Post # 1
I have been searching the internet for items and ideas for my big day…. problem is- I am not yet engaged That hasnt stopped me though! I have had to drag myself away from the computer at times because I have been so close to ordering things!
Am I alone on this? I hope not! Also, are these signs of a future bridezilla? (This is what Im told)
How advanced are you in your wedding planning?
Post # 3
You definitely won’t be alone, I hear it’s pretty common. I’m the odd case, didn’t start planning at all until about a month and a half before the wedding. Over 10 months after the official engagement.
Post # 4
@IreGal: I dont think it is wrong at all to look at things! I know plenty of girls that have picked out things before they were engaged. I think its good to know what you like now so when the time comes thats less work to do! I’m guilty of checking out some things myself. And I def dont think checking things out now means you will be a bridezilla!
Post # 5
I think it’s good to have ideas. Where, when, colors, theme, photography, etc. The day I got engaged people were asking me wedding details like I should already have a clear vision! That said, I would never order anything or have my heart dead set on anything before getting engaged. It is nice to look around for ideas though.
Post # 6
Before I got engaged I had the wedding planned. When then boyfriend and I were talking about getting married we had no idea as far as a budget how far our money could go. So this was a great excuse to start looking at things. Then I couldn’t stop looking. I even had a wedding binder before I was officially engaged. So take it from me, it’s ok.
Post # 7
I think it’s fine as long as your SO is okay with it. I’ve planned a lot of the wedding (in my head, not booking anything) because we want to be married in a year and I’m just waiting for the proposal. We picked a ring and it should be coming by Spring. He wants me to do a lot of it so we can just go visit the places and enjoy our engagement without all the added pressure of initial research.
Post # 8
I allowed myself to look at dresses (but not touch) and e-rings while I was waiting. I thought I had done a lot of pre-planning but now that I am on the other side, I realized the first thing I need is a photographer…zionks…I didn’t think of that…
Post # 9
I have my colors picked, my venue picked (my Nanna’s farm). I have an excel spreadsheet of pricing and guest list. I’ve looked into tent, chair, table, linens rental. I know our budget (SO and I talked about it before). I have pinned dresses and details onto Pinterest. I have not ordered anything but have thought about it but have considered starting to gather some things to make it more cost effective (i.e. stamps, scrabble tiles, lanterns, etc)
Post # 10
We’re totally going to do the big no-no and book the church and the reception venue before we get officially “engaged”. In our case though, it’s waiting till I meet his (out of the country) parents to get engaged and not wanting to try to plan the wedding in under 6 months (we’re in a visa crunch)
We’re not going to start till this summer (engagement this coming christmas) but not going to lie, it’s going to be a little weird, because I’m usually like “how DARE YE PLAN WITHOUT THE RING”.
We just had a couple of glasses of wine and went “yeah we’re gonna have to do that”.
Of course now that I have permission, I am like a monster unleashed trying not to bring it up until this summer. I’m pinning things like a woman posessed.
Post # 11
I think it depends on your situation my FFI and I have talked marriage for months. At first we were trying to wait a year (it was a very quick romance) because we just felt like we should. It just seemed a standard amount if time and neither of us wanted to rush. However about 9months in we realized that it was silly to wait just to say we dated a year. Now the hold up is finances. He has two kids and has had some furloughs on his job so he can’t but a ring right now. as soon as he gets the ring we’ll be set. I even told him I don’t need a ring but he’s not having it!
Post # 12
WELL my SO had me plan a budget and i already know where i want to have it, know what type of dresses i want and have my bridal party figured out.. so it really depends.. I think its good to be prepared but we definitely havent gone beyond a budget.
Post # 13
@IreGal: last year, i had bought a few magazines, looked online, not buying anything. might still look but thats it for this year lol
Post # 14
@IreGal: Oh gosh my BFF was the same way, but the funny thing now that she is engaged she is not even planning, but mostly b/c her FI told her she is not allow to do so…he is a jerk (another story)…but no you are not alone on this, there are many girls that do this before they get engaged…enjoy!
Post # 15
I am not yet engaged (although I think it is coming soon!), but I already have everything planned in my head, I just haven’t booked anything yet. My mom has been purchasing things here and there that she sees that fit my theme, and I already have my guest list done (although I know it will probably change by then). Actually my mom is the one who suggested I start getting my guest list together because that takes a long time and really determines where you can choose your venue (have to know if it will hold enough people!) So no, don’t feel weird, there are tons of bees on here who have been planning for a wedding without a proposal.
Post # 16
I think it’s ok to look at stuff before ou are engaged (I know I did). It’s really hard not to, especially now that Pinterest exists. Just don’t order anything – it wouldn’t be smart.