Post # 1
Sooo today is/was SO and I’s 6 year anniversary so yay for that! But despite the fact that I’m really happy about that, I’m pretty much super disappointed with a lot of things. We’ve been together for six years and four of those have been a short distance relationship which means that we didn’t even get to see each other today.
Does that suck? why yes, yes it does.
I’m just so fed up with the fact that we get to see each other maybe once a week. Everyone I know is getting engaged, married, or having kids, and while all of those things are on my mind constantly, oh what I would give to just live in the same city as SO. I’m tired of hearing about how my friends miss their SO when (s)he’s been gone for a day and a half, and I guess i’m just a little tired of being happy for people. Is that bad to say? yeah probably, but its not like I ever say that out loud (except on here I guess) but I’ve been to four weddings in the last year and as much as I love them and the people in them, I just wish my relationship could be that easy. It all boils down to jealousy.
Thats really all I’ve got for you. Really I’m just being a whiny baby and need to suck it up because I know its nobody’s fault but my own, but sometimes I just need to let it all out.
Thanks for your support bees!
Post # 3
Perhaps I can help make you feel better? I’ve been with my mister for 7 years. We’ve been in a long distance relationship (I’m in CA and he’s in MI) for 7 years. Yup, our entire relationship has been long distance. We maybe see each other for a week, 1 1/2 weeks at a time about 3-4 times a year. If we’re lucky. My closest friends are married and have kids. And everyone we know constantly ask us when we’re finally going to move to be together and get married (we finally have an answer). We’d love to be able to see each other once a week outside of skype. If I could just hold his hand right now? I’d be in heaven.
I’ve found that I usually get extra mopey about my relationship when I haven’t had a chance to talk to my mister for a while so I assume this is where this vent is coming from. And that, I totally understand. It does suck not seeing the one you love whenever you like and to see everyone else moving on with life when you’re seemingly stuck in neutral. But remember that you have a good relationship with a wonderful man who makes you happy!
Post # 4
@lovelorlo: I can totally relate to how bad it sucks to be LDR and I would kill to be able to see SO every weekend! Yesterday was my birthday and the first one in 5 years that I haven’t seen him for it. 🙁 We’ve been LDR for over 2 years, but at first we were only 100 miles apart and could visit on weekends and then he visited me last year where I am now. Sometimes it helps me just to know that I’m not the only one in this situation.
We are currently 900 miles apart, but in the same time zone so we can still talk. We have had many in depth discussions about future plans and although I hate waiting to be engaged/married, I know that we have an end date for the distance at least.
It sucks to watch other people get what you want. I have a bunch of weddings to go to in the next year and that just reminds me how much it sucks, but my time will come and by then I probably won’t have to share the spotlight as much since others will already be married/have had kids.
Do you have a plan for when you two will be closer together?
Post # 5
I remember when my SO and I could only see each other on weekends. It was hard feeling like I was single all week, but I cherished those weekends so much knowing that in the future (now) we’d only see each other once every 1-2 months. So yeah, I feel your pain! but I’m still a tiny bit jealous of that once a week goodness!
Post # 6
Thanks for all the encouraging words ladies!
@epilove: hopefully we will be in the same place next summer! Still a while, but at least theres a solid plan! and I totally agree with sharing the spotlight haha it will be all ours!
Post # 7
I am in a LDR, too. It really sucks right now. However, you have to remember that your SO loves you. My guy is overseas right now…won’t see him until November. However, we will skype one of these weekends when he is actually on land. YAY!!!