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Maybe answer with... "not as much as I'm going to love being a mom"?
That question does kind of put you on the spot, though, doesn't it? Then again, it might be kind of funny to just keep saying "no, not really" if people ask. Maybe it'll make them stop and think about the assumption they just made. After all, we all know what happens when we assume things, right? ;)
I'm just really starting to feel pregnant. (I'm 16 1/2 weeks.) I'm super happy to be pregnant, but so far I am indifferent to it. That'll probably change when I get farther along. Although right now I'm curled up on the couch with a wicked cold and digestive issues. Right now I'm really not liking being pregnant.
I LOVE being a mother, but I was not a fan of being pregnant. I didn't have a terrible pregnancy, but I had my share of problems, and pregnancy just was not my best moment. Literally the moment after my daughter was born I said, "Wow, I feel so much better!" :) You're definitely not alone in this; I'm sure there's a good portion of women who really just don't enjoy pregnancy.
I did find her reaction amusing. I plan on using it again if anyone asks, but I was really serious the first time. I guess I was suprised that someone would ask such a personal ( yet stupid) question. Also someone touched my stomach today-actually she was like "Where is your baby??!!" and proceeded to molest me. File under dislike.
Ha! That story reminds me of my pregnant co-worker. She's pretty mean to begin with and she looks. crazy. miserable. That would be the LAST question I'd ask anyone.
What is up with asking questions if you expect a certain answer?! Sheesh.
I am pretty sure my mom hated being pregnant - she had 3 of us, and says the only way she would want another baby is if someone dropped it on her doorstep (LOL), she had hyperemesis of pregnancy though, and she vomited several times a day from the moment of implantation until the moment of delivery ... she had a hard time gaining any weight with pregnancy because of it, and finished each of her pregnancies looking super skeletal/sick ... She loved being a mom though.
I have a co-worker who freely admits hating when her babies were newborns ... she calls it the "blob" phase and would prefer that a baby just quickly pass through the first 1-2 months of life so she could have the smiling/interactive baby!
I think it is everyones right to not love certain phases of motherhood, and prefer other times, anyone who makes you feel less for it is a grade A biatch!
I'm definitely not in the "loving pregnancy" camp. I've told my husband more than once that this may be our only kid and been very serious when I said it.
I hated that question. I didn't like anything about being pregnant. I didn't have a bad experience, better than a lot I would say, but it wasn't fun for me at all. In fact, what I hated the most was the way I looked and the lack of balance I seemed to have all the time.
And like Ms. Mini's coworker, I don't like the newborn phase either. I look forward to when my 4 month old can walk and talk already. So never feel that you have to enjoy every minute of pregnancy or even motherhood.
Wait till you go to the dentist and they're like oh BTW you have 3 cavities and you need a root canal. Get your teeth checked ASAP after your baby is born. I never had a cavity until after pregnancy :/
Not a huge fan of pregnancy either!
Oh dear heavens, I HATE pregnancy.
Maybe once I'm at 6 months or so, and I look pregnant instead of just weirdly fat and bloated...or when I don't feel awful every minute of every day...or if the freaking hemorrhoids ever go away (sorry if that's TMI but DAMN I was not ready for that particular pregnancy joy)...or when I don't throw up a big "OH HELLS NO" every time my husband gives me that hopeful "is it special time?" look because my boobs hurt and I'm having a hot flash...
Maybe THEN I'll smile back and be all "yeah, pregnancy is all sugar and spice and unicorns farting rainbows" but until then I am still holding out hope that by the time we want another one, they'll have the technology ready for my husband to gestate it.
(The sad thing is, I always thought pregnancy sounded awesome. When else in your life do you get to be fat and bitchy and celebrated for it? Oh how the illusions have been shattered...)
people shouldn't ask - and EXPECT the answer to be "oh yes, i LOVE it!" i'd be more like "so what's it like to BE pregnant?" course i've yet to be...lol
some people are just rude though.
My husband's cousin asked me that the other day when we went out for dinner and I was like not really, maybe it will change when I'm not sick 24/7 and I feel like a fully funtioning human being again, but for now I can't say I entirely love it. She was like, "Oh I loved it and I was never sick..." and I was just kind of like, thanks, but that's not making me feel any better, lol. What I do love, though, is dreaming about what it will be like to meet our little one. :)
@Lozza: I hate just looking like I'm fat too. I don't even go out because I hate it so much. I want to hold up a sign that says "im pregnant!" Actually it isn't that I look fat, i just look like i have a gut. blah.
@Ms Mini: My MOH's sister-in-law had that! She was stuck in the hospital for the whole first trimester because every time she moved she would get sick. Hers went away after the first trimester, but it was still so awful for both her and her husband- she's the bigger earner, so not only was it physically draining on her but it was also financially difficult on both of them.
Needless to say, they're adopting Baby #2.
I have 3 boys and all of my pregnancies were horrible beyond horrible. My last pregnancy my insurance company sent a nurse out to my house to insert and iv and a medicine pump in my leg because I was so sick and weak. I had no idea I even had that coverage. It was the only time I really appreciated my job.
@Lozza: You are too hilarious! Yes we have all been duped. I have yet to see anyone with a "pregnancy glow".
@flamingred: I bought my first pair of maternity pants last night because keeping my normal pants buttoned all day at work just HURT, and they actually made me feel so much better about myself. I'm normally between two sizes, and rather than feel like I'm busting out of the gut of the larger size of my regular pants, the smaller size maternity pants fit perfectly and are probably the most comfortable things I own right now. Seriously. I am never going back to non-elastic waistbands, pregnant or no.
@Cheeks11: I totally have that "pregnancy glow" thing down. It's the sheen of sweat on my flushed face after I've just thrown up, right?
@Lozza: Do share what pants you bought, I'd love to not have to deal anymore with how tight my jeans are getting!
@Lozza: I totally forgot, yes! that's it!! The only thing I can remember about my pregnancies that was totally great was that I was able to wear all my regular clothes until I was about 7 mos along...that was it. lol
@Lillindy: I bought some Liz Lange 3-in-1 (or something like that) jeans at Target. I think they were around $30 or so. I'm only about 13 weeks, so I didn't need the full panel or anything, but honestly I like it, and they're super comfortable- plus I'll be able to wear them a long time, if not through the whole pregnancy. As long as I wear a longer shirt, they look like normal jeans. The only bad thing is that after I've been wearing them for about 10 hours or so, they've stretched enough that I occasionally need to hike them up a bit. I think getting fatter will help with that :)
I can still wear my regular clothes-i have a bella band which is great but my bod is super frumpy and it makes me sad. Thanks for the Liz Lang tip! A few people have recommended that line so I am going to check it out.
I don't think I'd ever even ask this question unless I was super close to the person. And it would be more of an honest question, not a leading one. I'd ask b/c I cared about her wellbeing and wanted to know how she was doing, not b/c I want to hear a particular answer to prove my theory right or something.
@moderndaisy: you know, it could also just be me feeling insecure about my answer and maybe she really didn't look at me like i had 10 heads. I did feel like a mom FAIL because I don't like being pregnant. hat said-it's still a dumb question. haha.
Wow... crazy how rude people can be. I can see if she was a close friend/coworker, and she was asking if you enjoyed being pregnant (understanding that some people do and some people don't) to see what your answer would be. I am not pregnant, but I asked my cousin if she liked it-- because i wanted to hear her experiences and how she was feeling, etc. (Her answer- extreme dislike!!!!) Judging by this coworker's answer, she was hoping you'd grin and gush about it... UGGGGGGG!!!!
I must admit...I love SOME things about it:
But it's definitely no bowl of cherries...I usually go with "I'm looking forward to loving it..." which gives the questioner an opportunity to wax poetic about her pregnancy if she wants. Honestly, I like less the people who refuse to acknowledge that there IS something different, that I DO have to leave the meeting more often to pee or pass gas (unless they'd prefer that I do so sitting right next to them?).
@Lozza: If you combine the BellaBand or Target's BeBand with your new jeans, it'll help keep your pants up until you "grow into them" & will help after pregnancy in the same way until you "grow out of them/back into your regular size". Just a thought...and thanks for the tip...I was looking for jeans too!
@Lozza: Thanks! I was planning on going to Target this week so I need to check them out. I'm a shortie, so I'm hoping they have an option for the shorter ladies. :)
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A co-worker just asked me this and I was like, "No, not really." And she looked at me like I had 10 heads and then said "Well, **I** had a blast being pregnant." Um..okay that's nice.
My pregnancy hasn't been horrible or anything compared to some horror stories I've heard.I just really don't care for being pregnant. Anyone else feel this way? Don't get me wrong , I'm 100% excited about my baby-but i pretty much think pregnancy in general sucks, and that seems to be the wrong answer.