Planning the wedding alone…..

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

simone_s:  I am in the same situation. I am doing everything by myself but that’s mainly because my fiance doesn’t know a single thing about weddings, and some things are a surprise, my mother has been busy with her own life, my two best friends are completely jealous and bitter I am getting married so this is half the reason we are eloping, and then a reception 5 days later, so I am without a bridal party. I just do it. I have just over 4 weeks to go and it is a little stressful but I am not upset about any of that. I am excited to see it all come together and at the end of the day I can be very proud of myself for doing everything. I’m even altering my own wedding dress. Maybe I am a crazy person.

Post # 3
10 posts

I  completely understand where you are coming from …my wedding is july 2014.i felt the same way i think everyone goes through different emotions while planning & even morevwhen you don’t have the support of family..people you think would be there for ya… i have a big family who always talked about our wedding but when it came time to planning and giving support …no one is here..i have 2 bms who hasn’t even gotten their dresses..a brother who doesn’t want to pay for his tux…my mother may check in & see where i’m at in the planning process…my future mil  did get us a photographer & videographer but she hasn’t chime in much since…so i’m at the point i just don’t care..i tried to include everyone so no one felt left out..but we have to understand some people hate when its not about them..some could even be bitter/jealous…but its our they can get with the program or get lost!!! Is how i feel now..trying to enjoy my last weeks of planning & be stress free…take everything in before the my advice is to focus on your wedding & fiance ..enjoy your time planning!! 

Post # 4
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Columbia, SC

simone_s:  I am planning ours alone and could not be happier but I like to be in charge of things like this anyway, so I probably would not take too much advice from anyone else. 

Post # 5
23 posts

I would just try and embrace planning by yourself, in the end it will prolly be less stressful because you’ll have less opinions and drama.  Just do your thing and try to enjoy yourself 

Post # 6
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I actually enjoyed planning it alone – less drama and I didn’t have to please anyone but myself. Like Tanleggedjulient I like to be in charge and couldn’t be happier. My wedding is in a week and I’m very happy with the planning process. I hear nothing but horror stories about brides having too many people in the planning process. 

Post # 7
4879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I liked planning alone, too.  Waaaayyy less drama.

Although in my case, dh was very engaged.  He was once co owner of a party planning business, so his input was valuable.  Our tastes are so similar, the whole thing went very smoothly with me doing the planning with dh’s opinions.

Post # 8
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I feel you, OP! I go back and forth between feeling boo-hoo-y and being grateful I don’t have a bunch of interfering people annoying me. 

One thing to keep in mind: not everyone knows how to just jump in and be helpful. Sometimes they need to be asked! You might be pleasantly surprised if you asked your mom or FMIL to do some small task. Maybe they’re waiting to be invited to take part?

Post # 9
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

simone_s:  that sucks! But why don’t you expect FI to help with everything?? Just because he’s a guy doesn’t mean he can’t or shouldn’t be expected to take on responsibilities.

I’m in the same boat as you. No help from friends or family, either. But FI is taking on 50% responsibility. He is responsible for coordinating/booking venue and organizing reception and has equal say on decor, etc. He’s also in charge of finances and tracking costs. I’m responsible for ceremony venue/officiant, decor, invitations, photographer, and overall timeframe. 

There is no way I would bother with any of this without his help. Obviously he’s a guy so his tastes might occassionally be questionable. But he’s amazing at finances and communicating; he’s very organized and efficient. Those skills are what I lack, so it works out.

Is it possible for you to lean on your FI more?

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