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    JessicaL    November 12, 2010   LA

    One of my good friends passed away Sunday Morning after a tragic car accident. He was only 22. He was in his best friends wedding saturday night and at about 2:30 AM the boy driving(Trey was riding with him) lost control of his truck and Trey was ejected from the vehicle. The boy driving is now in jail for DUI and vehicular manslaughter. It's just unbeleivably sad :( I'm heartbroken that I will never be able to speak to him or hang out with him again so unexpectedly. Not only will Sept 25 be Trey's best friends anniversary but also the anniversary of his BF's death, and he will be reminded every year. Can you imagine? Are any of you bee's doing anything to help prevent drunk driving after your wedding? A shuttle, taxi, etc?

     
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    MsBlueberryBee    January 2015  

    Oh my goodness I am so sorry for your loss that is so horrible!

    To answer your quesstion yes FI and I are getting married at a spot where you can camp out, so a ton of our guests are bringing rv's, campers and tents and spending the night! No drinking and driving!

    Again Hugs! And I am so sorry for your loss!

     
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    Oh no. That is so sad. I am not doing anything about a shuttle or taxi. I'm just hoping they use their good senses!

     
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    husky    October 2, 2010   Denver

    I am so very sorry for your loss.  And I completely agree with your sentiment - NO drinking and driving!  It's just not worth it.  We're renting a shuttle to get all of our guests back to their hotel safely.  We're also encouraging camping for folks who don't want to leave their car. 

    Again, I really am sorry about your friend.  I can't imagine the grief you and you circle of friends must be feeling.

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    That's awful. I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. Unfortunately I think a lot of people often think of weddings as an excuse to get drunk but don't think far enough along the line to realize they need to get home at the end of the night. We provided shuttles to and from local hotels to our venue, and we made sure we had extra rooms booked at the hotel for guests who might have overdone.

    If you don't mind me saying so, I think it's also important for people to wear seatbelts. Just as often as many drivers are responsible and don't drink and drive, you don't know who else is on the road and what their day/evening/night has been and your seatbelt can save your life if you're involved in an accident with that person. Be safe on every front! 

     
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    Lolasmomma    April 15, 2011   Morrisville, NC

    Sorry to hear about your friend :( 

    The hotel we used to book rooms said that if we booked 10 or more we could use their shuttle the entire night.  The hotel and reception are about 20 minutes away from each other.

     
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    elephant    April 2011  

    I am so sorry to hear about your friend.

    We are doing shuttles between the venue and the hotel.

     
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    dance    July 23, 2011   Alberta, Canada

    I'm sorry for your loss - that is sad news to have to remember on what should be a happy memory.

    For our wedding, our reception will be at a hotel where people can just wander upstairs to their room - we have secured a discount for our guests to help facilitate this.  There are also lots of taxis and such available for those local guests who would prefer to go home.  Drinking and driving is never an option in my mind.

     
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    JessicaL    November 12, 2010   LA

    Thanks everyone. I'm so glad ya'll are taking precautions. It's definately something to think about.

    @bakerella: I completely agree. If he was wearing his seatbelt he'd probably still be here.

     
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    summerbvt    June 19, 2010   Houston, TX

    This is so sad that things like this still end up happening.

    Our wedding was 30 minutes away from the hotel and the roads were really steep and windy and I was just horrified by the thought of people driving drunk.  We couldn't afford to get one of the nice pimped-out passenger buses so I looked up renting a school bus, and found one!  The guests had a blast getting rowdy in the school bus on the way there and back, and they all arrived safely to the hotel.  I definitely encourage other brides not to overlook safe transportation, although I know it is hard when people aren't staying at the hotel and just heading home.  We also had a passenger van with a DD to take smaller groups of people to other locations, so please everyone consider that as well!   

     
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    rlsulli1598@verizon.net       oregon

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.  I am glad you brought this up.

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    I'm so sorry for your loss. That is an awful situation and you as well as your friends family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    As for your question, my husband and I got married on Mackinac Island, MI which is very unique in the fact that the island does not allow cars of anykind (snowmobiles in the winter are permitted) and so we didn't have to worry about drunk driving (all of our guests stayed at the resort or other hotels on the island where we reserved rooms because the last ferry was at 9p.m and the party went till midnight).

     

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    I am so sorry to hear that. I will remind my guests not to drink and drive when we leave the rehearsal dinner (it is on NYE). We will not be serving any alchol at the wedding.

     
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    ktisthatbees    May 1, 2011   Atlanta GA/Charleston SC

    sad face :( I'm really sorry to hear this. To answer your question. Our venue is within a couple blocks of everyone's hotel (at least the room blocks that we set up are) so people should have no reason to hop in a car after our wedding.

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    This is ridiculously sad. It's such a shame that he lost his life at such a young age. We had a shuttle back and forth between our venue and our hotel and most people took that shuttle.

    I can't imagine this person's anniversary every year. How awful for them. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your friends and his family!

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    My niece was killed by a drunk driver at the tender age of 18 years old. I am almost a fanatic on the subject. In this picture from our wedding, she is the beautiful young lady on the left.

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    JessicaL    November 12, 2010   LA

    Thanks everyone for your kind words. I'm so glad everyone is thinking of this. It made me really think how I could avoid this on my wedding day.

    @bluespurrs: I'm sorry for your loss also

     
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    courtbu17    May 21, 2011   Dayton, OH

    I am so sorry for your loss.

    Yes my Fi and I's reception is on an air force base so we are reserving plenty of rooms and the Limo we are renting we are renting for the night and it will act as a shuttle to and from the hotel.  I'm hoping all drinking will take advantage of this or at least have a good DD on hand.

     
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    TheFutureMcBride    August 2010   Virginia

    I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my Uncles (really brother because we were raised together) to a drunk driver. After that, I actually stopped talking to my best friend at the time becasue she'd always drive drunk.

    To keep people from driving crunk, we rented cabins which were walking distance to the venue. It was a lot of fun and ensured no drinking and driving.

     
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    SuperShopper    June 25, 2011   Midwest

    This is so sad! I'm sorry for your loss.

    We have also made this a priority in our planning... we'll be providing a shuttle service from the reception venue to the hotel where our room block is reserved at the end of the night.  We're even including the reminder on our "details" card in the invitation pocket to remind our guests to plan accordingly

     
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    Sunshine23    July 17, 2010   Canada

    So sorry to hear that :-(

    We had our ceremony and reception in a hotel so guests could stay there and had no excuse to drive. It worked out SO well. We had a lot of local guests even get a room which made me feel so much better.

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    I am so so sorry for your loss. A good friend of mine from high school died in a drunk driving accident a few years ago...he was 21 years old. We definitely tried to prevent drunk driving as much as possible. Our ceremony and reception were in the same place so people walked and then we had our dads and other sober guests shuttle people back to the hotel afterwards. We also had all the groomsmen staying walking distance from the venue so they just walked home.

     

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