Ijust need to vent right now. I’m so sick of planning thus wedding I can hardly wait for the day after so Idon’t have to heat about it anymore. Inever really wanted a wedding but both parents and fiance wanted the traditional thing do I reluctantly agreed. my mom had taken over the planning which is fine with me. I work long hours and don’t have the time or energy to deal with this. I’m so tired of being asked to decide on thingsI don’t really Carr about like save the dates. I told herto just choose something. we get into fights becauseIdon’t want to make decisions about flowers or centerpiecetr favors Igettht I’m get only one and she wants this but I’m tired of heating about it all time I gate it so much no one understands they all think I’m crazy for not wanting this or a short our anything. I’m just so tired of this whole process and cannot wait for it to finally beer over and be a wife okay enough ranting thanks for reading the
You do know this is your wedding and not your mothers right? If you are unhappy then talk to your FI and see if things can be scaled down to where you are BOTH happy! This is your day! It should be what you want
I’m sorry maybe just pick one. They want you to be excited! Can you just look at the options and pick any random one? You don’t even really have to look. Maybe if you have just 3 options presented to you, you can randomly just pick one and not be so stressed. Most people do find this exciting and when someone doesn’t its very confusing. I think your mom just doesn’t want to completely take over. Is there anything that you do want or care about? Talk about those parts with your mom and for the other things, just say ‘oh, I’m not so picky, as long as they are purple that’s fine with me!’. Maybe you could also go to pintrest and simply Repin all of someone’s wedding board to one of your own and show it to your mom, and seend it to your mom. Also, talk to your FI again if this is really making you unhappy.
It is an exhausting process. I am leaving some planning to friends and family who LOVE to do stuff. Just take time for yourself hun and try to delegate where you can…xxx
Oh, I completely understand! I’m not in the country where the wedding is taking place (I work abroad and so does my FI), so I don’t really have time to plan. EVERYONE keeps asking me how wedding planning is going, and what I’m gonna wear, and what make-up artist I’m gonna use, and what colour theme, and favours, and blah blah blah…
Sigh. I totally feel you when you say you would rather not have a wedding. If I had it my way, I would never have a big reception.
Know that you’re not the only one, and it’s totally okay to feel this way! It’s good to delegate things to people who actually love doing this stuff (in my case, my FI’s SIL). It’s still stressful though because at the end of the day, it’s our wedding and not theirs, so we still need to take the reins on some of the decision-making.
Hope everything works out smoothly!
thanksfor the responses I just am not a planner . Iam more to just let things be as they are and not overanalyze everything. I just wish people would understand that not everyone likesplanning weddings and leave me alone. I will make decisions only if I have to but when I feel like it not when you asking me to.