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How many people are you trying to invite? I would be worried that a lot of people already have holiday plans. Can you find out if the "most important" (ex. parents, siblings, etc) would be able to attend? Otherwise, eloping in December and having the party in January sounds like a good option!
send the invites and see what happens! of course expect that some might already have plans, but I'm sure some will be available. Unless you want to elope, go with the wedding!
Wow, thanks for the responses bees! Gosh Idk how many! There are 50 on our list..should I just try it?! It's so stressful though, not knowing how many will make it! haha. Oh man. I am sure the fams will make it..I think there are about 10 ppl together from his fam and mine.(We got small fams). Well I do..there may be up to 15 max..I always need to count more from his fam. Friends..I think close ones will make it..Idk..so maybe 20 ppl could go? Idk! But I made these fancy centerpieces..will that be for only 20 peeps? lol. Ahh! The stress of it all! I need to get me a choco cake..or just a tub of frosting maybe..hey, it's good for these kinda things:). I live in NV..so marrying here is easier than goin to the bathroom after takin metamucil..sorry! Just a bit freakin! Thanks bees!
@kalliela:Yes, 4 weeks early would have been pushing it....2.5 weeks is way too close.
What do you have to lose?
I say go for it!
Can you hand deliver most of them? That way you can explain the situation, find out if they are possibly going to come and don't have to waste more time using snail mail.
I'd elope and keep the party on the 22nd. 2.5 weeks is crazy short notice. Also, you don't HAVE to go on a honeymoon immediately following the wedding.
@kalliela: Why not still get married on the 1/22 then just take the honeymoon later (say, during his Spring Break)? You run the risk of inconveniencing a lot of people if you move the date up a month on such short notice (especially if you have out of town guests that might have booked vacation around your event).
Also, I'm surprised that you're not running into other vendor issues by moving the date (since you have centerpieces I assume you're having a reception). Even if it's a situation where you're cooking the food yourself and having the reception in your back yard, I assume you have to rent tables/chairs/silverware/plates/dance floor (which would have to be moved) and those that are cooking (I assume you can't do it yourself) would have to rearrange their schedule to be free that weekend to cook.
You need to decide what will be most important to you in the long run... a better chance of your guests being able to attend or having the honeymoon following the wedding. Personally, I think having a delayed honeymoon just gives you two things to get excited about in a year!
Send the invites out and don't stress about it. The people who can come will and the people who can't will send you their well wishes. Of course, be sure to let your immediate family know of the date change to ensure they'll be able to make it.
Call me crazy, I say elope/party in Jan OR have your honeymoon over Spring Break and just go with the original date. That way you aren't stressing yourself out, or the guests who can't make it.
First - Please don't post in all caps. Its really hard to read and is considered "yelling".
If you are comfortable with just having your family and a few close friends there, then go for it. However, understand that many people may not be able to rearrange their schedules under such short notice.
Shouldn't invitations have been sent out early November/ late October anyway? I'd say go with the original plan and honeymoon later.
I am sorry about the caps..I thought about that, that all caps would be dumb and would be hard to read. I am sorry. I think I was just freaking. But not trying to come off as yelling. Feel free to change them to regular font if you can. I'd change them but don't know how to do it. Thanks for all your replies though, I appreciate it. I have to work on Bee etiquette still sorry(I'll be married soon, so I won't keep messin up on here for too much longer I guess, sorry!).
Mrs. Martin: Thanks for your reply, I was thinkin of hand delivering them possibly and whoever shows up shows up:). Why are Canadians so cool?:).(Assuming that you are Canadian? lol, if not, whatever, you're still cool!)
thanks bees!
I think it's veryy short considering the holiday season. However, I don't see why you can't have a small wedding then with your families and then have the reception as you had planned in Jan.
@kalliela: Yes, it's way too short. I personally have every weekend booked this month, and I'm Mrs. Anti-social, so I can imagine that people who actually have lives are probably booked as well.
If it was a small guest list and any other time of year I'd say make some phone calls and then send the invites (so they don't go to waste) BUT 18 days from now is the week before Christmas. People will be out of town, busy with parties & running errands - I'd imagine even people who would LOVE to be there might already have other plans.
I think you should just keep your original date and then take a honeymoon later.
Why don't you take your honeymoon before your wedding? Sure, it's a little unconventional, but you could take advantage of your FI's vacation time and still have time to invite your loved ones to see you get married. You could call it a pre-wedding vacation or something and then maybe take a mini-moon the weekend after you wedding.
have your wedding as planned and postpone the honeymoon until spring break or the summer.
Keep your date, go on your honeymoon later! You'll spend money out the wazoo booking a trip on this short of notice around the holidays.
You still need to get those invites out asap for a January wedding though!
Thanks again guys..um well the reason why we can't do a honeymoon before the wedding and why there is also a bit of a rush in this is cause we've been abstinent 2 years and don't wanna wait anymore! Lol..so that being said..how bout that Dec. 18th bees?? Ahh, sounding a bit better to ya huh, now that you know that tidbit? lol. And no, we don't do any other sexual things..so ya, honeymoon is after the wedding:). Also..he goes back to school and works full time on the 18th of Jan..we thought it was another day he had to go back to school, so we would not have a honeymoon:(. And I want a good honeymoon after bein abstinent all this time! So..should I just get er done so I can be ahem, gettin my groove on already or what? lol.
For my work it would be two short. I would never be able to get the time off. My cousin sent us her invitation 16 days before her wedding and there was no way we could go. Just send them out and those who can will come. But I would expect your wedding to be smaller than you want.
@kalliela: You have to make a decision, whats more important, having guests, or getting laid.
you don't have to be on a honeymoon to have sex. that sounds like a pretty silly reason to inconvenience your guests and probably lose some deposits on vendors you've booked.
Why don't you book a hotel for two nights in a nearby city or in YOUR city? Get a suite and sex it up there before you go back to school =]. Just getting away for a night or two will be romantic.
^^^ thanks we were thinking that.
and um..wow you guys, really..nvm..I will figure this out..I should have known there would be lame posts coming..I am not even goin to respond to that post really. I have real friends to call that would more helpful I think. Thanks though..and thanks for the trolling a bit. Bye bees!
@ejs4y8: I agree!
Moving up the wedding so you can have a honeymoon and have sex sooner, seems a little...immaure maybe? Sorry if that was harsh, it was just my first thought. I know if we got invited to a wedding the week before Christmas and didn't get the invitation until 18 days before the wedding it would be a no go for us. Between Christmas parties, holiday shopping, etc. it's just a really tough time to plan a wedding with very little notice. Plus, even if you decide TODAY I assume you have to reconfirm with vendors, make invitations, and then either deliver or sent them. Which means people won't get them till next week, making it closer to two weeks before the wedding.
I'ts not just about the sex..we want to be husband and wife..but anyway..later bees!
I'd send them out. The way I figure it is that I'm still getting invites to Christmas parties, and this is, at the end of the day, just another party. Either people will be able to go or they won't.
Whichever way you decide to do it, I'm sure you'll have a wonderful day.
When you say that you want to get married quicker so you can have sex, you should know it's not always going go over favorably, particularly when you're talking about moving it up to basically two and a half weeks away! That's a HUGE inconvenience on your guests, considering it is the holiday season, and for the lack of feasibility for all the reasons Treasure said. I'm sure it seemed like a good idea a the time, but the execution of it would surely backfire and cause you more stress
@kalliela: I don't think anyone is trying to be rude. I think some of us just wanted to point out that it IS pretty short notice around the holiday season. I mean you did ask us for advice and I think that's all we were trying to give you. I think having the honeymoon a bit later would be a wonderful suggestion! It seems like you're frustrated because not everyone gave you the answer that you wanted. It doesn't mean you have to take our advice, we're simply offering it since it was asked for.
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Long story short...we got my fiance's vacation time messed up and may bump this up to the 18th of Dec. All other dates in this month are taken at my church..we were goin to have this in Jan but realized we won't have a honeymoon if we do that! (We got his school vacation messed up). We are so lame! And some dates are taken in Jan. IS THIS TOO SHORT OF NOTICE?? Given the holidays are coming up? Should we just elope in Dec and have a party/reception type thing in Jan? I need help! And prayers if you got any for me!!! Elope? Or stress about time crunch and stress abt ppl that may not make it!!! I was thinkin just to call people to see if they can come? And send them a formal invite if they say yes?? Thanks bees!!!!