(Closed) Planning making you unhappy??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think a lot of us are feeling like this. I feel as though the stress has taken over and we are still five months out. I am constantly at my FI’s throat but he knows why so we are making it through. Everything is so expensive and we are still trying to pay for it while planning every little detail and trying to please everyone at the same time. Just think you are almost at the finish line.

My SIL was always miserable during her wedding planning and since they got married she is a completly different person. I tell her that I like the married her much better.

It is just so sad that a lot of us just want it to be over with. It is such a wonderful occasion but the stress breaks us all down.


Post # 4
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Um, yes. IN a nutshell, I HATE planning. I’m tired of it being the only thing people are talking to me about. I’m tired of having to deal with vendors that kinda suck (and they’re the best of them). I’m tired of my mom getting on my case about every. last. detail. I’m tired of having coordinate crap (BM dresses especially). I’m tired of trying to make this wedding beautiful when I don’t want it to begin with! I want to be MARRIED, I don’t care about the wedding!!!

Post # 6
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i definitely agree the topic of money causes me to stress and have anxiety for sure!!! My parents are paying for a portion of the wedding and trying to decide who pays for what has caused some fights between us already. and we are just started to get into the serious planning! i’m just trying to stay calm and believe everything will work out…trying to.

Post # 7
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Yes, very much so.  I’ve just spent the past 3 months trying to book with a venue which is giving me the run-a-round…I’m not happy that you all are also feeling this way, but I am comforted to know that I am not the only one.

Post # 8
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree also. The first couple of months of planning I was on a complete high and everything is great. But now as I am about a month and a half out…Im just OVER it! I just want to show up and let be what may. Ive pretty much stopped planning for the most part. I am only doing the bare minimum and this has taken a lot of stress off. maybe try taking a small break? a week with no planning?

Post # 9
1566 posts
Bumble bee

Definitely take breaks and don’t stress about the details 🙂 If you don’t have fun doing it, it’s not worth it, and all you really need for a great wedding is a venue, food, and some guests.  

Post # 10
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yup, been there.  Im a stressed out person in general.. with my salary being slashed for over a year now, Fiance in school and not working, econ in the toliet… so all this stuff on top of it has stressed me out.  I’m taking things one step at a time and trying my hardest to be more upbeat, because I WAS taking my stress out on other people.  I would snap at my Fiance, at my mom, at my co-workers.

It’s a stressful time, and I don’t have a great stress reliever.. so I’m trying really REALLY hard to take things in stride, and tackle one issue at a time…  It’s working so far.. but it’s totally day to day.. good luck!

Post # 11
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Yes ladies…its normal to feel this way…I would definitely say the last 3 months have been the most stressful and totally not fun. Now that we have only 32 days left I just dread anything wedding-related and can’t til the planning is over…although I must say that my Bridal Shower did a pretty good job in boosting my morale and I am still excited for the day itself!

Just hold on for a little while longer!

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