Post # 1
My Boyfriend or Best Friend of three years asked me to marry him while I was on R&R. Which is wonderful- but spending the first four month of our engagment apart kind of sucks. Using Esty, Knot, Bee etc to research and plan. One bonus is that it making us be very organized and share responsibilities. I research and he calls vendors and signs contracts!
One thing I have done is to start a journal to him. I write about my past and things that are important to me te etc. I plan to give it to him as a gift on our wedding. Its a way to share this time with him.
Post # 3
I think your journal is a great idea!! Him being deployed while you are planning is usually harder for you (sometimes they are a bit relieved not to have to deal with it all and just show up and marry you!). Make sure to look for support from the other SO’s of those deployed – and of course – us brides here at WB! 🙂
Post # 4
Wow, your journal idea is absolutely beautiful. I’m sure it’ll make him cry, because it kinda makes me cry just thinking about it. Good luck with the planning!
Post # 5
The funny thing is HE is home while I am the one who is deployed! He is getting all the fun planning details! He was deployed earlier, but is home now.
I am lucky in that he dosen’t mind taking care of details and my cousin Maid/Matron of Honor is a wonderful planner. Between the two of them I feel confident things will be tracking when I redeploy.
Post # 6
that is such a sweet & thoughtful idea! i am in the opposite position. my fiance & i got engaged in september and are coming up to his deployment in june. we decided to wait to get married until he returns in december (we’re having a january wedding). i think i might borrow your idea and keep a book of the planning process while he’s away so he can see everything i’ve been up to since he’s been away and give it to him when he get’s back! it’s hard planning together a world a part, but when our wedding date comes, we’ll be able to look back at all the work we did & love we put into it and know it was worth the wait.
Post # 7
like you, @hsearle, im the one home and he’s deployed while we are planning the wedding and let me tell you, it’s hard! it sucks because he actually wanted to be involved and sometimes because he’s not here planning with me, it really doesn’t seem real.
however, it is still fun and one thing that i’m doing for my Fiance is taking pictures of EVERYTHING and posting them into a private album on facebook that only he can see (he said that facebook is the easiest to view pictures) and he loves it! i have a wedding planner and everytime we get together, i take pictures of literally every thing we do, even the random moments because i want him to still feel connected. i also take pics or copy/paste from online of inspiration pics and post them in the album so he can see what i’m thinking.
it’s been really great and he loves it. i love the idea of your journal, it would be great with pics!! this is a great site to be on and i really love marthastewartweddings.com and theknot.com.
hang in there girl and thank you for what yall do!
Post # 8
That’s so sweet of you! I’m sure your FH will love the journal! I started a journal for my FH the day we started dating because for some odd reason, I already knew he was The One. Cliche, I know, lol. But he made sure to let me know a deployment would be in our near future, and lo and behold, he’s getting shipped off in July ): My journal is for him to take with him to Afghanistan, so it’s a little different from your version. But I love journals and your idea is awesome!