Post # 1
So, we have been married for almost a year now and had planned on starting TTC in September/October this year. On a whim yesterday DH suggested we try this month (EEEEK!) If we are successful that changes our expected due date from late June/July to late December –when it will be freezing outside! What is everyone’s consensus for best time of year to plan for baby’s arrival?
Post # 3
I thought I was the only ne that wanted to plan the time my baby was born lol I want to have mine May/June.
Post # 4
honestly, I wouldn’t worry about that at all babies will come when they come!
I live in TX, and mine is coming 8/30. Is that “ideal”? Probably not, especially with 9/1 being the school cut off, and TX HEAT, but he or she will still be a major blessing.
Plus, if you wait to TTC until the “ideal time”, then you might be even MORE disappointed if it doesn’t happen right away, which can be hard enough as is.
With that being said, you have to take into consideration your lifestyle. When would it be easiest to miss work? What activities (walks outside, etc) do you see yourself doing with baby? What is the climate in your area? If you can’t take much maternity, would maternity near holidays work out better (paid days off)?
I don’t want to imply you aren’t taking it seriously, but does ‘on a whim’ made me nervous….Does mean you already have your finances, pre-conception visit, prenatal vitamins for months, etc. in order?
Post # 5
Okay so I do not have kids, not TTC for a year or so… BUT… BFF and other Mom-of-2 friend and I just had this discussion. Mom-of-2 had both her girls the end of October. She said it was hard being on maternity leave and staying home for the winter months with them as babies. She did say it’d be nice to be on maternity leave when it was warmer, easier to take them out and nicer weather. She said she didn’t leave the house much. But I imagine with the first one, they’re lots of work anyway 🙂
No matter when they arrive, it’ll be a blessing and you’ll make it work, but figured I’d share that from this weekend since you mentioned it.
Post # 6
Yeah, my friend had her baby in January and was bummed that she had to stay cooped up inside because of the snow.
When we are ready, I hope to have it between April and September. Plus, I live in Seattle, where it rains from October to March. But then again, if we start having problems conceiving then, I’ll take any month.
Post # 7
Wow those are all really great points. I know that it might not happen for us right away and am fully preparing myself for that possibility which is why we aren’t telling anyone in real life. We have pretty cold/snowy winters and hot summers so it would be uncomfortable to be huge in summer months, but maybe scary to be close to winter for delivering a baby…what if I get snowed in and can’t make it to the hospital? I have actually been taking a multi-vitamin with folic acid for 2.5 months, am overall healthy at a healthy weight, and have one medicine that I have been told to stop taking if I were to suspect a pregnancy. Any other reason why I would need a preconception visit? Originally we had planned to wait because we were thinking of taking a trip this fall that would involve drinking but it’s currently looking like it’s cancelled…
Post # 8
pregnant women always say that they’re hot, so i’d rather be at my most pregnant when it’s cold outside. (if i got to pick). i’m in fl so i don’t have to deal with snow though.
Post # 9
Of course if we waited, and didn’t get pregnant right away this fall it could get pushed even further into summer and that would mean more months in the worse heat of summer. I have a really long walk from my car to the building where I work which would be quite uncomfortable 35 pounds heavier I would imagine. Ultimately I guess it’s silly to worry about since I have little control.
Post # 10
ha. My husband thought I was silly thinking like this. But I have them ranked.
1st Choice: mar/apr/may
2nd Choice: feb/sept/oct
3rd Choice: june/july/aug
4th Choice: nov/dec/jan
It’s easiest to work backwardswith my reasoning. Trying to avoid a Christmas/holiday baby. Mainly so the baby/child doesn’t have to share their special day – but also because I am so stressed around the holidays the idea of also trying to put together a birthday party is not something I want to add to the list 🙂
That’s really the biggest deal for me… the others I don’t feel as strongly about.
june/july/aug get 3rd because it’s summer. Not in school to celebrate birthday’s with friends. Plus possibility of birthday over lapping with summer vacations plans. Also usually end of being youngest in class. Everyone else is 13 before them. Again – not really a HUGE deal 🙂 Plus I guess the being preggo all summer.. but I’m starting to think that won’t be so bad.
Mar/Apr/May I think just qualify as my fav time of year… so those get first. Plus if we miss the mark there’s still plenty of time to try and avoid my dreaded 4th choice. Ha.
The others get 2nd by default.
Like others say though. Babies will come when they come. There’s no magic sauce to make this all line up. Even if you have a Feb due date – the baby may come in Dec 🙂
I was aiming for March and ended up with August. I’m actually excited about being pregnant in the summer. I love summery dresses and I’m sure they’ll be super comfy! I did just think about swolen feet and flips flops the other day… no way to hide any swelling if that happens. Oh well. I’m just excited to meet this little one in a couple months!
And – I’m already planning for our second round of TTC to aim for a Mar/Apr/May 2012 baby. ha. Yes I’m silly and like to plan.
PS I know all my reasoning is silly – but it was my thought process!
Post # 11
From personal experience, I think it is somewhat important to take your schools’ cut off date into consideration (something I never thought about when conceiving). My daughter is the youngest in her class, just barely making the cut off. She had JUST turned 5 when starting kindergarten, when some of the kids were nearly a full year older and a lot bigger. I think next time I will try to have the baby not so close to the cutoff to give them more time to mature and be ready for school. Just my opinion!
Post # 12
The friends and family that I have spoken to about this, have generally said try to get pregnant around September/October (like you had originally planned). Their reasoning was because they thought being prego in the summer was brutal!
Post # 13
For me, right now would be ideal.. well, minus the whole, not married yet part. I would really like late nov/dec/early Jan. Both FI and I are mid Jan babies so maybe that will help, lol.
Basically, I can’t afford to give birth in the middle of wedding season, financially it would be really hard to loose my income.
Post # 14
I actually have been thinking about this a lot (not planning on TTC for 5 years after the wedding lol), but I know that I don’t want to be all cooped up inside and I don’t like the idea of trying to drive on slick roads/walk around with a newborn and yet I don’t want to have the wee one during the summer, because that’s THE busy season, so it just depends on how it works out. We’ll probably try for sometime in March/April so that it’s early enough not to interfere with my work or my FI’s, but late enough that I won’t spend everyday inside and freezing my butt off.
Post # 15
Statistically speaking… 85% of couples trying to conceive will get pregnant within 1 year. However, the average time it takes to actually conceive is 6 months. Although it’s fun to hope to conceive right away and have your baby a specific month, just keep in mind that it on average, it takes a while!
Post # 16
I don’t really have feelings on best time of year, but I do want our children to be spaced out. So my first was born in February (very cold here!!!!!) by accident, so no planning which month. With our next though, we would like to have him/her more in the summer to space them out. I think anytime of year has its pros and cons. Good luck!!!!