Post # 1
So it is just 59 short days until our beautiful day! We got engaged a year and 2 days ago. I can not beleive it! Time has flown! My fiance and myself have been dating for going on five years now. It amazes me how much we have grown when i look back.
We have been planning and working on wedding stuff for a year now and it REALLY does not seem like it! I have recently realized that the wedding day is approaching very fast! I have caught myself wondering what in the world will i do after? After the wedding, and the honeymoon we will be back to normal life… what then? What will i do to keep myself busy? What will i do to continue to make life fun? I hate how i worrry so much, but i cant help it.
The scariest thought is that i will be bored and miserable. What will i have to look forward to, other than kids that is… lol Of course children are an exciting thought, but why rush the process of birthing a child when i will just be left in the same situation after they are grown and gone?
Post # 2
Do you have any other hobbies? Crafting, sports, volunteering, etc? Wouldn’t you just go back to doing those things (or start a new one!)
How much time do you spend planning each day?
Post # 3
Is there something that you used to do but don’t? Something you’ve always wanted to try? I plan to re-learn to crochet when wedding planning is done. No jokes!
Post # 4
Eh honestly the wedding has been such a stressful factor for the last three years that i am going to be over the moon when i dont have to worry about it anymore. It will be nice to start working on turning our wedding room into a nursery for those “someday” babies, focus on getting money saved up, and enjoy being married without so much stress on my head. Just to come home from work, sit on the couch and watch tv or play on FB without having to concern myself with programs or tying tiny ribbons
Post # 5
liveyourlife77: You say you’ve been together for 5 years…what did you do BEFORE you had a wedding to plan?? Go back to that!!
Post # 6
I would take up a hobby! Maybe gardening!
Post # 7
Oh, I don’t know…how about working? Volunteering? Hobbies? Sports/exercise? A pet? Pretty much anything that everyone else does to keep themselves busy? :-/
I realize that post-wedding can be a bit of a comedown for a lot of people…but if you’re really worried about being bored and miserable afterward, then that sounds like a pretty deep issue. The whole point of the wedding is to end up married after all, right? The big party is just an extra bonus.
Post # 8
How about just taking it one day at a time? Volunteer somewhere, decorate your house, organize your closet, take cooking classes. I would love to have this problem. Getting married is much more than a planning a party. Do you work?
Post # 9
You’ll have tons of free time to write thank you notes!!! Yay!!!!
Post # 10
Do you really spend all day every day planning your wedding and not have a job or hobbies or volunteer activities to fill your time? I’m confused about this. I understand wedding planning takes a lot of time, but to be afraid you’re going to be “bored and miserable” because you don’t have a wedding to plan is…strange.
My advice: get a hobby, a job, or a volunteer cause you’re passionate about. Not having any of these for the sake of planning a wedding is just detrimental to yourself.
Post # 12
Are you actually asking what you’ll do and how you’ll keep busy after your wedding?!…You’ll live your life. Just as you did before you started wedding planning.
If you become bored and miserable because a wedding was all you had to look forward to, then that’s an issue you need to address.. no one here can help you with that one.
Post # 11
Man I’m excited that I’m done planning 🙂 It wasn’t very stressful AT ALL, but it just took up all my time. I’m looking forward to being able to get back to yoga on a regular basis, catch up on some bad TV, actually see my friends! Plus my husband’s triathlon season will be picking up shortly and I’m a pro specathlete! Don’t worry, you’ll find things to fill your time.
Post # 13
what did you do before wedding planning? wedding planning didn’t consume me and i planned my wedding in 7.5 months.
after DH and I got back from the honeymoon, i cleaned the house and put all the wedding gifts away, reorganized my kitchen. life went back to normal except that i am married.
i work, go to the gym, go bike riding when it is above 35 degree, go out with DH, go out with friends, etc. there are plenty of things to do.
Post # 14
liveyourlife77: op, i’m not trying to threadjack with this post
lizardloo: i am a triathlete, i almost got my DH this shirt to wear at my races when we were still BF/GF. you should surprise your DH with it at his next race.
Post # 15
liveyourlife77: If you really enjoy the process of wedding planning, I think you should keep planning things such as dinner parties for friends and family or trips to go on with your FI.
I would really suggest volunteering for anyone and everyone–do good for the community you live in. It’s so rewarding to volunteer for a cause one believes in. I truly believe it gives back ten-fold.
Other than that, you will have more time to spend picking up other hobbies (for ex reading, writing, drawing, learning a new language, gardening, cooking, sewing, knitting, scrapbooking, traveling, etc) as well as spending more time with your friends and family and generally living your life.