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We set a date and booked our venue before I had the ring. Some of my friends thought I was crazy - especially my other engaged friend - but in my area, you gotta get on that s**t early or you'll get shut out.
We brainstormed pre-ring. We ended up doing something TOTALLY different than what we first imagined, though.
The only pre-planning I will do before the actual engagement is research research research!! Oh, and we've picked the date. Other than that, I (personally) do not feel comfortable doing anything official. However, once that ring is on my finger, I will go into overdrive! :)
I already had the date, ceremony and reception location, photographer, and hotel rooms block booked before my fiance officially asked and gave me a ring. He had ordered a ring to be custom made (I knew this was happening), but it was taking longer than originally anticipated. He knew I wanted to get married next summer and wanted close to a year to plan as locations in our area are booked well in advance, so he asked my dad for his blessing and once that was done, he told me I could start planning (which my mom and I certainly did!). It was so cute though that he was still nervous when he proposed two months later eventhough he knew exactly what my answer was going to be!
We talked to our parents about it before the ring because we had to talk budget. If they couldn't help us have a biggish wedding in town, we were thinking of eloping on the beach. Once my mom was in, she was all about calling her vendor friends to get estimates which led to booking the venue because her friend offered it for free. The ring came within a couple weeks and by then word had spread so I don't think anyone was surprised. Oh well!
It's all research for me too. The most I've done is work on the backyard because it *might* be used for a reception and it's a mess, and clean some of the vintage glass jars from my parents' collection because they're a mess too. But both those things are nice to do anyway. Nothing counts until he's in on the planning. :)
I totally look at what i want, pretty much planning my "dream" wedding. at least i'll be prepared when the time comes! my SO and i occasionally talk about what we both want, theres no enagement yet though.
I did some research but mostly as to decor and dresses and rings... not anything about vendors. I wish I had done more! I've been engaged now almost 2 months and I still have no idea what I want. lol
i'm just researching. all my ideas will be up for review and discussion once we're officially engaged because it is supposed to be reflective of us. but since i'm expecting a short engagment, any research i can get done now will pay off in the end!
i'm all research right now. lol i have an idea of what i want and everytime i run it by M he either thinks i'm crazy or hde doesn't like it lol! so i think i'll have to start all over when it's time because i'm not sure how he'll like anything i like.
We had our photographer, caterer, rentals, and a bunch of other stuff before the ring. Basically, almost all the big stuff! I wouldn't change it at all - it has made our actual engagement much easier!
I've been doing research for about a year now- but that's just the kind of person I am. I plan everything! If I actually use any of the research for my actual wedding, is another question.
Before FI were engaged, I knew it was coming. He was gone for 5 weeks in the beginning of the year, so to help time pass, I did a LOT of research.
When we actually got engaged, some of the excitement was gone. I urge you to try to hold off as long as you can!
We are planning, and aren't officially engaged! We already have the deposit on our venue, I bought my dress, my shoes arrived, but have to exchange them for a smaller size!, and have a lot of the other stuff planned too!
Only researching at this point. I have enough on my plate with three children, two dogs, full time job, part time writing job and law school. Lucky for me, my writing job deals with weddings, so I get paid to research about weddings and at the same time, I find ideas for friends, family and of course, myself.
Glad to see there are others 
.
At first, the few individuals I told were shocked but as long as your groom to be is on board (mine went to all the vendor meetings and co-signed every contract), I didn't see the issue.
It was sort of our little secret and it added a bit of romance to it all
I didn't plan at all. When I started anticipating a proposal I thought about weddings a little bit but didn't look at anything online and didn't buy any magazines. I was really looking forward to buying my first wedding magazine and I did the day after we got engaged, which felt very novel and fun!
we have already picked out 5 venues we are going to look at after the new year...we def wont be engaged by then...but here in charleston, sc since it is a destination wedding location...if you want a certain time of year...you best be booking at least 15 months in advance...and since we plan on getting married in april of 2011 (decision by both of us...not just me!) we need to get started ASAP!
I definitely did a lot of research and had a pretty clear idea of what I wanted. Now, after being engaged about 10 days, I feel like everything is pretty much planned, all I need to do is book it! And by everything I mean a destination wedding and at-home reception! It's a nice feeling that I don't have to worry about it and can relax and enjoy my fiance at this special time!
PS I have been pretty computer obsessed the past 10 days, but I don't have school or a job! Once I start up again, I know I will have NO time - so wedding planning has been my job lately :)
As soon as he bought the ring, we considered ourselves good as engaged and began planning. But he didn't want to officially announce it until he had formally proposed and given me the ring. Well, that finally happened on Saturday!! For us, it worked out perfect. I got to start planning (and got lots done in 2 months!) while he still held on to an element of surprise as I didn't know what he got or when I was getting it. I'll tell ya, though... keeping my mouth shut for the past 2 months has been rough! 
After announcing it to another group of his family on X-mas Eve, we can begin telling everyone (i.e. big announcement on Facebook ).
I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with planning as long as you KNOW the ring is bought. I would have felt funny putting deposits down and such without at least knowing that. Getting the ring and formal proposal in order to plan is only tradition, not law. So whatever peeps are comfortable with, go for it!
I've done some serious "pre-bling" planning.
My guy and I have picked our date (and chosen back-up dates should our venue be booked), chosen the style of ring and are going to "test-run" our venue next month (a very elaborate date night to scope the food and service on the dl) but a lot of people don't consider us official because I'm not wearing the ring yet.
It took me a long time to find a ring style I loved, some time to save up for it and a bit more time for my guy to decide which one he was actually going to purchase. My guy wants to do a "real" proposal so while I know it's coming I don't know when or where it'll happen.
Those of you that planned and set a date beforehand....Did any of your friends/family members get engaged in the meantime? How did you approach this (especially if they were getting married around the same time as you?) I had drama surrounding something like this right around the time of my wedding. My brother had gotten engaged and set a date which I guess was the date my husband's sister wanted (although she was NOT engaged). Drama ensued days before my wedding because of this.
I'm doing most, if not all, of my preplanning before the ring. We'll be planning in 5 months, ring to vows, so I have to be ready!
I've been doing lots and lots of research. I pretty much know that my guy will propose this year, so I'm happy to have done the research. Because of all the research, by the time we're engaged, it'll just be a matter of booking.
The ideas of what I thought would be in my wedding originally versus now, have changed quite a bit. With my Type A personality, I can't imagine having to get all the knowledge that I have now about weddings during the engagement process. It would have driven me crazy.
Research only, and only pretty mild at that. Like when I go to a beautiful place, I think it might be good for a ceremony, or VERY occasionally I'll look at ring designs and dresses. But I don't have pics or anything.
Honestly, I'm too scared to plan at all lest I jinx it. When a ring is safely on my finger... ;-)
I've mostly been doing research in areas I'm interested in (FOOD! PHOTOS! INVITES!) and trying to soak up information like a sponge. Also, I realized pretty early on that I want a wedding planner, and the boy gave me the go-ahead recently to contact some and see what their prices are like. It'll take us about 3 years to save up the money though, so there's no way we'll be ready to book for awhile yet!
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First I want to say I absolutely love that there is a waiting board and that all the ladies have somewhere to chat in anticipation and that they actually "graduate" when they get engaged. So jealous!
Anywho...
I'm curious, how many people began officially planning without the ring? We definitely planned pre-ring, although we only notified a few people that we were engaged. The reason we started pre-planning was simple, we knew we were getting married. I got the crazy notion that it had to be on NYE and HAD to be at one venue. PERIOD. They had the date and both ballrooms to select from. We ended up getting the one we wanted and I'm so glad that we did because literally within days of us securing our date, the other room booked.
We also selected the majority of vendors before the official proposal.
There were somethings I just wouldn't do without the announcement, ie. my dress.
I wish I had a board like this to vent and celebrate during that time. It was so exciting, yet I had to hold back for fear of people thinking I was insane.
So...who else planned before it became official? How much did you plan and what was everyone's reaction when you finally spilled the beans?