Pity Party: I can't ____ anymore and it is really upsetting me.

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hear ya.  I stopped running around 19/20 weeks because I had terrible pubic symphisys and SI joint pain.  I’m 10wks pp now and I can jog but it’s not far and it’s slllloooooooooooowwwwwww.  I know I’ll get it back, but it seems like it will never get easier.

In the later months of pregnancy, I could still do spin classes and swimming or aqua-zumba and water aerobics.  It’s not running, it’s not the same, not even close.  I did find that moving my body and just being active helped keep my mood stable.

Good luck, I know it sucks, but keep moving and don’t be hard on yourself.  You’re doing what’s best for your body because that’s what is best for your baby. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

XOXO, sorry to hear running has become too painful for you.  I had a similar experience with losing something that was just “me”.  I’ve played adult co-ed softball for over 10 years.. its how I met my husband, it’s where I hang out with my friends, it’s where I socialize and I was told at my FIRST appt that I had to quit… I was really shocked as I had thought I could play until 4-5 mos preggo.  It didn’t hit me until a few weeks later and then BAM I was an emotional wreck.  Going to the games (since my DH and friends still play) is painful….. and a few nights I just couldn’t bring myself to go.  Of course DH doesn’t understand and it’s almost impossible to explain.  It’s been wayyy harder than I could have even imagined and I’m not sure if it’s because it happened faster than I thought it was going to, or that I wasn’t in control of saying no more/the Dr made me quit.. or what.  But I feel your pain.  I posted about it on facebook and all my mother friends told me that it’s worth it to give it up once I have the baby “it’ll all be worth it”…..

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@iarebridezilla:  Oh where do I start? I think I tell my DH at least twice a week that I’m very angry that we can’t do this whole process like ducks and pop out an egg and sit on it for a while and hatch out a baby so I didn’t have to go through all this. Don’t get me wrong, I feel incredibly blessed to have been able to get pregnant easily and I have had a very healthy pregnancy thus far, but being pregnant is just no fun most of the time. 

I had terrible morning sickness and constipation first trimester.  I would cry almost every single day because of how miserable I felt. Once that vanished away around 14 weeks, I thought being pregnant wasn’t such a bad deal–until I started to get big. Now, everything is getting more difficult. I can hardly get my shoes on anymore, and I know all this is only going to get much worse before it gets better.  It’s a crappy feeling not being able to bop around like I used to. 

Face acne, body acne, and hair is growing WHERE?!  No pregnancy glow for me, unless you count the redness radiating off of the dozens of pimples on my face, chest, shoulders, and back.  Add in my huge and still-growing body, and MAN I feel like such a sexy BEAST these days!

I could punch in the face all the people who claimed that when you’re pregnant, your sex drive just goes through the roof–HA! HA! HA! SO funny! Bc that never happened to me. Sex is just uncomfortable now and I basically only do it with DH like once a week so he isn’t completely sex-starved.  Add in feeling like a giant whale and sex is just not very fun. At a time when you absolutely do not have to worry about birth control, too.  Cruel joke, Mother Nature! 

I told myself pre-pregnancy how I would NOT be one of those people who just ate whatever they want and gained a ton of weight, I would watch what I ate and keep it in check, easy peasy.  Well, cocky little me didn’t realize how GOD DAMMNED HUNGRY I would be!  So that plan went right out the window.  I cringe every time I step on the scale at my appointments because I always gain so much! You would think that would give me motivation to not eat as much, but then about 2 hours later I’m starving again so….right back to stuffing my face. 

Now I have uncontrollable heartburn, however, that makes eating so much and whatever I want *almost* not worth it, but, I usually end up making the poor decision to eat and suffer with the heartburn later (I am beginning to have some major empathy for people addicted to drugs and such–although my addiction is to food right now). 

*Sigh.* So what do I do? Sit on my new fat ass most of the time, eating something (probably unhealthy) and complain about how I just can’t wait to be done being pregnant. Although I will miss my new huge boobies! Better keep breastfeeding for a long time to keep these girls around, they are like about one of the only perks that comes with being pregnant for me! 😛

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

And one more thing, I was in such good shape before I got pregnant–I also told myself that I would keep working out.  Most of the reason I haven’t is because of being so stupid busy with school and not actually being pregnant, but it is no fun when you do an activity you used to be able to do easily pre-pregnancy and you are like, gasping for air.  I’ve stuck to walking once in a while, but a part of me wishes I would have kept up the workouts better.  I wasn’t a runner, but I did really like doing work-out videos.  Probably would have helped my arm jiggle and butt and thigh cellulite, but I’ve just been too exhausted to even think about doing a workout video. When I did do a pregnancy one a few times, I felt like a 85 year-old Grannie and I knew that it was probably too much because of how out of breath I got (rule is if you can’t comfortably hold a conversation, you’re over-doing it).  It kinda scared me so I just stopped. 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel so bad for you and am sorry to hear about your struggle.  Its so easy to stsrt to feel sad, blue or depressed when you rapidly stop exercise routine guven the quick loss of endorphins .  I know how it feels to not be able to exercise the way you are accustomed but at least in your case you have something sweet sbd precious to look forward to ! Could you get a heart rate monitor and use that to guide your power walking ? Im sure you are very conditioned given your history of running so getting your HR up will be hardEr. Could you try doing a spin class? They sell wider comfort seats that may support your belly and pelvic muscles better , and if you wear a belly support thingy (think its called pregnancy belt ) thst msg alleviate some symptoms ? 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel so bad for you and am sorry to hear about your struggle.  Its so easy to stsrt to feel sad, blue or depressed when you rapidly stop exercise routine guven the quick loss of endorphins .  I know how it feels to not be able to exercise the way you are accustomed but at least in your case you have something sweet sbd precious to look forward to ! Could you get a heart rate monitor and use that to guide your power walking ? Im sure you are very conditioned given your history of running so getting your HR up will be hardEr. Could you try doing a spin class? They sell wider comfort seats that may support your belly and pelvic muscles better , and if you wear a belly support thingy (think its called pregnancy belt ) thst msg alleviate some symptoms ? 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@iarebridezilla:  I also completely despise most maternity clothes. Especially the ones that make you look like a giant circus tent, although maybe it’s appropriate since I feel like such a giant elephant these days, haha!  I miss shopping a lot, too.  Going to a store is so hard for me now to look at the tiny little shorts and summer clothes.  I really wish there were more options for maternity clothes and they all didn’t cost a FORTUNE! 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Yoga! I’ve been going to a specific yoga instructor 3 times/week for the last 10 years. I LOVE her class and it always helped relax and center me. I figured I could keep going as long as I felt good, modifying some of the poses as I go so that I’m comfortable.

Well, at 26 weeks, I’ve officially reached the point where there is more that I can’t do than I can. I can’t do balances because my center of gravity has shifted, can’t do anything on my stomach, can’t do anything that requires a back bend, get dizzy in downward dog or any forward bend, can’t hold poses….etc.

Plus, last week I attempted the slighted back bend and I got 3 stretch marks on my stomach to show for it!!

I’ve cut down to once/week because I find I don’t get a whole lot out of the class now that I can’t really participate, but I still like the hour of quiet meditation, so I don’t want to give it up completely.

 

@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  I played on my co-ed softball team for 8 years, and I know EXACTLY how you feel!! I still go watch my team’s games every once and a while, but I feel like an outcast sitting in the bleachers instead of the duggout and it just gets lonely and depressing. Even worse than not being able to play is going to our sponsor bar afterwards and just staring at everyone enjoying pitcher after pitcher. Sucky indeed!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@cowgirlace:  I had to unsubscribe from anthropologie and other skinny girl store e-mails because it just made me sad to see the cute stuff that I won’t be able to wear for… awhile.  I also find myself getting a little bitter when I see cute girls with flat stomachs out and about.  I used to look like that, but now I look like I just can’t stop eating Cheetos.

@iarebridezilla:  I will join your pity party!  I’m super annoyed because I gained 5 lbs while traveling for work the week before last (I wasn’t able to cook my own food and was away from my gym).  I have been desperately trying to ration myself to level it off and was hoping to not gain any weight the next couple of weeks to make up for it.  I have worked out every day for the last 9 days and haven’t had any dessert or chips or bad foods of any kind.  I snack on carrots and celery sticks.  I eat balanced meals that average about 300 calories.  I still gained weight this week!  

My mom sent me a belly band this week, bless her heart.  That would have been awesome like, 8 weeks ago, when my thighs still fit in my size 0 jeans.  

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