(Closed) Planning a reception a week before a family member's – Opinions Please!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I like parties, so I wouldn’t mind if you planned a party a week before mine! But definately a good idea to ask!

Post # 4
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think that if they already have planned their wedding for a certain day that anything within a month (especially if you’re having it before they’re already planned wedding) is not OK. If you want to plan it after theirs then that is fine, but a week before is way too close.

Post # 5
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think doing so would come across as trying to steal the couple’s spotlight. I personally would find it very rude and tacky. You plan on hosting a second reception, which on it’s own is tacky, a few days before a cousin’s wedding. Don’t do it.

Post # 7
7 posts


sorry to sat this but overall this couple has been planning their wedding and it very rude to take this away from them. as much as it is simply convenience for you its just not right and i dont receoment it.

Post # 8
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

@Blushing2013:  I think that you should ask the cousin outright. As you can tell everyone has a slightly different opinoin on  a matter like this, so you have to see how that particular cousin would feel. 

Post # 9
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would have the reception either a month before or after theirs.

Post # 10
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think having two receptions is tacky (unless you invite people to both, that is kind of tacky unless it’s wedding party/immediate family) but if you swoop in  just before one that’s been in the works for awhile, you stand a very good chance of seriously pissing some people off.

I would think very, very hard before you decide to do this. At least have it afterward.

Post # 11
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@rebwana:  +1. Also, I think this is such a clear no-brainer that I wouldn’t ask the bride. She may say it’s okay when it clearly isn’t because she doesn’t want to come off as a bridezilla, but it’s clearly inappropriate for you to schedule your second reception less than a week before her wedding. I don’t have a problem with second receptions in general, but I do think that in this case it’s even more inappropriate because you’ve already had your own wedding day.

Post # 12
3303 posts
Sugar bee

Please don’t do this. It will cause very hard feelings and so not worth it.

Post # 13
3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@rebwana:  Ditto

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