- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
DH and I have been married for a month now, and naturally, baby talk has come up. We are still planning on waiting a while, but have no real, firm timetable – probably within 2 years or so. We are young, and in no rush.
DH’s job requires him to travel and work out of state 6 months a year. It’s not a normal job that requires travel – he won’t be home hardly ever during those six months, maybe once or twice for a few days, that’s it. I usually try to fly or drive and see him for a week every month, work/schedule/finances willing.
I have no idea how having a baby is going to work. His job is not going to change, and although he is willing to give it up should it become necessary, he truly loves it and it is his passion, and although the distance saddens me at times, I could never see it being hard enough for me to ask him to quit.
For at least the next few, me working, at least part time, is most definitely a necessity – which is fine, I love working! My job is really flexible in the fact that I can take time off to travel, and work from home as needed/desired.
I’m worried about all of the things he is going to miss when we do get pregnant. 6 months is a long time, and no matter what or how we “time” things, he is going to miss a lot. How do we decide what he will miss? Timeline wise, he’s going to miss a big chunk of the pregnancy, whether toward the beginning, middle or end. And it’s just going to be the same every year – from March-September, he will just not be here. It makes me sad to start thinking about that part of our future.
He seems to think it will be feasible for to travel with him frequently after we have a baby – like that will be fun, LOL. He is only in the same city for 3-7 days at a time, and it is stressful for me to work around the schedule when I go see him by myself, let along traveling with a baby.
I guess I don’t really have any questions, I just wanted to vent and whine a little bit, LOL.