- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
This is somewhat of a long story, so I will try to shorten this as much as possible.
Six years ago I met a girl (lets call her Julie). Julie and I hit it off immedietly and became best friends almost instantly. Over the past siz years we had our ups and downs in our relationship, because we both were leaving our teenage years entering adulthood, with alot of maturing happening over the years. A little over two years ago, Julie had a baby, and a year later, I had one too. We though everything was going to be great.
While being pregnant, so much was going on with me, and she was hardly ever there for me, and partying alot instead. I figured, she was just needing her weekends for her time, since sh was a stay at home mom, and let it be. After having my son h owever, alot changed. We hung out every now and then with the kids, and I went out with her less then a handful of times after having my son, as partying really wasn’t my thing anymore.
Meanwhile, six months after having my son, I found out my fiance had had a relationship with a woman both Julie and I knew, who lets say, wasn’t the classiest lady in town. I asked Julie not to ANYTHING to anyone, and she promised me she wouldn’t. About a few months later I found out from her COUSIN, that she actually told him. I was devastated.
For my sons first birthday, she and her son were invited, and she knew his birthday party was going to be on his birthday, as it fell on a friday. She said she wouldn’t miss it for the world. As I never missed either of her sons 2 birthday parties since he was born. And low and behold, she went on a roadtrip with her boyfriend instead. I’d like to laso mention that she was known to my son as “Auntie”. I was pretty hurt by all that. But I was too stubborn to let the friendship go, so I left it all behind us, and carried on.
Come about october of this year, my FFIL passed away. She was totally understanding, and supportive, and it was nice to have a best friend to tell everything to. About 12 days later, Julies mom passed away. It was a terrible time, and I tried to be there for her as much as possible, with everything that was going on. About 2 months later, (late november) my sister moved in with a new boyfriend ( lets call him Jared). Jared and Julie’s boyfriend were mutual friends. Julie then apparently got too drunk (in her words) and told Jared my sister was a goldigger, and that he deserved so much better, and went on about “stories” she knew.This happened on two different occasions. Julie and my sister had partied a few times together, years ago, but in no way did Julie know my sister. Jared kicked my sister out shortly after, resulting her to move in with me. I’d also like to add, that my sister is not a golddigger.
After all this happened, I decided to not confront Julie, because of her moms passing, and to avoid confrontation, but just not make any more effort to continue the relationship. 3 days before Christmas Julie called me, and I couldn’t help but wonder, if all of this was true. She confessed saying she was drunk, but had no remorse for it whatsoever. That day I told her I would rather have no friends at all, then to have a shitty best friend. I haven’t talked to her since.
Since then I got engaged, and we’re selling our house, and life is pretty good. But I do admit that I miss that one persaon I can tell everything to, yet know I can not trust her anymore.
Today, Julie emailed my oldest sister ( not the one she was bad talking) telling her how much she missed me, and that to pass the message on.
I’m in a bit of a crossroads, what to do. Any feedback would be great. Thanks!