(Closed) Planning a proposal but now having cancer scare :(

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh sweets, I have no advice, but I am so sorry. I hope someone can comment and share some good news stories with you xx 

Post # 4
3609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Don’t count your chickens before they’ve hatched.

One of my friends had what I thought to be a huge lump in her breast and it was benign.  She went through hell and back, and was keen for everyone to touch her breasts so they knew what to look out for.  She was also 23.  I also had a male friend you found a lump on his testicle, it was also benign.

Yes it could be cancer.  But there’s a chance it might not be.  Try to stay positive as possible even though you’re no doubt worrying like hell.  Have you told your girlfriend?  I always find my SO is a great rock when shit hits the fan.

My thoughts are with you.

Post # 5
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh no!!  Stay strong!  I know it’s so frustrating; it feels like control of your life has been taken away from you.  My mom had breast cancer 3 times, 3 different types, and both breasts were affected.  The first time she was diagnosed she was 33 years old, the last time was when she was in her 50’s… that was about 15 years ago and she’s still alive and surly as all get-out.  

I’m in the US so the medical system is quite a bit different here from where you are, but if you have any questions feel free to PM me.  Stay as positive as possible, that’s my main advice.  Mindset really does have an affect.

Post # 6
4429 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@anahappilyeverafter:  I’m so sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you! i will pray for you that it is nothing to worry about. just a question have you had a baby?

my coworker had a lump on her breast and it was from when she was laktating some of her brest milk caused a lump thank God it was nothing and i pray the same for you that this is nothing. God is good and im sure you will be fine have faith and try not to worry so much ; )

Post # 8
2012 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i had a scare early this year. I couldnt even bring myself to tell my fiance because his mum had just been diagnosed with breast cancer. Mine turned out to be a harmless cyst and they also discovered i have lumpy tissue.

FMIL is mid waqy through her Chemo currently as all is going great. She found it early and had her breast removed (you cant tell as she wears an insert in her bra) to reduce the change of it coming back.

I hope you results come back clear, but dont do what i did and keep it a secret, i really struggled.

Post # 10
2012 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i was really bad and noticed it the previous year but ignored it, it was only when it got bigger that i made an appointment with the doctor. Mine was fixed to the tissue underneath and my breast looked swollen. I have never been one to examine my breasts although i do now so was unable to tell if the shape had changed i did think my nipple was drooping more than usual though. I later discovered the swelling was due to inflamation from the position of the cyct rubbing on my bra.


Post # 11
1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sending positive thoughts in your direction!

I’m so sorry this is happening, but keep in mind, no matter what it is, it’s treatable!  

In the past year I’ve struggled watching two family members go through cancer.  One was treatable, the other wasn’t.  The one who had treatable cancer is finishing up the last round of chemo now, and is doing wonderfully.  He’s feeling so much better now and he’s considered cancer free as of a couple months ago!!

The other fought.  They gave him 6 months to live.  He finally passed this year, 10 years after that diagnosis at the age of 70.

You can get through this.  I have faith in you!

Post # 12
964 posts
Busy bee

They discovered 2 tumors in my breast earlier this year and I was certain I had cancer. Luckily when they removed them they both turned out to be benign.  I know it’s easy to say relax and don’t think about, but that’s easier said than done.  The sooner you have tests the better.

Post # 13
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh no! I’ll keep you in my prayers!

I actually went through something semi-similar last year. I had precancerous cells on my cervix that they thought might be cancer. Cervical cancer is very treatable so it wasn’t the worst thing in the world but it really, really affected me and scared me. Scariest thing Ihave had to go through so I can’t imagine how you are feeling! I spent a whole year worrying and crying and worrying some more and crying some more. My only advice to you is to try your hardest to just continue on with your life! It’s stressful and all the doctors visits can get annoying but they are there to fix you. And instead of trying to prepare for the worst try and hope for the best!

Best of luck to you!

Oh and I was 20-21 when I went through it :/ not something you want or expect to hear so young!

Post # 14
11753 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Thinking of you hun. I hope everything turns out okay.  Try not to worry until you know for sure (easier said than done, I know!) But if everything turns out okay, you will have wasted all that energy worrying.

I haven’t had an experience quite like yours, but I have found a lump before. I was so scared, too!  I had a biopsy done and it ended up being benign. 


Post # 16
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My mom had a benign breast tumor when she was in her early 20’s. I don’t know too much about it, but I know that if any tumor/cyst forms near the milk ducts, it can cause discharge from the nipple. You don’t need to be lactating or anything for the discharge to happen. And any lump in there can change the shape of the breast.. so I don’t think your symptoms would make it more likely that it’s cancer. Especially since harmless lumps are so common. I know so many people that have had lumps and gone through the whole cancer scare, but almost all of them were harmless. And the two women that did have cancer, are fine.

I’ll keep you in my thoughts! Good luck to you & lots of hugs!

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