Post # 1
I got married in June. I had no help from my friends and since I had a destination wedding, my friend rejected being my bridesmaid. When I got back from my honeymoon we had a reception back home. This same friend said she had to study and wasn’t able to come to the reception. She didn’t send a card or present.
She just got engaged and sent me a message asking me to plan her ENTIRE wedding. I have a 9 month old and don’t have lots of extra time. She told me that she knows I will do great, but she doesn’t have lots of money so she can’t pay lots. How much can I charge her? Her wedding is the Fall of 2012 and I’ve already spent days putting together ideas and inspiration boards for her.
So how much did you ladies spend on a wedding planner. She wants me to be in charge of EVERYTHING. Since she is my friend, I feel bad for bringing up the subject of price… but I’m not in the position to donate hundreds and hundreds of hours of my time in the next year. I can’t do it unless I’m making money.
Post # 3
@omdela01: seriously, If i were you I would kindly decline. It sounds like this friend might be taking advantage of you. If you are really intent on doing this for her.. I would say 3-5K
Post # 4
I can see this getting messy as well….. I would probably decline …
Post # 5
Un fortunatly, I think this wil end up a negitive situation for you. The only way it would work is if whe paid you in full up front, but save yourself the trouble.
Post # 6
I agree with PP, I don’t see this ending well. You can help offer suggestions and let her know what worked for you but I wouldn’t participate in anything more than that.
Post # 7
I agree with declination…however, if you decide to do it anyways, I have a friend from HS helping with mine and she charged 1,000 and I was fine with that. But I am from Charleston and planners around here are upwards of 15,000….so, ya gotta account for what goes in that area. And also, she is not a full time planner….. part time then week of. Hope I’ve helped!!
Post # 8
If you do full time and help with everything, I say at least 2,000 if not a little more…..
Post # 9
As the PP said so well this is a dangerous situation you are getting into that could easily cause issues with the friendship.
A full time wedding planner can cost anywhere from 2,000-5,000 depending on the area.
That being said if she has told you up front that she “doesn’t have a lot of money” it is quite clear (to me anyway) that she has high expectations without paying you for what your efforts are worth. This can easily leave you feeling resentful and burned out.
Post # 10
I agree with PPs. I would politely decline.
Post # 11
You’ll be charging nothing because you’ll be saying no.
Post # 13
Instead of saying “no” without even knowing how much she’d be able to pay, I would tell her what you think is a fair price. If she says she can only pay a certain amount, maybe tell her what you can reasonably do for that price point (maybe only help with some early stage planning or something like that).
Post # 14
It sounds like, to me anyways, when she stated up front that she doesn’t have a lot of money to spend that she was hoping you would do it for free. Just say no if you want to save your sanity.
Post # 15
Since you are planning you should know her budget- go from there. But I wouldn’t do this at all.