Post # 1
This could get long, but I hope it doesn’t, lol.
My fiance and I have been together for over three years, and have been seriously discussing marriage since year 2. We were officially engaged in July. We had always planned to elope to New Orleans, sort of a weddingmoon type of thing. However, as the planning began, he said he’d feel sort of bad if his family wasn’t there. So we switched plans entirely and began to plan a “real” wedding. It has spiralled into this huge ordeal that I don’t want, and don’t want to pay for. He is upset that it is stressing me out, so I bring up the NOLA thing again, and he says that plan has always been fine with him. (Of course, NOW he tells me, after all this, LOL).
I guess technically it won’t be an elopement if we decide to go back to plan A, since his mother and sister will most likely come down for it (which I’m more than fine with), but has anyone else had a teeny tiny wedding in New Orleans? How did you go about it? I have a contact to perform the ceremony, thinking about getting a permit for inside the gates at St. Louis Cathedral or City Park, maybe a brass band for an itty bitty second line of like, 10 people…I guess I’m just curious to hear how others have handled a wedding like this. Mainly for encouragement. It almost seems too easy, which makes me nervous.
Post # 3
I had a destination elopement. It was planned in 17 days (it definitely required planning!). We went to Canada and the province required 5 people to perform a marriage – officiant, the couple, and two witnesses. Our witnesses were my husband’s parents. If they were not able to come (we were surprised they did with 17 days’ notice to another country nonetheless!) we would have used the photographer and the wedding planner as our witnesses.
We took them out to dinner for our “reception” which was a lovely three course dinner with champagne and wine. They left after dinner and that’s when we said our goodbyes (did not see them the next day).
Since they did travel 800 miles to come see us, we did spend the previous day with them hiking and eating. So if people have to travel it might be a nice gesture to arrange something else with them.
A brass band would be fun! It would outnumber the wedding people though right? I would have loved some Uilleann pipes (Irish bagpipes, to honor my Irish heritage) for my little 5 person wedding, but I couldn’t locate one in the area.
Post # 4
Your wedding sounds like what I have in my mind. I know my fiance’s parents and sister would be there, maybe my mother (but I’m not holding my breath, lol)…and we would take them out to dinner and have them spend the day before and the day of the wedding with us…and then tell them to get lost, LOL.
It sounds like you had a beautiful day, thank you so much for sharing 🙂
Post # 5
Hey, there’s nothing that says you can’t have a small, intimate wedding in New Orleans like you wish! Invite close, immediate family members to make your fiance happy, but keep it small to keep you happy. Win win!
Post # 6
Small wedding in NOLA. Parents, siblings, and maybe a close friend or two. You can keep it under 10 people and also in NOLA. It will be fun and close enough to an elopement. Go for it.
Post # 7
That was originally what my SO and I were planning, just having a few (no more than 10) people come with us and take them out to dinner after. We have since decided to just elope, the two of us on our own. I think it would be nice either way, but we are both private people so that’s why we decided to just elope period. I think it is easy, just call up a place and make a reservation ahead of time to make sure there’s no problem getting seated, and I’d say you’re good to go. Get lots of photos!
Post # 8
My fiance and I are eloping and IT IS easy. You get to focus 100% on what you want to do, to eat, to feel. It’s absolutely wonderful.
For my elopement, I researched a lot of other elopements on wedding blogs and saw what they had done. I suggest Ruffledblog, GreenWeddingShoes, and Apracticalwedding. It’s just an easy, stress free process if you allow it to be.
Here’s a couple that eloped to New Orleans. Hopefully it’ll inspire you. Enjoy.
Post # 9
I appreciate everyone’s input SO MUCH. After my little mental breakdown over this last week, we actually booked a venue on Friday. It is midway between where we live and where the majority of our family lives. It’s a beautiful Victorian house and I cannot even describe in words the relief that I feel after making this decision. I was so conflicted until I walked in the door and then I knew. It sounds crazy, but I looked around and this feeling of calm settled on me (which is rare).
Post # 9
I know it’s a bit too late to comment on this entry, but I’m actually happy I found this thread. I am feeling the same thing that you did, as my partner and I are hoping to elope to New Orleans but worried that we’ll offend family by not inviting them. This thread reminded me that we can kind of do both: instead of an elopement, maybe it’s a teeny tiny intimate ceremony for immediate family only. I still feel like I need a little help, though, so if we end up going the NOLA route, we were planning to hire an officiant who could also help us with some of the details, like http://neworleansmarriage.com/new-orleans-wedding-planning.shtml