Post # 1
My friend is marrying a pretty awesome guy in about a month. I’m planning a Bachelorette Party for next week and could really use some help in figuring out a few things.
We’re doing dinner at a restaurant, which is all set. I already called in the reservation (and the manager was really nice). The issue is with the drinks and movies we’ll be doing afterwards.
There were about 15 people invited. Of them, about 4 are unable to attend at all. I’m still waiting to hear from 1 person about whether she can attend, but I’m assuming she won’t be able to (she has a daughter, lives a few hours away by car, and the Bride doesn’t think she can make it). The remaining people can make it for dinner.
Of the people going to the dinner, I know of only three people who will definitely be doing drinks after: me, the Bride, and another BM. Two people (her mom and FMIL) already let me know they can’t make the drinks portion. The rest of them never mentioned if they would be able to make the drinks portion. That means we could be planning drinks and snacks for 3-8 people.
Here’s the issues:
A. I have no idea how much stuff to buy. I’m guessing that I should aim to have more stuff than needed, but I honestly have no clue how much snacks or drinks to get. I have a recipe for martinis I plan to use, so would it be a good idea to get enough liquor and juice to make 30 servings (or 3 drinks each for 10 people)?
B. I’m thinking that I’m going to get some bags of popcorn (like kettlecorn or Smart popcorn) to have with the movies. How many bags of that do you think would be good?
C. I’m probably going to bring a case of bottled water (in case anyone who shows up doesn’t want to drink), but I was wondering if I should offer another type of liquor as well. Like beer or Mike’s Hard Lemonade?
I’d really appreciate any help offered. I’d like to try and keep costs down since I’m paying for this all myself. I’ve never been to a Bachelorette Party and I have never planned a party before, so I really want to make sure I do this well.
Post # 3
@LoggerHead91207: I would call everyone one last time to be sure, tell them what your doing and “i need to know i dont want to buy so much and people not show”. there is nothing wrong with that. A.Yes, hey if they dont show you can not make that many or get slosh drunk 🙂 still a fun time..lol
B. Go to SamsClub or something and get like 2 boxes the bigger boxes. Popcorn has a great shelf life if you want get 3, i dint think you would use more then 1 box though even with 8 people
C. back to the head count, if your coming what do you drink “im getting a list of things people would like, would you be able to pick something up” (no reason you have to pay for it all)
– I would also get like chips and salsa, maybe crackers and peparoni, but thats just me i dont eat popcorn and if thats all your having ide be kinda hungry…what about pizza? or chineese? I would get your head count and ask if they are willing to bring anything (even if its the case of water 5 bucks is 5 bucks and you mite need it for liquor or something else!
Post # 4
@LoggerHead91207: How come you’re paying on your own? Can you ask the other BM’s to chip in a bit?
Also–those people who responded for dinner but not for drinks–did they just RSVP yes? Or did they specifically say “I’m coming to dinner.” Because if they just RSVP’ed yes, I would assume they were RSVP’ing for the entire evening.
As far as drinks go…. I would get an assortment of things to drink rather than just martinis. How heavily do these girls drink? Is this a sleepover or are they planning on driving home? The amount of alcohol you’ll need is going to depend on the circumstances. But let’s say you think you’ll have 10 guests including yourself and the bride, and you’ll each have 3 drinks. I would get maybe a case or two of beer, a couple bottles of wine, and liquor and mixers for one drink of choice (i.e. your martinis). That might run you $75-$100.
For snacks, everyone has already eaten at dinner, right? So you don’t need much. Personally, to make things interesting I might pair some tortilla chips with a dip, like buffalo chicken dip. To save money, don’t even use chicken… just mix cheddar cheese, hot sauce, and cream cheese together in the microwave. Turns out GREAT, I promise. Then I would probably do a plate of cheese, apples, and grapes. Then I might add something sweet, like cupcakes, which can be pretty cheap to bake out of the box. Just one batch — you can dye the cupcakes and/or the frosting in different colors to make it kind of festive.
Don’t be shy to ask the other bridesmaids to chip in, though. Any time I’ve been a BM, we’ve all split the bachelorette party costs.
Post # 5
@LilySarah: Two of the people (her mom and FMIL) will be attending the dinner and not drinks. They mentioned that to me on the phone. At least one of the girls mentioned she isn’t sure if she’ll be able to make the drinks portion, but she will be there for the dinner. The Bride will be there (it’s her apartment), as will I and another BM who is driving down for the weekend and staying with her. As for everyone else attending, none of them said whether it was just for the dinner or not (I’m guessing that they will be coming for the drinks).
I have no clue how much anyone drinks. I really don’t know any of the people invited well, so I’m just guessing at this. I’m not a big drinker myself (I’ll do maybe one drink and be fine with that), but your suggestion for having a bunch of different drinks (and scaling back on the amounts of each) is a really good one! And as far as I know the Bride is open to having people stay over if needed, but I didn’t mention it when I called because I didn’t know at the time (this was really a last minute thing that I’m throwing together; long story).
How come you’re paying on your own? Can you ask the other BM’s to chip in a bit?
There are five BMs (myself included) and one MOH. The MOH hosted the Bridal Shower herself and didn’t ask for anything from the rest of us, so I don’t feel right asking for anything from her (plus she and her husband are unemployed at the moment).
Out of the others: 2 can’t attend, 1 is unemployed (and is already spending money to get here), and the other one just used a bunch of money she had budgeted for the wedding day to buy a bunch of shoes (I try not to judge, but the Bride was kind of hurt when she called her to ask that she cancel all the salon services she had voluntarily signed up for; I volunteered to do the extra services with the Bride after that because I felt horrible she would be there by herself).
I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking the two who can’t make it for money and I definitely don’t feel comfortable asking the MOH or BM who are unemployed. As for the other BM, I don’t feel like she would be that reliable to be honest. I don’t want to ask her to do something and then have it not happen for some reason.
Post # 6
@AndysCraftsNmore: That’s what I was thinking! I figure if there’s anything left over I can see about just making more for the people there or just give it to the Bride. If there’s too much then I can always bring some of it home too.