Post # 1
I have been meeting a lot of new friends and connecting with old ones who have kids and it’s been really nice. But it seems that almost everyone has a nicer house than we do. I know it’s shallow, but I can’t help but be a little insecure especially when reconnecting with old friends who seem to be doing much better financially and building houses 2-3x the size as mine. Anyone else?
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad… at least you have your own house…look at it that way and you will feel better BUT I do empathaize.
I am the opposite. I have a bigger house than my mom friends so we usually do the playdates here at my house. I have more outdoor space too so the kids have more room to run around and play where as my firends don’t have that or have very tiny spaces. I feel very blessed. It made me more appreciative because I always thought my house to be small (just 1600sf or so). But 4 of my mom friends won’t even host the playdates because their houses are too small… so it’s usually myself and one other mom who hosts at our houses.
Post # 4
We live in a townhouse, much smaller than that of most of our friends. I also know that we make 2X as much as many of our friends. The size of your house doesn’t mean anything.
Post # 5
Be proud of what you have and if anyone judges, they are not a good friend. I had a much larger house than my playgroup Moms but I would never, ever judge anyone for it. I admired the choices that they made – all of them were stay at home moms except me and I truly respected the sacrifices that they made to be able to do so and the benefits they had that I didn’t because I choose to work. I wish for all moms that we would stop with the keeping up with the Joneses’ anxiety and just support and applaud each other. Maybe you can be an example of that within your friends! Best wishes!