Post # 1
So here’s the deal: my younger sister is getting married this summer, and I’m in the beginning stages of planning her bachelorette party. I’m VERY excited about it, and I really want to make it special since she took so much care with mine.
She is very low key, and isn’t a big nightclub partier ( although she does drink). I am trying to keep costs down for everyone, while still providing a fun time. ALL if her bridesmaids/ bachelorette party attendees are still in college ( read: broke). I know that finding extra $ at all is a stretch, especially since 6 weeks afterwards they will be paid up for BM dresses, wedding travel, and wedding related expenses.
So here is *MY* idea:
- I pay for a 3 day/2 night cabin stay in Gatlinburg. This would be a 1-1.5 hour drive for my sister + her friends. This cabin is amazing with 5br, jacuzzi, theatre room, HUGE kitchen, multiple fireplaces, pool and air hockey tables, wet bar on both floors, log style family dining room table for 12. It’s seriously awesome, I have stayed in it before and received a discount if I book again.
- I provide alcohol ( wine + mimosa type drinks, champagne maybe)
- I provide a small gift ( personalized wine glasses my friend hand paints for each of the girls)
Here is what I would ask of them:
- Each person is “responsible ” for a meal. There’s 8 total, so there would be 5 meals to cover and 7 people to cover them ( leaving my sister out). They could do any meal they wanted, and the 2 remaining girls would cover drinks, snacks and desserts or whatever they came up with. I priced out a few things and most things landed in the $30 -$50 range to feed 8 people. That number could be lower depending on the meal they go with ( or higher)
- Each person is responsible for any activities outside of the cabin like shopping, going out if they want, additional alcohol, etc.
- Each person is responsible for getting there. I’m not doing any limo rentals or party buses if people DO decide they want to go out.
So, college students speak up— is this too hokey? Would it be a huge pain in the ass to plan a meal or do you think it would be fun? Just a bit about this group: they all attend a Christian college and most all of them are very laid back, chill type of people who I am almost 100% sure would love a cabin with a fire over a girls night out in a limo.
Would YOU be put off by this list if I delegated each person a task? Just curious! I feel very old and out of touch with 21 year olds!!
Post # 3
I think that’s an amazing idea 🙂
Post # 4
Well I’m not 21 anymore (24) but I would say I think it sounds like a great idea if you thinks its the kind of thing they would want to do. But, they might prefer to give you a certain amount of money and have you take care of meals. Hard to say–can you just ask them? Some people might prefer to pay you, others might think its fun, hard to say. Unless you’re trying to surprise them all, I would just ask what they think!
Post # 5
This sounds awesome. I’d rather just give you money though. I also think you may be setting yourself up for stress the weekend of with having others handle meals. Some people are just flaky.
Post # 6
I think it’s the best way to handle it. Instead of 8 people each bringing a pack of hot dogs and buns, one person brings, and prepares their meal.
It also means that each person only has one thing to take care of.
It is the only way to do a big group cabin experience in my opinion.
Post # 7
@BlondeMissMolly: I am trying to keep some of the details away from my sister, but she does know where we are going, that’s about it. I have it Fri- Sun, so I figured I would get there Friday and prepare dinner for when the girls started to arrive, that way no one is having to drive and then immediately jump into kitchen duties.
I am definitely going to bounce this off of them but wanted to get a few opinions beforehand to see if it is something that would be a put off or something people wouldn’t mind.
Post # 8
This sounds like great planning and a lot of fun! It should work for all budgets because if one girl happens to be really college broke she can plan a cheaper meal that fits her budget.
Post # 9
@NAvery true. There’s a certain element of trust involved in having someone else manage the meal.
Post # 10
I think it sounds like a great idea! I would have loved it when I was younger (and still would!)
Post # 11
@Mrs_Amanda: I think it will be a great idea and the only unknown is the meals so once you talk to them you can get a feel for if they would rather split up meals or just pay you. Back when I was in college my cooking skills were pretty limited and I probably would have preferred to give you $50 lol.
Post # 12
You are a great sister! It’s awesome you are picking up the tab. That would have appealed me and is more the fair and reasonable.
Post # 13
@BlondeMissMolly: oh my cooking skills were definitely NOT up to par at that age! Her friends are pretty outdoorsy and into hiking, camping… I mean, they live in the mountains so its kind of a perk to going to school there. So I’m hoping they know their way around a campfire/grill or maybe just a crock pot!!
Post # 14
I think it’s a good idea but the meals could get confusing.
I think the best way to do it would be to have a signup sheet and people can either sign up which meal they want to provide or you can list out the meals/dishes and people can sign up under what to bring.
Or…It might be easier for them just to give you grocery money up front and then you can plan out the meals and buy all the food and maybe they can be responsible for making it. You could even have them work in pairs and sign up for which meals they would like to do. It’s more fun cooking with 1 friend than by yourself.
I would ask them which they prefer.
Post # 15
i think overall great idea but i would suggest being a bit more specific…..like jen and sue you are in charge of lunch, paula and mary have dinner etc
also dont forget to put someone on paper playes/cups/paper towel/utensil duty
i would also plan to.have more of a ‘party’ (sleepover) on sat nught for girls who cant do the whole weekend….maybe kareoke and a chocolate fondue?