Post # 1
Is anyone else having a hard time getting excited about their wedding simply because everything else in their life is crazy? My job is up in the air because of funding, our house is a disaster (fix-it-upper), I’m stressed out about certain cases (I’m an atty.). To top it all off, my wedding to-do list is getting larger, not smaller.
🙁 Just sort of felt like venting. It hasn’t even really hit me that this wedding will be taking place in about 1.5 months. I feel like this should be such a happy and exciting time, and it’s just stressful.
Who can relate?
Post # 3
@luverly7: I can! We got engaged last August. Since then, FI started a high stress job in March. Because of the job, we had to move quickly and were not prepared to do so, so we lived with his parents for three months until the end of June. We found an apartment in our new city, moved into it at the start of July, got a new puppy two weeks later, and now our wedding is in less than two weeks! I will say it has all been totally worth it, but I am looking forward to things being normal and non-hectic after the wedding.
Post # 4
My life is crazy too, until recently I was the only one working, my fiance has a crazy ex, all my friends are also getting married so I’ve had to do the bridesmaid thing for them, there’s always something that has to be done to the home, I’m having issues with certain family members who are just blowing things way out of proportion, my fiance has the same, etc, etc. With that said I’m super excited about my wedding! There’s tons of stuff to do for it, but that’s actually what I use to keep my mind off the other stuff. I just look at it as a wedding is something positive in a sea of negative.
I think a lot of your stress is coming from the fact that your wedding is so close, I’m sure I’ll be feeling much the same way when mine is at that point too. All I can suggest is to try to stay positive and think about the fun you’ll have the day you marry your fiance and it’ll all be worth it. Boards like this exsist for exactly this reason, you can share some happy times and vent when things get a little rough without (hopefully) getting any judgement.
Good luck to you!
Post # 5
I’m totally with you. I’m supposed to be buying my dress tomorrow, but because of everything I really just view it as something to get done with rather than actaully having any fun (I’ve already picked out the one I want). I’m in the middle of job hunting, and have this overwhelming feeling that I don’t deserve to be having fun planning a wedding right now when I’m very uncertain of my financial future. The only reason I’m buying my dress now is because it’s on sale and my parents insisted on buying it as my wedding gift. I said I supposed to buy it tomorrow, but even that’s up in the air because my bank said they’d clear the funds, but they haven’t done it yet. I’m sick of this emotional rollercoaster.
Post # 6
I had that too. I was preparing for my Ph.D. qualifying exams while trying to plan a wedding from out of state (I lived in SF while our wedding was in CO) while my FI (now DH) was in China applying for our fiancee visa. On top of it, my grandmother was sick, and she passed away a month before the wedding, so my family was (obviously) much more preoccupied with that.
Honestly, because of immigration, we were scared the whole time that the visa would not go through, and I barely had time to think about anything else. It made the wedding seem so minor, and I wouldn’t even let myself BE excited about the wedding in case it ended up it couldn’t happen because his visa was denied. To combine that with quals…
But in the end, everything worked our perfectly. He got his visa 2 weeks (!!!!!!) before the wedding, and somehow, it all happened. Barely, but it all happened. It will happen for you too, and your wedding will be perfect!
Post # 7
*HUGS* I can relate, definitely. We have no set date for the wedding, can’t book anything. We got engaged over 19 months ago, but will not be getting married for a couple of years at least because we want to move out together first, and for that we both need jobs, which I don’t have. I am still studying and want to finish before we get married, but am taking a break from study (which I was doing part time) due to my ill health. So all the wedding planning has to be put on hold until I get more stable and figure out when we can get these things sorted.
Post # 8
We got married on Saturday. I’m not completely sure how 🙂 My husband was diagnosed with leukaemia at Christmas and spent Dec/Jan in hospital before continuing a very heavy chemo regime from home. I lived 1 1/2 – 2hrs away so have spent most of the year travelling! As I was planning to move, I had to apply for new jobs and attend interviews, and leave my job of seven years which was hard. Then in the two weeks before the wedding, I moved house.
I feel like I have spent the last 8 months living halfway between two places and trying desperately to be organised in rather disorganised circumstances. I start my new job very soon, but I am hoping life will get easier at some point soon!
If it’s any help, my wedding went very smoothly without any major disasters and we had a truly wonderful day. It is possible!
Post # 9
I’m with you. It’s been really hard for me to get excited about our wedding because so many things are happening/going wrong right now. I’m thinking of pushing the wedding back to 2015 to ease some of the stress until we get certain things in order.
Post # 10
Yes. So far this year: We bought a house, I lost my job, I’ve had to spend months of my life sorting out my crazy sister, my mother has cancer and is going through chemo, and I’m dealing with a variety of health challenges. Typing this all out makes me wonder why I’m not rocking in a corner somewhere!
Post # 11
@luverly7: I can relate. We bought a fixer upper house last year and we are currently in the midst of a diy kitchen renovation (we making our own cabinets and painting the old cabinets and putting on new doors to make them match the new ones we are adding). My FI isnt interested in doing anything with the wedding because he is trying to get the kitchen back in shape before we have house guests who will be staying with us for the wedding.
Our wedding is November 2 and I feel like I’m going crazy trying to put it together on my own. I work full time nights as a nurse and work has been crazy and my washing machine just broke last week.
Looking at some of these other posts, it seems that I have it pretty easy. You ladies rock for being able to keep it all together!
Post # 12
You’re not alone.
FI is an officer and has had lots of out of state trainings, finding time to just breathe in the same space is hard to do, trying to graduate before the wedding so took summer classes, about to take on 16 hours in Fall and Spring to graduate, FMIL is off her rocker, 40 hour work week still, dogs having puppies any day now, have a family roommate that was supposed to be temporary but going on 6 months and I’m uncomfortable in my own house, and then I have to remember we have to keep planning this wedding.. Sometimes I just want to run away for 2 minutes.
But that’s life right? Hugs
Post # 13
@luverly7: Totally hear you on job front. Planning small reception in November and in the midst of the worst busy season at work. We have a new integrated financial reporting system, and I have no clue how to do anything and feel super behind. 🙁
Post # 14
You aren’t alone. I’m workIng full time, FI is working literally 18 hrs a day for the next 2 months, I have been given until nov 8 to have my masters thesis finished and I am 100% planning this wedding by myself.
Post # 15
Thanks everyone for your support and reading my vent. I feel silly whining about my problems compared to what some of you are going through.
The fact that this thing is in like 6 weeks is I think pushing me over the edge.
I’m stuffing my face with candy as I write this, even though my dress doesn’t fit. Ugh!