(Closed) Pity Party :(

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I understand how you feel, I’ve been with my bf for almost 7 years and it was very frustrating having to wait around even for an answer or discussion. But, you and your SO have discussed the when and the how (for the most part) so you should be very pleased that it is coming within the next year! I know it feels like forever to you, but 2 years of dating before the engagement is nothing. My suggestion to you is to clear your head of the waiting-to-be-engaged feelings and find enjoyment in other activities. Even if that is actually PLANNING your wedding! Look up what you want, venues, flowers, DIY projects, the whole thing. And just remind yourself that you will be getting engaged down the line, but in the meantime you can occupy yourself with other things. You don’t want to end up feeling resentful toward him for getting his career together for a more financially secure future for you two. Take a step back, enjoy your man for the reasons you love him now, not what you will love him even more for in the future! 🙂

Post # 4
Member
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Aww, I know how rough it can be!  At least you know it’s coming soon, even if it is going to take longer than you originally planned.  I second the PP.  Get busy!  Keep yourself distracted so you don’t dwell on it too much – that’s what I’m having to do right now.  It’s tough, but it’s possible.  Working towards a goal helps, too.  I’m currently training for a 5k!

Post # 5
Member
340 posts
Helper bee

So exciting that he is planning on proposing soon! I think you should not pressure him or let it be obvious that you are upset because maybe he will surprise you with an earlier engagement!? Maybe he is trying to throw you off so you don’t expect one in the upcoming months. I know it is hard, but just be extra loving and YOU and he will just hopfully speed the process up some!

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