- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
This is my first post on here but I need to vent/ advice/ to talk about it… (warning…. I’m a little winded to get the details)
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together for two years now and completely inseperable. He truly is my best friend, soul mate, and SO all wrapped up into one amazing bundle! *Brag alert* He really is the perfect man for me. We talked about marriage on our first date- I know, crazy right? I flat out told him my next relationship would be in it for the long haul or nothing and he agreed. We moved in together very fast, mostly due to unfortunate circumstances with my roommate but things only got better. After we had been together about 6 months he was offered a job with his fathers company a state away. Without any hesitation I said yes to the move. (It’s about 6 hours closer to my parents and we’d be living in the same city of his family- we are both very family oriented so this was actually a perk for us.) I picked up my life and moved a month later.
Fast foward a year and a half to last month (June 2014). We’ve lived together now for over a year and a half. We split most of the bills (he pays the majority). We have two ABSOLUTELY adorable Mini Dachshund puppies together. We truly have built a life together.
I’ve been wanting to get engaged now since the beginning of the year because I feel we are financially, physically, and emotionally stable; not to mention we are madly in love and thouroughly enjoy spending time together. So, we’ve definitely talked about it since so many of our friends have started getting engaged and having babies and doing the whole “life” thing. So here are the events that have lead me to where I am now….
Just before Easter, my BF’s mom asks me what my ring size is. Truly, this isn’t that weird of a questions because she’s a jewelry buyer for a store and buys me jewelry all the time. Well, she gives me earrings for Easter so I thought she just changed her mind.
Then, my parents are in town vising for Memorial Day and my dad and Boyfriend or Best Friend spent the majority of one of the days out in the mancave (garage) talking and doing whatever it is guys do in there. That same week, his family (Grandparents and all) and me take family photos together and his mom was asking the photographer about engagement shoots and details about wedding options. I thought to myself… hmmm that’s werid? But, again, she’s been really wanting us to get engaged for a while now so I thought it was maybe just hints to her one and only son. She also started referring to herself as my “soon-to-be” mother in law rather than her usual “future-mother-in-law.” Again, I didn’t think anything of it because we are crazy close with each other so I thought she’s just being cute.
So, my birthday came and went with nothing too spectacular; just his usual amazing gift giving and breakfast in bed. *Brag alert again, sorry .
Our anniversary is about 3 weeks later and he kept saying he had some fun plans for our anniversary but wouldn’t tell me what they were. So this is when I started wondering if he maybe talked to my dad on Memorial Day. *Insert crazy butterflies here* Well, the Tuesday before our anniversary (which was on the following Sunday) I find out that my company has been sold and I might not have a job. WHAT? Then, the next day the Boyfriend or Best Friend asks if I want to go to Reno (with his parents) for our anniversary. I won’t lie, I was a little disappointed. I was really hoping for a proposal on our 2 year anni but I knew it wouldn’t happen there and with his parents. *Remove butterflies* So, we get back from Reno and he says he wants to really do something for our anni that next weekend *Again, insert CRAZY butterflies* and boom, I learn that my mother is diagnosed with MS and can’t walk by herself any longer. I was/ am devastated. My mother is my role model and that was a big blow. Once again, I have this uneasy feeling between my job and my mom’s diagnosis. So, fourth of July comes and goes and still no ring and so much going on I feel like I’m going to break and a lovely gal hits my car in a parking lot. Add another crisis to my life.
So, as you can see, probably not the best time to propose as circumstances weren’t the greatest… but tensions were high and I decide to bring up marriage with the Boyfriend or Best Friend. Basically, I had the ‘I’m ready and your not’ talk. He was ridiculously understanding and tells me not to worry because he definitely wants to marry me ‘more than i know.”
Well, the Boyfriend or Best Friend encourages me to go to my parents for a weekend to visit my mom in the hospital and get some alone time to recoop with my parents. My dad and I were talking one night and I was basically telling him how I feel like my life is falling apart and then to add insult to injury I have a Boyfriend or Best Friend who doesn’t want to marry me yet… blah, blah, blah. I may have been PMSing….
Spoiler Alert*** My dad tells me that the Boyfriend or Best Friend asked for my hand in marriage on Memorial Day!!!!!!!!!!!! EEEK!
Well, he only told me because I was about to explode… and I’m a daddy’s girl… and he hates to see me sad. But, he told me he isn’t sure when it is going to happen because the Boyfriend or Best Friend told him he was going to propose on our anni.
So, here I am, a month later with no ring and no sign of a proposal yet. He’s big on surprises and AMAZING at them but now he’s having problems at work and might have to move to San Diego without me for 6 months.
So, ladies, I need your words of encouragement or advice or whatever you want to give me…. He has the permission, he has the ring, he HAD the plan. What gives? I’m trying sooooo hard not to bring it up but now that I know it’s going to happen (but he doesn’t know that I know) I seriously can’t contain my excitement.
I found out that fun news, plus I got a promotion with the new company, and my mom might be able to walk again all in one week! But now I want to officially be engaged and call my Boyfriend or Best Friend my FIANCE!! How do I contain excitement without letting him know AND not expect a proposal any time he does something sweet or mildly romantic?!?!