(Closed) Please explain engagement rings

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I think the wedding ring is the symbol of the marriage and the e-ring is the symbol of me wanting some bling on my finger!!!

Post # 5
3241 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Each country has a different tradition.  In the UK a woman may propose to a man on leap day.  Some countries the man does receive an egagement ring as well.  I love the tradition of it and like that it’s modifying as time changes.

Post # 6
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

@DClare:  anytime

Post # 8
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve heard that your ring ringer has a vein that goes straight to your heart so that’s why the ring is on that specific finger. I find them to be romantic, but I’m very old fashioned. Fiance picked and paid for it all by himself and to me it’s a sign of commitment. That he found it important enough to get me the ring of my dreams and to get down on one knee and profess his love for me and ask me to be his wife. I can’t look at my ring and not think of him. I would personally never propose to my guy and wouldn’t have him wearing a e ring either. He doesn’t wear an jewelery so just a wedding band will be an adjustment to him. I think e rings are geared towards the female sex, it’s a way to get a piece of bling but for a specific reason. My Fiance has never pulled me into a jewelery store to shop and I think that’s the norm for most guys. They just don’t need the proposal and the ring, they just need us to say yes. So in a way it’s sexist but we are different. I like to say we’re both fruits but one is an apple and the other is an orange. Sometimes we just need different things.

Post # 9
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is a really great but loaded question.  I live in the US and I see an engagement ring mean so many things for so many people.  For some, it is a promise to the future.  For others, it is something beautiful and shiny on their finger.  For others still, it is a status symbol recognized by general society.  It could be a combination of the above, or something entirely different. 

The historical meaning of an engagement ring can be argued as well.  Is it the diamond industry making profit?  Is it a more recent/cultural spin on the idea of a dowry or payment to the bride’s family? 

These ideas are all arguable and interesting to ponder.  For me, my ring symbolizes the future my Fiance and I have together and our intentions as a couple.  Our committment is mutual so my wearing the ring is a response to Fiance gifting me the ring.  And it’s pretty, too (which doesn’t hurt).

Post # 10
198 posts
Blushing bee

I always think of them as a token of a promise for the future.

And sparkly too!

Post # 11
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The only symbolism for me is that men know I’m no longer available. Honestly though, that’s a laugh and a half because I think I’ve been hit on MORE as fiance than I have been as a girlfriend.


But I love the fact that it means he is going to marry me and I wouldn’t want to go without, even if it was just a piece of string. That being said, Fiance doesn’t have a ring, doesn’t really wnat a ring and I don’t care too much if he wears his wedding band. I think a lot of that is because my dad never wore a wedding band and he still has a great, loving realtionship with my mom.

Post # 12
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

the concept of a diamond having to be the angment ring is a 20th century phenomena (mainly started by the debeers coporations in the 40’s withh their tag line… “a diamond is forever”) Before that rings were still given but not necessarly a diamond. SOmetimes it wasnt even a ring.. but some sort of trinket exchaged to symbolize love.

While i love my diamond ring i would have been jus as happy with something different.

Post # 14
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Honestly I think the fact that he spend a lot of time and money on something for me was symbolic.  He did a lot of research, talked to people about it, etc. I know that the ring is symbolic no matter what the price is, but I feel like that sacrifice (and the amount that constitutes “sacrifice” is different for everyone) shows a level of commitment. 

Post # 16
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@DClare:  I DID get an engagement ring for FI! I told him that if I was wearing one, he should too! It’s nothing fancy, just a silver ring we picked up at the Ren Faire that has our names hand hammered on it. 

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