Post # 1
Long story short…we got my fiance’s vacation time messed up and may bump this up to the 18th of Dec. All other dates in this month are taken at my church..we were goin to have this in Jan but realized we won’t have a honeymoon if we do that! (We got his school vacation messed up). We are so lame! And some dates are taken in Jan. IS THIS TOO SHORT OF NOTICE?? Given the holidays are coming up? Should we just elope in Dec and have a party/reception type thing in Jan? I need help! And prayers if you got any for me!!! Elope? Or stress about time crunch and stress abt ppl that may not make it!!! I was thinkin just to call people to see if they can come? And send them a formal invite if they say yes?? Thanks bees!!!!
Post # 3
How many people are you trying to invite? I would be worried that a lot of people already have holiday plans. Can you find out if the “most important” (ex. parents, siblings, etc) would be able to attend? Otherwise, eloping in December and having the party in January sounds like a good option!
Post # 4
send the invites and see what happens! of course expect that some might already have plans, but I’m sure some will be available. Unless you want to elope, go with the wedding!
Post # 5
Wow, thanks for the responses bees! Gosh Idk how many! There are 50 on our list..should I just try it?! It’s so stressful though, not knowing how many will make it! haha. Oh man. I am sure the fams will make it..I think there are about 10 ppl together from his fam and mine.(We got small fams). Well I do..there may be up to 15 max..I always need to count more from his fam. Friends..I think close ones will make it..Idk..so maybe 20 ppl could go? Idk! But I made these fancy centerpieces..will that be for only 20 peeps? lol. Ahh! The stress of it all! I need to get me a choco cake..or just a tub of frosting maybe..hey, it’s good for these kinda things:). I live in NV..so marrying here is easier than goin to the bathroom after takin metamucil..sorry! Just a bit freakin! Thanks bees!
Post # 6
@kalliela:Yes, 4 weeks early would have been pushing it….2.5 weeks is way too close.
Post # 7
What do you have to lose?
I say go for it!
Can you hand deliver most of them? That way you can explain the situation, find out if they are possibly going to come and don’t have to waste more time using snail mail.
Post # 8
I’d elope and keep the party on the 22nd. 2.5 weeks is crazy short notice. Also, you don’t HAVE to go on a honeymoon immediately following the wedding.
Post # 9
@kalliela: Why not still get married on the 1/22 then just take the honeymoon later (say, during his Spring Break)? You run the risk of inconveniencing a lot of people if you move the date up a month on such short notice (especially if you have out of town guests that might have booked vacation around your event).
Also, I’m surprised that you’re not running into other vendor issues by moving the date (since you have centerpieces I assume you’re having a reception). Even if it’s a situation where you’re cooking the food yourself and having the reception in your back yard, I assume you have to rent tables/chairs/silverware/plates/dance floor (which would have to be moved) and those that are cooking (I assume you can’t do it yourself) would have to rearrange their schedule to be free that weekend to cook.
Post # 10
You need to decide what will be most important to you in the long run… a better chance of your guests being able to attend or having the honeymoon following the wedding. Personally, I think having a delayed honeymoon just gives you two things to get excited about in a year!
Post # 11
Send the invites out and don’t stress about it. The people who can come will and the people who can’t will send you their well wishes. Of course, be sure to let your immediate family know of the date change to ensure they’ll be able to make it.
Post # 12
Call me crazy, I say elope/party in Jan OR have your honeymoon over Spring Break and just go with the original date. That way you aren’t stressing yourself out, or the guests who can’t make it.
Post # 13
First – Please don’t post in all caps. Its really hard to read and is considered “yelling”.
If you are comfortable with just having your family and a few close friends there, then go for it. However, understand that many people may not be able to rearrange their schedules under such short notice.
Post # 14
Shouldn’t invitations have been sent out early November/ late October anyway? I’d say go with the original plan and honeymoon later.
Post # 15
I am sorry about the caps..I thought about that, that all caps would be dumb and would be hard to read. I am sorry. I think I was just freaking. But not trying to come off as yelling. Feel free to change them to regular font if you can. I’d change them but don’t know how to do it. Thanks for all your replies though, I appreciate it. I have to work on Bee etiquette still sorry(I’ll be married soon, so I won’t keep messin up on here for too much longer I guess, sorry!).
Mrs. Martin: Thanks for your reply, I was thinkin of hand delivering them possibly and whoever shows up shows up:). Why are Canadians so cool?:).(Assuming that you are Canadian? lol, if not, whatever, you’re still cool!)
Post # 16
I think it’s veryy short considering the holiday season. However, I don’t see why you can’t have a small wedding then with your families and then have the reception as you had planned in Jan.