades!
And when I'm ovulating too, Mary Poppins, LOL!
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My mom always asks me if FI makes my heart go pitter-patter. I think she's kind of under the impression that if it doesn't, then something isn't right.
I've had pitter-patter moments, but overall I wouldn't say I'm a pitter-patter-y type of person. I'm always really happy when FI comes home, and I'm happy to be with him, and that's really all I need - is to be content and happy. But in talking to my sister yesterday, she thought that it was weird that I wasn't heart-floppy over FI.
So I'm just wondering ... do you get the pitter-patters?