Post # 1
So, I just got reminded that I have 1.5 years to plan a wedding. My fiance’s nephew’s fiance (who is 10 years younger) just posted an amazing wedding website, and I feel like I have nothing – no vision, no nothing. I have no creative bone in my body. I can think outside of the box when it comes to work, but anything artistic, not really.
I don’t have the money/budget (unlike some people I know) for a planner/stylist. What am I supposed to do? I see pictures online all the time, but have no idea where to go or what to do. My wedding is going to be in a hotel ballroom. Uncreative, I know, but we did get a good deal, and it is within our price range.
Maybe, I’m too competitive. I feel like people are going to make fun of us or compare us to his nephew’s more expensive, more creative wedding. Argh!<br /> We’ve been told that we are more “urban,” sophisticated than them.
I do have venue pics if that will help.
Post # 2
Here are some venue pics:
Post # 3
Pics are always useful. It will help people make suggestions. How about your family – Mum, sisters, MIL or friends? Can they help you? What’s your dress like?
Maybe start by choosing your favourite colours and googling pics of wedding deco in those colours. You don’t need to be creative, you can copy other people’s great ideas! 🙂
Have you talked to your SO about it all? Maybe he will want to be involved nd have lots of ideas.
Good luck with everything and try not to compare too much to other people.
Post # 4
Cluelessbride10: I was feeling like that until recently – I felt like everytime I went on Pinterest, I saw something I liked, but none of it really went together.
A few days ago, I made my own “mood board” in Powerpoint – I put together a bunch of pictures I liked and kept in mind the color scheme I’d chosen. Once I saw it all laid out, I realized how well it could work, and now I’m really excited.
Our venue is also kind of ballroom-y, and I think that’s good – it’s a relatively blank slate, but not TOO blank (if that makes any sense). Our wedding is in Boston and our ceremony is at a very historic meeting house. I went with that idea and chose colors that I knew wouldn’t clash with anything (and that I liked).
Here’s what I came up with:
Post # 5
Cluelessbride10: Not creative? Me neither . I always say I’m not creative but I can copy pretty much anything!
You are lucky. You are starting with a blank slate with your venue. You don’t have anything unattractive from which you have to deflect the eye.
You are having a fall wedding. Start there. Do you like traditional fall colors? Or would you prefer something else?
For color palettes look at:
You start by picking one color that you like and go from there
Search Pinterest and Pin things you like on different Boards- decor, BM dresses etc. You will soon see a pattern developing.
And of course, ask questions here.
Above all else, don’t get bent out of shape. A color palette, some centerpieces, crsip linens, silverware, china and glasswware and you already have a beautiful wedding.
Post # 6
I do have my dress – it’s fairly different from others. Here is is:
I’ve probably posted it at a billion places lol. One neat thing about our venue is that it used to be a well-known gangster hang-out in the 50s and 60s before it became a restaurant/hotel. The Rat Pack actually performed there. Not bad for the northern suburbs of Chicago!
Color-wise, I keep on thinking deep purple (like plum) and silver. I keep on thinking of silver picture frames for the table numbers (or placecards if I’m adventurous) and purple uplighting. Problem is that I have no artistic skill. I can try copy something, but it looks bad.
annb9: That is a good idea with the board. My problem is going to be the execution though. Most of my wedding party is out of state, and I don’t want to ask them to do too much. At least I have time to shop Ebay and Etsy for things!
Post # 7
LaPetiote: My FI will go with whatever I do. He has problems giving opinions. He’s the whatever makes you happiest type.
Post # 8
Cluelessbride10: You sound a LOT like me. Even the same colors. I know Pinterest was my best friend in the beginning to help get lots of ideas and pinning what I liked. Then I made separate boards for each category: flowers, dress, decor, hair, makeup, gift ideas, misc., etc. Then I went through them with FI to see what he liked and didn’t like. Of course ones he did not like at all I unpinned right away as it’s his wedding too. Then once we got a better “vision”, then I started looking on ebay, etsy, discount wholesale websites, craigslist, etc. There are a lot of great deals out there to be had. Also, you can go to a rental place (suggest making an appt), and you can do a table mock up and try different things, then you can go online to replicate and purchase (or you can rent) what you think you would need.
You do have time but I highly suggest starting to get all the little things now once you get a vision of what you want. It can all add up pretty quick, but I’m glad I’ve spaced it out and buying little things and checking them off my list with each paycheck. I’ve pretty much done it all myself too, but with making a list and then getting started early, it will make a huge difference.
Post # 9
I know the feeling. I am the most uncreative person there is. I would just keep looking at pictures of decor until you find something you like, and then duplicate it. I can’t come up with ideas on my own, but I know when I like something and when I hate something.
Post # 10
sharksgrl99: I guess I have to start using Pinterest more! My table set-up is pretty much set by the venue. I just can’t afford to have a ton of decor extras. Would it be mostly the florist handling it? I’m very tempted to get a planner, but my venue has a coordinated. Planners are expensive here in Chicago.
Post # 11
MrsGatito: I’m exactly the same way! I have problems verbalizing, but get a mental picture. Once I see it, I know.
Right now, i’m really digging submerged centerpieces. I keep thinking darkish room, uplighting, lit up, submerged centerpieces, good DJ.
Post # 12
Cluelessbride10: Tell me about it. I’m in SF. Our venue has a coordinator as well. From your picks, the room looks like it can be pretty dark. I bet votive candles on the tables would look great and add a lot of ambiance. I know I got purple overlays for the over the venue given white table cloths and it will add to the color scheme/feel that I want. Then adding colorful flowers will help add as that is a large space you have. I have the purple uplighting as well. It came with our DJ package. He said he can even slowly add as it gets darker since it will be starting right before sunset.
Just start slowly, prioritize on what is most important to each of you. Get a vision that you both agree on. He may not have much to say but I bet if you show him, he will tell you if he “doesn’t” like something, which is still adding input.
Post # 13
Picking a theme could really help you along because then you could just search on pinterest the theme you were interested in.. or google images for that matter.
How much money do you have for decorations? And what all does that include? [uplighting, centerpieces, flowers, draping, linens..ect]
Post # 14
sharksgrl99: So true! They actually include mirrors and votives with our package (3 per table I think). The tables come with white tableclothes and overlays so I’m pretty much stuck with that. I think so too. My biggest complaint was that the room was kind of dated looking. We really will not have any windows so uplighting can be any time.
True – I can come up with an idea and ask him if he likes it.
Post # 15
jenilynevette: I kept on thinking of a theme, and I just could not think of any. We probably have up to 2000 – 3000 for decor. My FMIL is taking care of the flowers so I am unsure of what she wants to spend. When I’m thinking decor, I’m thinking gift table, guest book, uplighting, and any other touches outside of flowers.