Please critique my draft day-of timeline!

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
567 posts
Busy bee

@MsYankee:  Hello:)  So the only thing I saw is I noticed that you may want to change is the #1 things guests complain about other than cold food or bad food is waiting around for the bride and groom to get places. or “down time”

It looks like your ceremony ends at 3pm, but your cocktail hour doesn’t start until 5pm? So what will the guests be doing during that time?

Also it says your reception doesn’t start until 5:30?  2 1/2 hours is a long break between ceremony and reception.  You may want to consider getting a first glance with the groom to make sure you get all the pictures you want (i have heard from many brides they wish they did that, so you can enjoy your time with your new hubby after the ceremony).  I would definitely cut out some picture time between the ceremony and reception. Your guests are not going to be in good moods waiting 2 1/2 hours for the next part of your wedding to start.

Also 2nd thing, I have been in many weddings where the bride wanted to start the schedule at 8:30am or 9am and when you are going to be up for 13 hours straight…you are exhausted by 9pm and it’s hard to enjoy the wedding.  Personally when 3 different weddings the bride has made us start getting ready at 9am…or meet there at 9am and we had SO MUCH DOWN TIME it was ridiculous…Like we literally sat around for atleast 3 hours doing nothing, it was terrible!!  So I decided to have a wedding at 4pm and not even have my bridesmaids meet me until noon.  That way they will not be exhausted at the wedding when they are up for 11 hours straight:)  You want to make sure you have energy and everyone is ina  good mood bc they are not exhausted:) Hope this helps.  My schedule looks a lot like yours and then i pushed backed the time on a bunch of stuff.

You might wanna also put in 10 minutes to have a prayer with your bridesmaids (if your religious) and a time for your dad to come see you before the wedding:) Hope this helps:)


Post # 5
2787 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I agree with PP about the downtime for your guests.  I am always a bit put off by weddings where the time between the wedding and the cocktail hour is over the time it takes me to get from where the cermony is to where the reception is.  Is there anything that you could provide for your guests there. 

As far as getting ready, start your make up later.  You can do it while the stylist is working on other people.  If you do it too early, you are just going to have more time to smudge/ruin it.   It can also allow you a bit of time to move your schedule back.  I really wish I could move mine back, and am looking for every place to do that. 

Post # 7
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was going to say the same thing about the gap, but people will definitely understand since it’s a Catholic wedding.

Personally I’d like to get dancing earlier, but I don’t know if your family is conservative or hates dancing or something.

Post # 8
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Could you move the cocktail hour to 4-5, then intros, dinner at 5:30? Two hours seems like plenty for photos. 

Post # 10
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta


I don’t think the gap is a big deal, especially if the hotel is close by to get settled.

I like the idea of doing your first dance right as you enter, everyone is watching already.

Speeches can be done during supper so people don’t get bored if they are long. 

Are you doing garter/bouquet toss? 

Post # 12
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@MsYankee:  I like the shoe game! I have heard of that now that you mention it. People hear large gap and immediately panic but if it works for your situation and not inconvinient for your guests then it shouldn’t matter. 

Post # 14
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@MsYankee:  More dancing! I would do 9-12pm. Does your venue only allow until 11pm?

Post # 15
9525 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsYankee:  I would do your hair first and do your MOH and jr bridesmaids hair after yours so that if yours takes longer than expected, you have some wiggle room.

I’d also cut the extra picture locations and actually go to your cocktail hour! Couples never get enough time to spend with their guests, so take advantage of any time that you have!

I’d push the cake cutting back. Give people some time to digest dinner before they have to eat dessert!

I assume you just used 15 minute time increments for convenience sake – but please don’t let the first dance and the father/daughter, mother/son dances last for half an hour! 

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