- Mrs. Bear Cheese Pie
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I’m not really asking for advice, just sharing a vent since I’m frustrated with myself. I’m trying to plan a sort of surprise get-together for FI’s birthday next month. He’s not looking forward to 30, so I thought we would celebrate the last year of his 20s this year, and have a quiet celebration next year. I’ve been mentally planning for awhile, even though it will only be for a small group of friends. I’ve slowly gotten information from him- over time so it wasn’t obvious- about how he feels about surprise parties, his favorite restaurant, etc. I was playing on his phone one night when he fell asleep, so I got a few numbers of his friends [no snooping, just numbers to contact people]. I’ve recently started calling them to see if they’ll be available. It’s been pretty awkward since I haven’t met a lot of them, but everybody has said they would love to come.
I called one friend tonight, a friend I know he hasn’t seen in months, to tel him about it. I left a voicemail explaining how I was planning a surprise dinner at a restaurant blah blah blah. As I’m talking, I get 3 texts in a row. I checked once I hung up and it was Fiance asking why I was calling his friend!! Apparently I chose the one night they were hanging out to call. I’ve never met this guy, so I had to think on my toes. I called Fiance right away and made him swear he wouldn’t listen to the voicemail, and I told him the reason I was sneakily calling was to try to get ideas for Father’s Day/birthday presents for him. I told him he couldn’t listen to the voicemail since I mentioned some ideas I had. I had to come clean that I had sneaked in his phone, but I told him it was just because I had no idea what to get him [that’s true]. I asked if he heard the message and he told me his friend had put it on speaker so they could both hear, but right after I said who I was, a plane flew over, so his friend took it off speaker so he could hear better [he lives RIGHT by an airport]. Fiance swears he didn’t hear anything, but I think he might be lying just to make me feel better.
He then asked why I called this person, that I’ve never met, and not his other two best friends. Uh…because I know them and could guess what gifts they would suggest [my response, anyway]. Well, he let it go, but I don’t think he bought it. Now I’m worried I spoiled pretty much the only thing I’m getting him this year. I’m so angry I didn’t text Fiance before calling his friend, just to “see what he was up to” so I would have known! I guess I shouldn’t let it bother me, because I know he’ll be excited to see all his friends whether he knows it or not, but I really wanted a surprise since he’s never had that. I’m just frustrated that the last person on my list happened to be hanging out with him when I called. Damn Murphy’s Law!! Ok, end vent.