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    ArikkaLynn    June 6, 2010  

    I'm in the last two and 1/2 months of my planning and I'm so frustrated and irritated with it lately. I feel so overwhelmed by everything and I feel terrible, because I feel like I will get aggitated and snap at the wrong people, which is everyone because its no one's fault it's stressful. Anyone else feeling like this!?!?

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    I think a lot of us are feeling like this. I feel as though the stress has taken over and we are still five months out. I am constantly at my FI's throat but he knows why so we are making it through. Everything is so expensive and we are still trying to pay for it while planning every little detail and trying to please everyone at the same time. Just think you are almost at the finish line.

    My SIL was always miserable during her wedding planning and since they got married she is a completly different person. I tell her that I like the married her much better.

    It is just so sad that a lot of us just want it to be over with. It is such a wonderful occasion but the stress breaks us all down.

     

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Um, yes. IN a nutshell, I HATE planning. I'm tired of it being the only thing people are talking to me about. I'm tired of having to deal with vendors that kinda suck (and they're the best of them). I'm tired of my mom getting on my case about every. last. detail. I'm tired of having coordinate crap (BM dresses especially). I'm tired of trying to make this wedding beautiful when I don't want it to begin with! I want to be MARRIED, I don't care about the wedding!!!

     
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    ArikkaLynn    June 6, 2010  

    Couldn't agree with you ladies more. I hate this whole thing because the money is really stressing me out, and its not that we're having issues with it, but it's a lot of money for one day. I get so I feel so bad because I snap so quickly and then it makes other people like my mom, feel bad when they haven't done anything too terrible to deserve it. Sure she stresses me out, but she's my mom.

     
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    krissybee    October 15, 2011   :: chicago IL ::

    i definitely agree the topic of money causes me to stress and have anxiety for sure!!! My parents are paying for a portion of the wedding and trying to decide who pays for what has caused some fights between us already. and we are just started to get into the serious planning! i'm just trying to stay calm and believe everything will work out...trying to.

     
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    rachaelrobin    January 16, 2011   Philadelphia

    Yes, very much so.  I've just spent the past 3 months trying to book with a venue which is giving me the run-a-round...I'm not happy that you all are also feeling this way, but I am comforted to know that I am not the only one.

     
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    Osakagrl    May 8th 2010   Sacramento , CA

    I agree also. The first couple of months of planning I was on a complete high and everything is great. But now as I am about a month and a half out...Im just OVER it! I just want to show up and let be what may. Ive pretty much stopped planning for the most part. I am only doing the bare minimum and this has taken a lot of stress off. maybe try taking a small break? a week with no planning?

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    Definitely take breaks and don't stress about the details :) If you don't have fun doing it, it's not worth it, and all you really need for a great wedding is a venue, food, and some guests.  

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    Yup, been there.  Im a stressed out person in general.. with my salary being slashed for over a year now, FI in school and not working, econ in the toliet... so all this stuff on top of it has stressed me out.  I'm taking things one step at a time and trying my hardest to be more upbeat, because I WAS taking my stress out on other people.  I would snap at my FI, at my mom, at my co-workers.

    It's a stressful time, and I don't have a great stress reliever.. so I'm trying really REALLY hard to take things in stride, and tackle one issue at a time...  It's working so far.. but it's totally day to day.. good luck!

     
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    Mrs2theDr    April 16, 2010   Chicago, IL

    Yes ladies...its normal to feel this way...I would definitely say the last 3 months have been the most stressful and totally not fun. Now that we have only 32 days left I just dread anything wedding-related and can't til the planning is over...although I must say that my Bridal Shower did a pretty good job in boosting my morale and I am still excited for the day itself!

    Just hold on for a little while longer!

     

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