Post # 1
So we are going to talk to my future in laws in a couple weeks about possibly hosting our wedding at their summer home in Nantucket. The area is beautiful and there is a giant lawn where we could have a tent set up. Its pretty much our dream location, and a place that is very special to us as a couple.
Im worried my in laws will say no, because logistically…it could be a nightmare. Guests need to take a ferry there from Cape Cod (we will probably have around 75 guests) and then get to the house. There isn’t enough parking for everyone, so we would need to rent some type of shuttle to and from the ferry as well as to the hotel for those that will be spending the night (which is probably mosyt people-as the ferry stops running at a certain time. I think around 10pm?).
We would of course need to rent everything-tables, linens, bathrooms, etc. but Im not as concerned with all that, because there are several “one stop shop” companies that can do all this.
Anyone plan something similar? Any advice?
Post # 3
Dear Fiance and I are planning our reception at my mom’s house. Luckily there’s a huge field just for parking, but they’re also building a new house on the land so I’m really freaked out about whether it will be done in time or if there will be a construction site in the middle of my reception.
My mom called me last week to let me know about a new reception space in town (we were using her yard because it’s the only thing big enough for our party…but now Dear Fiance and I really want the outdoor reception!) and I’m freaked out she might be having second thoughts on hosting it at home 🙁
I definitely don’t think it’s as easy as we assume at first! I hadn’t even thought of bathroom facilities until Dear Fiance brought it up!
Post # 4
No matter what kind of event you plan or where it is you are going to run into trouble. You have to decide what is worth it. I think it sounds lovely and is worth making the extra effort. I attended a wedding in the middle of a farming community and they had shuttles than ran guests to and from the hotels. It was very nice not to have to worry about transportation.
Post # 5
Our wedding wasn’t at anyone’s home, but it was a bring-everything-yourself venue. I have to admit, it was very intense to plan, set up, and certainly way more expensive than if we had planned a wedding at a venue that provided everything. We thought we’d be saving some money, but we really really didn’t. I would definitely hire a DOC or wedding planner to help you through it all. There are a million details to think of from salt & pepper shakers, to bathroom facilities, to parking, to serving tongs and ice buckets (and ice!!). It can be very overwhelming at times. Very rewarding, but very overwhelming. I’m not sure if I would have changed my wedding, but if I had known then what I know now, I would have changed a few things and hired a few more people to help.
Good friends of ours just had their wedding at the groom’s mom and stepdad’s house and it went really well. From what I understand, there were a few hiccups and emotional bumps with his mom and stepdad, but they pulled through it and the wedding was gorgeous.
I think the key is having great vendors and good communication. Our main vendor totally fell apart and that was what really effed us up. 🙁
Post # 6
I’m doing an at home wedding! I obviously have no basis for comparison, but I don’t think it’s much more stressful than doing it at a more traditional venue. I don’t have the ferry issue, of course, and you’d have to make sure your guests could find rooms – I odn’t know how hard that is to do (or how expensive) in Nantucket. But otherwise, I encourage you to go for it! A home wedding can be so personal and lovely.
Post # 7
Also not our property, but have a very DIY, bring it all in venue and while we have no parking issues and I am not even married yet, even for the unique venue had I known then what I know now and the beginning of the planning process I wouldn’t have done what we’ve planned.
Doable, beautiful and I am excited for our day, but I wouldn’t choose it if I had to start over.
Post # 8
And @bakerella: what a beautiful wedding your friend had! Totally stunning
Post # 9
I think outdoor weddings usually end up being a bit more labor intensive…
Post # 10
Fiance and I are planning the wedding at his family’s country house, well basically in the field NEAR the house, so it will be a ridiculous amount of work, but I think it will totally be worth it. I say go for it.
Having said that, I can completely understand your concern, Nantucket is SMALL (but beautiful)… I think if you can figure out how to get it done then do it. 🙂
My cousin had her wedding on an island in Maine and just had 2 water taxis make a trip at the end of the night and all of the guests went back to the mainland. That said, it was pretty calm water (in a bay) and the restaurant that the reception was at had a dock so it was really easy to get back and forth.