- 4 years ago
In the middle of a hormonal meltdown here (Don’t we just love hormones). I realized me and mr. Have been together for 16 months, and engaged for 5 today. Aside from having a rough budget and some ideas of what we’d like, and a date–7 months from today…I realized…we have nothing done.
I lost my job recently and started a new one, so getting back on our feet and he is a touring musician with less gigs this year than last and money has been good–but not good enough to start setting large chunks aside.
We decided on a destination elopement–a grand total budget of under $4000 but that’s just money. We can always make that somewhere down the road…my number one depression trigger has been this:
None of my family or friends has even stepped up to say “Oh, I’d love to throw you a shower/engagement party” period. We have been engaged for five months now, and I’ve seen distant relatives come and go and get married—after being treated like queens for months and months with everyone asking questions “What are your colors? Let me see your ring! Where is your honeymoon?” and no one has asked me a damn thing. To be honest, I’ve been holding out hoping that one day they would remember that I was engaged too and ask me how I was feeling through this process…we even registered in the hopes that someone would throw us a shower. Still waiitng on that one. May be waiting forever.
It makes me feel terribly lonely…especially since the majority of my closest friends live 3-5 hours away from me. There’s only so much comfort facetime can bring you when you constantly are feeling very much like an “unbride”.
Rant over. Sorry, bees. Just no clue where else to turn to.