Planning my wedding for the first time

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Bride2Bee2015:  Congratulations, and welcome!  There are lots of resources to  help you – books, magazines, family members, and friends, who have gone through it before.  I would start by determining your budget, and what general kind of wedding you want.  What size?  How formal?  Local, or destination?

I would also discuss, together, who should be in your wedding party, and how big it should be.  This is something we handled badly.  If you have a good relationship with them, get your parents’ perspectives, since their experience, and indsight can be very valuable.

My biggest piece of advice, throughout the process, and this is because of my mistakes, not how perfectly I did it, is to be very considerate, and charitable, toward family.  Yes, it is your wedding, but it is special for your loved ones too, because they care about the important things in your life.  You don’t have to (and can’t) please everyone, all the time, but you should definitely care about how they feel, and the messages your actions, and decisions, send.

Post # 4
Member
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Bride2Bee2015:  You are still a ways out, but it wouldn’t hurt to decide on some major stuff like venue, photographer, or DJ. I’d start with that 🙂

Post # 5
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bride2Bee2015:  congratulations on your engagement and welcome to the bee!

You’ll find lots of helpful people here with great advice on what to do.

I would start with a rough guest list – and a budget.  Those 2 things will decide a lot about your wedding planning 🙂

Post # 6
Member
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Bride2Bee2015:  you need to make a budget (weddingwire.com is awesome for that), find a venue, and make a guest list.  

Post # 7
Member
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Budget and guest list first. Who’s coming and at what price. Then use a budget calculator as a guideline

Post # 8
Member
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @Bride2Bee2015:  As this is your DEBUT post here… a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I would say the main stuff to nail down early is:

  • Date
  • Venue
  • Budget
  • Guest List

All of these are contingent on one another… Budget is most certainly the one thing that is going to effect ALL your Wedding Plans.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 10
Hostess
9919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bride2Bee2015:  wow!  you’re on top of things!  I’m only 4 months away and I don’t have my officiant booked yet!  (although we’re meeting our top choice on Sunday)

Post # 11
Member
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

That’s good advice from @MsGinkgo: I would add that, before working on the list of people, to think about how many guests you want at your wedding – that can really affects the cost, so it is also related to budget.

If you have a big budget, and you want to invite everyone you can think of, there is totally nothing wrong with that, and you don’t need to worry about it.  But, if you do want, or need, to limit the guest list, it’s easier to set a number when it’s still just a number, not a list of people.

Post # 12
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Woah! You are seriously on top of things!

You can check out decor and flower ideas!

Post # 13
Member
2895 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Bride2Bee2015:  You seem to be very on top of it!  I don’t think it’s never to early to start looking at venders that you want (DJ’s, caters, photographers and flowerists)  People that book up are always a great start, espeically when you are in a high volume wedding month (June is a very high volume wedding month!) 

 

But my best advice is to take some time to enjoy being engaged.  It’s never a bad idea to sit back and enjoy just being with your FI and that your wedding is coming!

 

Post # 14
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Bride2Bee2015:  You’ll want to book photographer and DJ/band next!  The good ones tend to book up a year in advance.  🙂

Post # 15
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3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

And, since your guest list is set, you can ignore my advice on it, lol.

You guys are way on top of things.  If you don’t have a budget figured out, I would do that next (noticed it wasn’t in your list, but you may have it well in hand already).  

And of course, make sure the groom is on top of his attire!  I will have no shortage of input there if you’d like to ask 😛

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