(Closed) Planning a wedding that doesn't represent me at all, HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m from Southern California, & getting married in Hudson Valley New York.  I wanted a “little Touch of California”  So I’m having succulents included in the centerpieces and a few on our cake.  It doesn’t scream southern California desert, but just hints at it. 

Perhaps you could include a popular Texas flower somewhere in your wedding?  Or, I’ve heard of many people incorporating their home towns into the favors they give out.  Is there a really Texas-y food that you can bag up for guests to take with them?  Or a local hot sauce you can give as a favor?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureMrsRabo:  Not being from Texas, I can’t rush in with a suggestion.

Why don’t you tell us what says “Texas” to you, and we’ll try to come up with suggestions on how to incorporate those ideas?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not quite in the same boat as you, but I am doing a Catholic ceremony for my FI and sometimes I feel a little lost in that.

I’d advise you to start small. Think of small personal touches that will remind you of something you love about Texas. Perhaps a piece of jewelry or hair clip. No one else even has to see it. Like bouquet charms. It can be something you look forward to that makes you smile and feel at home. Maybe when you are getting ready with your girls, you can all wear custom T-Shirts that have a picture of phrase that reminds you of home.

That’ll help quickly. You’ll be excited about the small touches of Texas and it won’t even matter if your FI agrees or not because he won’t even see them anyway!

Then start thinking of ways to incorporate it into the ceremony or reception. If he doesn’t like the whole table linen, maybe a runner? Maybe there could be a detail on the escort or place cards? Maybe you could theme the table numbers? I’m actually super surprised that I can’t find a picture of a tiny texas flag in a frame with a table number glued on it. How is this not on pinterest already? I mean there’s lots of details at weddings. Maybe something with the favors. Maybe you just want to put “Fun facts about Texas” cards scattered on the table for the guests to read and use as icebreakers.

I’m about out of ideas, but there are so many places you could put a little detail taht reminds you of home. I just don’t know what those details are, so I can’t tell you exactly what to do.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Texas state flower (bluebonnet) in your bouquet?  Will any of your foods need bbq?  You could put various bbq bottles on tables.

Put a little TX and LA flag on your chairs.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sienna76:  Oh I like that! Instead of those Mrs & Mr chair signs. You can have flags. I think that’s cute.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’ve also been wrestling with this, I’m from New York City and FI is from North Carolina – and we’re gettting married in Maryland where we live. I’m going to use cities/landmarks from both states instead of table numbers and have Krispy Kremes as an additional dessert since FI loves those. And the groom’s cake will be a UNC basketball jersey!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe you could incorporate stars in your decor? That should fit nicely with your elegant theme.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@FutureMrsRabo:  don’t want my family to come to my wedding and be like…umm, who is this girl??

I think they’re more likely to come to your wedding and be like…woo hoo this wedding is awesome! I mean New Orleans is New Orleans – it’s got so much character it’s going to just kind of take over everything. I’m sure it’s possible to have a wedding in New Orleans in a hotel ballroom with generic non-regional food, no New Orleans jazz, no second line…but, um, why would you do that?!? Right? It’s going to be so fun for your guests. I’m also having a DW in New Orleans with a second line, Cajun & Creole food, etc., and the wedding is definitely going to be about New Orleans. I’m fine with that (in fact that’s basically why we picked it), but my identity is not tied to my state of origin so I haven’t bothered to try to incorporate anything.

Anyway, ideas…I’m picturing a kind of logo for your wedding with an image of the outline of TX and a plus sign and then the outline of LA (fortunately both states have good and recognizable shapes). And then you could have your names and wedding date or maybe a cute saying that would describe the merger of these two cultures. You could probably get one of the graphic design shops on etsy to put something together and sell you a digital file of the image. Then maybe you could use the logo here and there — maybe on the second line hankies, programs, welcome bags…? Maybe for your cake topper you could find a little Texas figurine and a little Louisiana figurine?? Well it’s just an idea…good luck!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My two favorite places – can I get an invite?! 😉 Actually a Nola meets Texas theme is one idea we kicked around, so I have lots of thoughts here:

Maybe for your favor something Texas related? Salsa, a Texas shaped cookie (There’s a great lady in nola named Joan Farrell who makes the best royal iced cookies) Texas themed mardi gras beads? Have the second line band play a Texas themed song? And your parasol could be Texas themed. Cowboy and cowgirl cake topper. If you do a cake pull you could use Texas themed charms. TX cufflinks for FI. Margaritas or a tequila bar! Selection of Shiner beers. Texas two-step for your first dance. I’ll think of more later I’m sure. I really liked the flags on the chairs idea. And bluebonnets or yellow roses…

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@houstonwhodat:  +1 to everything she said.

I’d also incorporate some Texas country music, if you like it.  I’d do yellow roses and bluebonnets.  BEAUTIFUL!  🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

In a funny twist, I’m a Texas girl and SO is a Louisiana boy.  I keep trying to add cajun music, food, and fleur de lis to our wedding and he keeps trying to add Texas stars and a rustic theme.  We’ll be getting married here in Texas though!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’m from Louisiana and I know what you mean. Honestly I think it’s kind of hard to incorporate anything Texas into a formal wedding, as Texas is all about country/cowboys/boots/rodeo/blue jeans etc and none of that screams formal.

We are big on the Fleur di Lis symbol here, but when I go to Texas I see stars everywhere. That would be an easy decoration to fit in everywhere. Maybe line dancing and country music at the reception, where everything is a little more relaxed? We do a lot of line dancing in LA too!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was a Chicago girl getting married in Vegas, so my out of town bags featured what Chitown is known for. Garrets popcorn, Taffy Apples, and a voucher for pizza! Or, your favor can be something that says “Texas.” If you use a Texas flower, you can explain that somewhere in the programs. The idea is subtlety. It doesn’t need to scream Texas, a whisper will work as well. No need to concentrate on your guest wondering who the wedding belongs to. The day will be about the love between you and your future husband, and no particular wedding touches will be needed to achieve that. You are getting married in a fab place, and all will have a ball 🙂 That I promise!

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