Post # 1
Hey ladies! I was recently in a wedding where the bridal party wasn’t announced and please take it from me…..announce the party!! All of the girls were offended by the bride not having us announced. We had paid close to $1000 to be in her wedding and she didn’t even give us the common courtesy of being introduced to all the guests! It dampened the mood for the entire evening. It makes the bride look like a Bridezilla and that every aspect was about her (which is should be, but not to a selfish extent).
Post # 3
Im sorry you feel bad that you werent announced! Did she let you know before hand they were only doing an entrance for the bride and groom? I think Ive only been to one wedding where the bridal party wasnt introduced and it seemed a little weird – not sure how the girls felt. If I wouldve been told before hand Id get over it but thinking I would be part of the entrance and then not doing it would stink.
Post # 4
I was in a wedding last year that we weren’t announced but we were introduced once everyone was seated for dinner. I’m not planning on doing an announcement either, IMO they’re weird to have everyone parade in, but I will introduce them while seated.
Post # 5
Uh oh, I’m not announcing my bridal party. Or myself though. I’m not a fan of the spotlight so we’re not doing an entrance. I actually wouldn’t mind if my friend decided not to announce us at her wedding, I’ve been dreading that part since she asked me to be in the wedding.
Post # 6
artbee- I’m so glad I’m not the only one not wanting an “entrance”. Ugh. I’m hoping we can just blend back into our cocktail hour with not much fan fare!
Post # 7
okay, we weren’t planning on announcing anyone, even us (bride and groom) – just because it’s a little more casual, but reading this…should we change our plans?
Post # 8
We’re not doing an entrance at all either. Not the bridal party, not us. We’ll probably arrive at teh reception before most of the guests and be mingling during cocktail hour. Maybe we’ll do like Miss Sapphire mentioned and introduce people while seated or something.
Don’t take her decision too personally – maybe she didn’t realize that you guys would like to have been announced, too?
Post # 9
I guess from my point of view, announcing the bridal party is like saying “hello everyone! I want you to know who the most important people in my life are and that’s why they are part of my wedding!”. I can see maybe announcing them as they are seated, but give them a little credit. Afterall, they are the ones standing up beside you in honor and support of your marriage. I think in my case (from this past weekend), she wanted everything to be 100% about her. She didn’t even do a bouquet or garter toss. There was nothing about the wedding that took the spotlight off her and believe me, this girl ATE IT UP. I think she had issues b/c she didn’t have much spotlight during her engagement since myself and another close friend were engaged as well. She definitely made up for it! The bride and groom didn’t even make it a point to come to our table and say hello to our dates!
btw…she didn’t tell us we weren’t being announced! we found out as we were lining up and the wedding planner told us to be seated! she announced only the parents and then her and her husband
Post # 10
I’m going to announce everyone: My moh & his best man, ring boy, flower girl, my mom and dad, his mom and dad and us! =)
Post # 11
I feel like you’re not really giving her any slack. I guess you really wouldn’t like what I have planned to since I’m also not doing a bouquet toss or that silly garter thing that makes me personally very uncomfortable.
The fact that the bride groom didn’t come up and at least acknowledge you is a bit low, but not knowing how many people were at the wedding I’m not going to speculate as to how busy they were.
As you know, from being engaged, weddings are about the bride. I’ve been to a lot of weddings where, based on the amount of sweat and labor I put into them, there was not enough credit being given to me, but we all have to deal with that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Chesapeake Bay Beach Club
I have only ever been to one wedding (out of 5) where they announced the bridal party, and it seemed sort of weird to me at the time. My FI insists on announcing ours, so I’m fine with it, but I’d cut your friend a little slack! Some people have no idea that’s even an option. As for the bouquet and garter toss, wouldn’t that have made the spotlight even more on her? I’m not a huge fan of those traditions myself, but it’s nothing about having the spotlight on me – in fact, I don’t like the idea that everyone would gather ’round to watch me throw something at my friends!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2009 - Harbison Chapel & The Maple Lane Farm
Maybe good advice would be to check with your bridal party to see how they feel about announcing or not announcing and go from there!
Post # 14
Hmm, we’re not announcing anyone. When we told our wedding party, they were really relieved. “Oh, Thank GOD” was the phrase, I believe. They said they hate parading in and having to be in the spotlight or do some silly dance or wear sunglasses (what have you). They thanked us profusely, so I think it really depends on personal preference, and not one generalized rule 🙂
We’re not announcing ourselves, either. We’re just mingling our way to the head table and calling it a day. We’re also not doing the bouquet/garter toss.
Post # 15
I’m not doing the boquet toss and the reason being is I only have 2 single girlfriends left besides young middle/elem- school girls. One of my friends just called off her wedding. So I don’t want to make the 2 girls get out on the dance floor with the spotlight on them with a bunch of little girls all around. That’s not being selfish in my opinion. You should cut your friend some slack. There could be a reason why she didn’t have these two things.
As for not coming by the table and saying hi to you… you were in the wedding and with her all day. They needed to spend some time with other people. And I’m sure she was quite busy cutting the cake, first dance and all those other things that go on.
As for the introducing you, was there a program with your name in it? Again you don’t know what the circumstances were. Maybe the coordinator made a mistake and the bride wanted you announced. Maybe the DJ/annoucer talked them out of it for whatever reason.
Post # 16
btw… I’m not trying to sound me. Just give you a differnent point of view.