Post # 1
Hi Hive! I’m so excited to get started wedding planning but I feel like I have a very unique set of circumstances I’m starting under. I’m hoping you all will share your funny preproposal planning stories with me so I know I’m not the only one!
See, my darling boyfriend hasn’t actually proposed yet but he’s planning to in October (he’s not the best at keeping secrets) and because we decided on a wedding for next July in my home town (his idea I might add!) which is ACROSS THE COUNTRY from where we currently live, he is encouraging me to start the planning process before the ring is on my finger. This may or may not be a result of my repeated proclaimations of “Oh my God! How am I supposed to plan a wedding in less than a year that is to be hand crafted and EPIC from 3,000 miles away!?!?!”
But now, how do I even start? We’ve outlined a budget (and we shall live and die by the budget) and started saving a set amount every week but that’s really it! I’m sending my amazing MOH to scout venues for me (after narrowing it down online to a select few) in the near future but I feel like anything beyond that and my hands are really tied.
Really, the soonest I can get back home is in January and that would mean I’d be trying to finalize a lot of things only seven months before the wedding! I have ideas for photographers but I hesitate to contact them before I have a venue and an exact date (we’re fairly flexible right now but shooting for July 27th. ) — any ideas, Hive? Anyone else planning from so far away? Any fellow pre-ring planners out there? I cannot wait to get to know you all!
Post # 3
We knew what we wanted before we got engaged. Guest list, venue, colours, centrepieces etc, but we didnt start planning ( ie. paying deposits) until after.
Post # 4
I’m planning my wedding from 12 hours away. Here was my order:
Florist/DJ/Makeup/Hair/Rentals/Stationary/Hotel blocks/DOC (order is not important with these)
All I can say is look everyone up on Yelp/FB/Weddingbee for reviews and email, email, email those vendors. Once you narrow it down to 2, set up a phone or skype chat and pick your favorite. Don’t worry about people saying “oh wow, that’s really far away.” Its not- a lot of people don’t realize that by the time you’d be able to meet in person, it would be too late to book them. Then, when you’re able to go back to visit, schedule a whirlwind tour of vendor meetings.
I have done this and now have nothing left to book, and it feels good to have it all taken care of. Granted, I was engaged when I started planning, but FI has given you the green light so start looking at reviews online!
Post # 5
Seems like you have step 1 budget out of the way. Now you really need the venue, so you can know exactly what date your wedding will be. I booked my venue and all major vendors 13 months out and still missed out on 1 or 2 of my top vendors since they were already booked – and this is for a March wedding (off-season), so you may have to be flexible with who your vendors are since it’s already less than a year out.
It can be done, though! Good luck!
Post # 6
Thanks so much for all the tips @MrsWBS and @MsLouella! @Zouave Congrats on having all your ducks in a row! Its nice to know it’s possible! 🙂
Post # 7
@MsJess204: We haven’t really planned but did discuss a few things that I thought could be contentious but it turns out we agreed! But I wouldn’t set a date without making sure close family could make it, and we can’t set a budget without talking to our parents (he is a double degree grad student; I was a grad student too but now I am disabled and unable to work, so we aren’t financially independent for 3 more years.) I think we will have to have a longish engagement logistically so it’s good that I have to sit on my hands even though the ring box is sitting on the desk torturing me (he put it there after showing it to my
friend who just visited. We are also planning to get engaged in October too so we don’t have too long to wait! In your case, planning totally makes sense.
Post # 8
We started planning pre-ring but we were engaged I guess you could say. We just decided to get married and waited to get me a ring I loved in our budget, which I got months after we started planning btw LOL.