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Youre NOT alone! i basically planned our wedding before we were actually engaged, contacted vendors.. and all. We decided on our wedding date before we were officially engaged too lol! I actually (pre-ring) booked our ceremony venue! And after we got engaged went right to the booking because we already had so many thing settled :)
Oh this is perfectly normal for us ladies to start planning before he pops the question. When FI proposed I presented him 3 venue quotes and my ideas for decoration.
We're keeping our engagement a secret for a while, so by the time we tell people we'll have some things already booked.
@MrsNeutrino: I'm glad to hear i'm not the only one! I just feel that by getting things ready (if only in my head), it will help relieve stress in the future. Thanks for the reply!
@Coffee cup: I love that you already had it narrowed down to 3 venues and had prices when he proposed. :)
Somebody said this a couple days ago and it really struck a chord - something along the lines of "dont steal this from your future self". I butchered it, but to be honest, planning a wedding WHILE engaged (not before) is so much fun...and totally different than before I got engaged. My entire color scheme changed, my locale changed, everything changed once I got engaged. This is partly thanks to the fact that I have someone else to think about (aka my Fiance), but also due to my new and actual budget and ideas I've seen.
My advice is to daydream but not contact anymore vendors or make too many plans. You're stealing this experience from yourself in the end. :)
@KristenGotMarried: dido
When my husband :) proposed, i did the same thing as you are doing, i planned in my head and kinda had an idea about what i wanted, he was kinda upset that i didnt wait to plan with him. He wanted to be a part of it (which i would NEVER expect from him). Plus like the last post, it is totally different when you are actually engaged.
So, i would say plan only in your head, dont make anything final or get too far into anything until your future hubby can have some input :) DAYDREAM AWAY!!
@KristenGotMarried: Totally
By the time he proposed we were able to go look at the venues and make a decision, now instead of having options I just run everything by him and make decisions.
My best friends sister planned ahead and so am I. My SO and I have been together for 4 1/2 years and I have been browsing wedding ideas for almost a year. I finally found the perfect venue last month. I think its good to have an idea ahead of time, so when you are finally engaged you have had longer than months to plan. I have everything budgeted, colors picked out, dress styles I like, etc... When we do get engaged all i have to do is pick an official date, put a deposit down on the venue, and find all the things i already know i want. It can be very overwhelming if you have no idea of what you want until after you are engaged. It doesn't hurt to pre plan :)
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Am I the only one?? Sometimes I feel crazy! My boyfriend and I have only been together for 16 months, but we're both ready for marriage. We are already living together, along with his 5 year old daughter. We have talked about rings and he knows the style I like (asscher cut!!). I know he hasn't bought the ring yet, but i also know we will be engaged within 6 months. I never thought I wanted a wedding, and always thought I would elope. But recently I decided I'd like a small, intimate backyard wedding. Then I became hooked on sites like weddingbee, stylemepretty, and greenweddingshoes. I have SO many ideas for my future wedding, down to the last detail (rustic/vintage is my favorite style). My boyfriend knows a little about this, but does not know the extent of my craziness! I've even emailed a few photographers to get pricing info. It's starting to drive me crazy because I have so many ideas, but don't want to talk to my friends about any of them until I'm at least engaged! Can anyone else feel my pain?? Oh, to be engaged... :)