(Closed) Planning Bees… How do you focus on anything else beside the wedding?!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know if there is an escape. The only time that I’m not thinking about wedding stuff is when I’m working out. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s all very new and exciting in the beginning, more than likely you have been dreaming about your wedding since you were a little girl, so it makes sense that you are diving right into it! You are on the wedding/engaged high, eventually it will level out. You’ll still be googling centerpiece ideas, esty stuff, and all things wedding but it will calm down.  As for your friends, if you feel like you might be bombarding them a bit, just tone it down…or you can ask your friends if it bothers them. If they say you are getting a little obsessed, don’t take it personally. More than likely if they are married/engaged they will understand though! 

You’ll go through times where the planning is crazy and then there are months when you are in a lull. Then it will go back to crazy. Just like life!

Oh and don’t worry, eventually there will come a time where you need a weekend with your FH where you feel that you won’t want to talk about the wedding at all! lol We just did that the past 2 weekends since now we are jumping into buying a house and have 6 months to the wedding 😉 It’s always good to take actual “couple time” and remind yourself why you are getting married, bc you want to be with this wonderful person for the rest of your life!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think about wedding stuff all the time!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

what other things?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have less than 2 months left to go and it is comsuming my whole life… but I am trying my hardest not to let it consume my friends lives too!  However, my family, they will suffer.  Tongue Out

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@BHB0526:  You need to find an escape, or in 11 months from now you’ll be posting about how depressed you are because the wedding/honeymoon is over.

It’s normal to look forward to things like weddings and honeymoons (yay vacation!), but I think you need to put it into perspective. Like the wedding is a few hours, so if you find yourself going on and on about one particular aspect, ask yourself how much it REALLY matters in the grand scheme of things. And be careful not to piss people off.. a lot of people get turned off by excessive wedding talk. The Bee is a great outlet for that when you’ve got wedding on the brain lol.

Dedicate some time (just you or you and your FI) to NOT talk about the wedding. Some guys wonder what the heck happened to their girlfriend as soon as the ring went on her finger.

What sorts of things did you enjoy prior to being engaged? Keep those activities up. Maybe start a new fitness regimen to get healthy/toned for the wedding if you haven’t already. Make time for friends (and don’t talk about the wedding!). Etc.

It is a big part of your life, but you want to avoid the post-wedding blues. Try to always have something to look forward to that isn’t wedding related. I also suggest planning something for after the honeymoon, maybe a mini trip or something a couple of months later.

My SO and I always have vacations planned so that when one ends, we have the next to look forward to. It makes the post-vacation blues more more bearable.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I need to switch off I just take my horse out. Other then that when I’m teaching I don’t think of anything to do with the wedding, other than that there is no escape!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I don’t. I have no idea what I’ll be doing when it’s done!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It totally goes in cycles. 🙂

8-11 months out, it was the summer between my junior and senior year and that was ALL I THOUGHT ABOUT.

4-7 months out I was extremely busy with school and we had taken care of a lot of the important stuff anyway, so I didn’t obsess over it quite so much.

About 3 months out was my winter break between semesters and I went in to wedding planning overdrive. 😛

Then two months out it was quiet again, until just a couple of weeks before the wedding at which point I had total wedding brain up until the day of.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Mine comes and goes in waves. Today =  a wedding day, as evident by the fact that I am on weddingbee typing this, at this very moment.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BHB0526:  LOL Yes! Reading helps too. I’m reading two non-fiction books and a book for our pre-marital class.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well I, like you, started planning immediately. Eventually I got so anxious I moved my date up 2 months! I am constantly doing wedding stuff in between my work stuff. Like @emf51912:,  I am trying not to let it consume the lives of others around me, including family. So, that’s probably why I am so into it. I have 5 months left and although I have enjoyed the process a lot, I am over it! Eventually you will be over it too. Just enjoy the excitement now, but remember, you have a life outside of you and your fiance and your wedding, and a job that depends on your skills. Dont jeopardize either, just try to balance it a bit more and enjoy the ride.

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