Post # 1
It seems like most people have AT LEAST a year to plan their wedding and sometimes even 20+months. Well, my biological clock has been on snooze for too long and I can’t afford that sort of time! So… I am in this weird, awkward waiting stage in which we think we know what month we want to wed but there is no proposal yet. I have planned about 50% of everything (theme, venue, vendors, food, guest list, even songs to play) but I can’t actually book anyone yet.
Have any of you planned your wedding with less than a year? If so, I would love to hear how the whole process was… did you feel rushed, or was it a fun, spontaneous thing?
Please share how many months you had or have to plan and any tips you might have!
Post # 3
We planned our wedding in 10 months-proposal to wedding date. I hadn’t even thought of ideas before we started planning so I had no idea where to start. I felt like it was plenty of time, we didn’t feel rushed at all. Originally we were going to plan in 6 months but everyone kept saying it was too short so we moved it back a little. Honestly, we would have been fine with 6 months. The only tips would be to nail down big things first-vendors that can only book one event in a day (photographer, DJ, venue, caterer)
Post # 4
Oh yes, pictures of your wonderful day – which you put together in a matter of months – would be greatly appreciated! I need hope that this can be done 🙂
Post # 5
@redhead46: So it is possible! Do you think you could have done it in 6 months?
Post # 6
@rusticbee2014: Yep, 6 months would have been totally doable. We booked our vendors first and then pretty much sat around for a few months until it was time to nail down details. Most of our vendors-cake, florist, caterer, DJ, wouldn’t even really discuss details until we were under 6 months out. Here’s a few pics of our day
Post # 7
We, really I, planned our wedding just a few days shy of six months. I really didn’t feel rushed at all, I just made sure to get the major details nailed down first – church, reception area, DJ, etc. – and then the smaller details fell into place as we went along. It was actually most tricky for me to find a photographer that didn’t cost thousands of dollars and that was available for the day.
I don’t really like waiting for things, so I didn’t want to drag out our engagement for a long period of time. Even though a longer planning period may have allowed us to save up more money to spend on various aspects, I don’t regret any of what we did or didn’t have in our wedding!
Post # 8
If we go with our ideal date, March 15th, I’ll have 9 months.
My sister got engaged on Dec 30th and married the following June 29th.
My brother got engaged on April 28th and married the following December 15th.
It is entirely doable. I’ve seen it happen (relatively) disaster-free twice.
Post # 9
@rusticbee2014: Ok, breathe, and think about it:
It’s one day.
One day does not take more than a year to plan. Some people need venues or photographers which need to be reserved more than a year advance. But actual planning can be done in way shorter time. We had a 10 month engagement but didn’t really get rolling for a couple of months. I know several people who’ve had engagements of about 6 months. And I’ve read on the Bee of people who’ve planned it in a month or so.
How was the process? Busy, but it was more knowing that lots needed to be done and ticking them off the list. I think the only real stressful/busy time was because we printed our own invitations and programs, and it was a bigger job than I thought.
Post # 10
@redhead46: Wow. Stunning! Great job. Thanks for the confidence!
@Twyla_Smith: Yeah, I agree – I think the only thing I would hope there to be more time for would be to save some more money!
@paula1248: LOL! Thank you! Deep breaths in full effect. I think the waiting is really what is stressing me out the most 😀
I NEVER undersood why brides wanted sooooo much time to plan – I am an obsessive planner so I enjoy planning things quickly and thoroughly! The thought of taking a year to plan used to sound crazy to me. Actually, the thought of an actual wedding used to sound crazy, but that’s another story. But now that I am on the Bee I notice everyone taking a year or more so I worried that perhaps I am missing something!
Post # 11
@Shamus11: So 6 months sounds pretty reasonable… I guess he has a few months to propose then. LOL! Yay, I don’t have to resent him! Jk, I don’t 😀
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
@rusticbee2014: I’m doing it in 7 months, from northern Italy, for a wedding in southern Italy, with many guests from California. You can do it. I’m also moving, have no family near to help, handmade invitations, and spending a full two weeks away from home for work. You can do it!!!
whenever feel like there might not be enough time, I think of it as a party, not a wedding. . . It changes so little, but the timeline for planning a party is dramatically decreased. Who spends more than 2 months planning a party? even a fancy schmancy party. But it’s rare I have felt there wasn’t enough time. I didn’t do anything for the first month anyway. 6 months would be fiiiine. . . as long as you aren’t hoping to book a 300 person wedding with THE most popular venue, THE most detailed decor, THE most overbooked vendors… I don’t see why you would really need longer. go dress shopping right away, once you know what atmosphere you’ll have. .
Post # 13
I started planning mine around Halloween for a September wedding. I guess that is just over 10 months. I have everything done and havent felt rushed at all. I definitely could have done it in less time. We are inviting about 230-240 people.
Post # 14
I agree one day shouldn’t take more than a year, but I want time to really enjoy being engaged for a few years to pay and enjoy everything slowly and fully
Post # 15
We were 9 months to the day, proposal to wedding day. Engaged Oct 9, 2009, married July 9, 2010.
It was really just a matter of being decisive about what I liked, not killing myself with DIY projects, and not procrastinating. Even with only 9 months, I felt like from six to three months out there really wasn’t that much to do. If you have a very popular vendor/venue that you MUST have that could put a kink in things.
Post # 16
We got engaged last month and will get married in Dec. I haven’t prepared anything but I believe we’ll do fine. We’re even planning a remote wedding. It’s not a destination wedding, but a traditional wedding. I don’t know how we’ll do that but I’m sure that we’ll have a beautiful wedding. My friend got hers in 5 months! 🙂