Planning…when did you start? Need input

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Hi! I just got engaged a little over a week ago and I jumped right into planning! I love planning things though, so this is right up my alley 🙂 Our engagement will about 15 months total…I was shooting for around a year but really want to do a winter wedding so we’re doing a longer engagement. Maybe I’ll be one of those people who books everything early and has regrets, but we’ll see! 


Good luck!!

Post # 5
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL


When did you start planning?  We discussed dates within a month or two of the engagement which was in December 2011.  We settled on November 2013 or February 2014 and then we waited until August 2012 to start looking at venues.  We booked our venue in October 2012 for our November 2013 wedding.

How long was your engagement?  Just under two years.

Anything you wish you had done sooner?  Book our photographer.  My first choice was already booked for November 2, 2013, when I called to book her in November 2012.  I love my second choice though so I ended up not being too disappointed.

Anything you took care of too early and wish you had waited on?  Not really.  I think I did a pretty good job spacing out booking our vendors and waiting means you may not get your first or second choice so after losing out on my first choice photographer, I booked the rest of the big stuff ASAP.

Post # 6
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@realtreegal:  I started planning when I became engaged – pinterest and getting pictures/inspirations together. We were engaged around Christmas 2010 but I was also away at school until April 2013 so hence the longer engagement. We actually started getting everything going (booking the hall/officiant and everything) 1 year to the date to make sure we got the hall and the date we wanted. We made sure we got the deposits on all the major stuff we wanted to make sure it would happen the day off. Once closer to time, we will be putting the full payments on everything. I made sure my dress was the right dress for me as I have read about so much dress regret on here which scared me to think that would happen (tried it on 2 times before committing to it) I was told the Dress should be ordered 9-12 months beforehand and the manufactuers (at least for my bridal salon) shut down the month of January so if you are looking to order, do it in Nov/Dec to make sure it gets to you on time. 

So here is what is booked so far to help you out a bit and I am just shy of 1 year but wanted to make sure we got everyone we wanted as things book up extremely fast around here: 

Ceremony/Reception Site
Baker  for my Cake (if you are getting anything else from them order all at once)
Photographer – Wished we had booked a little sooner, lost the person I wanted BUT it worked out better for us in the end because our photographer now has more to offer
Make Up Artist
Flowers – Decorator is taking care of that for me


Post # 7
26 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

Got engaged in November, procrastinated tho I knew we wanted a summer wedding.  Started actual planning in May for July wedding.  (2013).  Pulled it all together in 2 months. We had small wedding and dinner reception on a Friday and large party on Saturday in inlaws beautiful home which made planning sooooo much easier.  My new SILs just eat up all this party planning stuff, ditto my new MIL so I let them have pretty much free reign.  We had the most fantastic two night event due to these wonderful ladies and my mom who all pitched in to make it perfect.  As for myself, I could not imagine spending a whole year planning a wedding!  ( I wanted to elope!)


PS…my mom gave me a beautiful wedding planner when I got engaged, I never wrote a single thing in it, LOL. In fact, I just re-gifted it to a newly engage friend who just asked me to be a bridesmaid. 

Post # 8
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

  • When did you start planning? 8 months before the wedding
  • How long was your engagement? 9 months
  • Anything you wish you had done sooner? Not really… maybe educated ourselves sooner on wedding photography (styles, associated costs, etc); we got lucky when we found our guy.
  • Anything you took care of too early and wish you had waited on? The first transportation company we chose was very flaky.  Should have taken it as a sign when they didn’t want a deposit, and they began avoiding our attempts at communication.  We gave up on them and found better a company with only 4 months to go.

Summary: Our wedding was in a small town with only 50 guests.  We booked the venue, caterer, and cake 8 months out since it was all one business.  The photographer, DJ, and hair/makeup salon were booked 7 months out, as were the rentals (tent, chairs, tables, etc) and flowers.

Post # 9
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We were engaged for a year and a half and we started planning prety much right away. The first thing we did (days after we got engaged) was to sit down and make a list of things we liked and priorities. We talked about guest list size and formality level and the like. This was hugely helpful later in the planning process as a grounding tool to help remind us what was really important.

Post # 10
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

When did you start planning? Once we got engaged- last June! Booked our venue 2 weeks ago!

How long was your engagement? Will be just over 2 years. Engaged June 2013- wedding July 2015. We’re ahead, but I’m in school, so I have no time

So far I’ve started DIYing barefoot sandals for the beach wedding, booked the venue and now started looking at colors


Post # 12
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@realtreegal:  Don’t waste your money on a wedding planner.  Use the free checklists on The Knot or  We bought a cheap accordion file to keep our contracts and vendor info organized.

Post # 13
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

You’d be surprised how far out venues are booked!!!

Post # 15
1535 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@realtreegal:  don’t worry too much! I had a friend engaged almost 3 years and only planned 3 months out! She asked me in may to be her BM in for July!

Post # 16
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

When did you start planning? 5.5 months out–I found all our vendors in December, booked EVERYTHING in January, and got married in May!

How long was your engagement? 8.5 months

Anything you wish you had done sooner? Not really. We had a luncehon, so we didn’t have to fight for venues or vendors!

Anything you took care of too early and wish you had waited on? Not at all! We had a pretty short planning time, though!

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