Post # 1
So here’s the situation… First of all I am already married. My husband is in the military and got orders to Japan… it was either have a JOP marriage or be apart for 2 years… it was an easy choice. Now we are planning our wedding/vow renewal with all of our friends and family to be in FL (where my parents are and where we met) to be in October 2013. The ONLY time that I will be even in America is this October (2 years before our wedding will take place) and I will only be in FL for over a week. Other than that I am stuck in Japan! We would have had our wedding this October when we go home but that’s when my brother is getting married and I would never want to take anything from HIS wedding- that’s just rude imo. When I visit home in October my mother and step mother want to take my dress shopping and maybe see if we can find a bridal expo, but that will be all I see.. well we might scope out venues just to get an idea. My mother and step mother will be pretty much all of the work after that- but Hubby and I are paying for it. I have to give them ideas of what I’m looking for, my budget and they will do the leg work and send me pictures. I will be there only a few days before the day actually takes place… it will be in between duty stations.
My question is… is this crazy?!? Is it even possible? I have to do it because my family would kill me if I didnt have this wedding lol but still! And all of his family is in either WA or TX… half of mine is in IN… I have no idea how many to even expect to come… Anyone done anything like this? I need advice/help! I am so nervous about how everything will turn out. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
My advice is to get a local wedding planner. I got married in DC and I live in London. There is absolutely no way we could have had our wedding without having a planner who knew the area, the vendors, etc. BTW our wedding was awesome– so it can definitely be done!!!
Post # 4
Yes it is possible.. it might also be pretty stressfull (more than a normal wedding). I am planning my CO wedding from FL and its a headache, I can just imagine for you! I agree with the PP about hiring a wedding planner! You are going to need one for sure! But it is totally do able. Maybe you can try taking some space available flights when possible to come and do wedding stuff?
Post # 5
Despite the fact I’m doing all my wedding planning locally and by myself (ok, with my FI’s help, lol) I HIGHLY recommend getting a wedding planner!!!
He/She would know the area and be able to tell you the venues that are in your budget EASILY. They also know the vendors better than anyone else.
Also, have your mom and step-mom be involved with the vendor, that way they won’t see it as you thinking they’re not helpful/taking away their job. They also would probably have a better feel of what you would like/wouldn’t like more than the planner…. plus, they’re in the same time zone 😉 AND your mom and step-mom can do tastings for you!
good luck and it’s totally do-able!!!! 🙂
Post # 6
I will definately look into a wedding planner… I just dont know if that will be in the budget. Any idea how much they usually run? I would LOVE to have someone who actually knew about weddings in the area though. Thanks for the comments! I think the webcam will become my best friend because I am NOT a person who can easily just pass control onto someone else- it’s going to KILL me being so far from the planning lol. I want to be at the tasting on the webcam and see everyone’s reactions lol. I know I sound crazy… but I will have a LOT of OOT guests and want to make sure everything is PERFECT to spoil them 🙂
Post # 7
@MattandKristin: I don’t know about Florida, but my planner was Pavaune Pearson of Invited. (http://www.invitedeventdesign.com) You could contact her and ask for a referral for a Florida planner, she might know someone and I really trust her. Tell her Rachel in London sent you. She had several packages. We went with the full package, which was based on our budget– but we told her our budget in advance and we were never pushed to go above. We met once in person, had most of our meetings via skype, and then met once again before the wedding for some final food tasting, etc. To be honest, I didn’t feel like I was relinquishing control– I just felt like I was relinquishing all of the crap of speaking to people who weren’t going to work out. We still made the final decisions. She did all of the negotiation and the crap stuff that you can’t do anyway because you’re out of the country. I think we went through something like 30 photographers before we saw one we liked, but the key was that Pavaune did all of the research and sent us lists to go through (like 5 at a time) so we could narrow it down. It was so worth it. I told everyone I was outsourcing my worry.