Planning a Wedding Around Other Future Brides

posted 3 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
Hostess
11426 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@loulou_321:  I think I would just avoid talking wedding specifics with her.  It’s a hard situation but I don’t think there’s much else you can do – you can’t keep catering your wedding to her wishes, that’s just silly.

Post # 4
Member
8974 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

@loulou_321:  you need to stop planning as a group. Thats insane. You know your BMs arent having the exact same look as the bride before you, that would bug me too. But past that.. just plan your wedding. Who cares if there’s overlap???!?! Obviously bride #2 but thats not your problem. Wedding planning is hard enough with out having to have 2 other brides stamp of approval. Just stop!

If they press you for details…just say you havent decided. Or tell them youre sick of the drama. Or you want it to be a surprise. Or your mom’s decided. Anything. Nothing.

Post # 5
Member
7826 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@loulou_321:  Ignore bride #2 and stop sharing details with her.

Some people are ok about things, some aren’t. I recommended my venue to a bride who only married a month or so after us, and there were no dramas at all. Your friend #1 is like my friend, but #2 is not! So stop sharing details with #2, ignore any requests from her, and do exactly what you want. What YOU do for YOUR wedding is not her business.

If bride #2 texts and asks anything else, either ignore the text, or text back, “it’s a secret”. I can’t believe she cares what hotel you stay at, that’s just crazy!

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