Post # 1
I’m having a major panic attack! So heres the long story sorta short. I grew up with a mom who worked and i just assumed I would do the same when I had kids. My fiance however, his mom was a stay at home mom for many years and his sister is now. It has really started to appeal to me, however my fiance does not make enough for me to stay home. In fact right now together we don’t make enough to be able to put a child in day care, but yet I would still need to work to pay bills. My fiance has no where to move up in his company so I feel like its all on me.
My solution to this was to go back to school to get my masters degree in school counseling (i’m a social worker now for a non profit). I figured that would be the best of all worlds. I’d make decent money, have good hours and have my summers to spend with my kids. So I found a decent program that meets only one day a week(totally doable). The issue is that its a full 3 years. And one of those years is an internship in a school so i would have to quit my job. I’m scared about making it work money wise when we don’t have enough money now. I’m also really really scared about putting off children for three more years (i’m 30 my fiance is 33). I also know that if I don’t do it now, i’ll never be able to do it.
I just feel like the universe is working against me, there seems to be no good answer. School means three years of hard work, 20000 more grand in student loans, putting kids off, struggling financially when I go do my internship and no job guarantee after I graduate. On the other hand if I continue to work where I do, i’ll never make much money and i’ll be on call 24/7 like i have been for the last 6 years. I can’t really imagine doing that with kids. I’m so frustrated!
Post # 3
I say go for it, if you can be sure of support from your fella! Is there anything he could do to make himself suitable for better, related positions in other companies, as the job market revives?
You’re gonna be workin til you’re 70, most likely, so you might as well do your best to see that you enjoy your working day and that it suits your life and family!
Post # 4
I just turned 30, and I totally understand how you’re feeling.
I have one year left of law school, plus the bar exam next summer. I’ll be almost 200k in debt when I’m done, and then I have to start a career.
Honestly, I’d go back to school. It will open up many more opportunities for you.
Post # 5
Are you truly interested in school counseling? If so, I say go for it. Things will work out somehow. If the hours/money/etc. are the only reason you’re considering it, just make sure you do some serious soul-searching before taking it on. You don’t want to get locked into a career that you end up not enjoying.
I feel your pain. I’m almost 30, have decided after being a lawyer for a few years that it isn’t for me and am also thinking about going back to school.
Post # 6
Go back to school! Kids can always be pushed off. My mom was 33 when she had me and 35 with my brother, I never once felt like she was “old” and we were daycare kids throughout. My husband had a stay at home mom and while he’s a well adjusted adult (for the most part), his sisters are completely screwed up and I think a large part of that is an obsessive stay at home mom.
Post # 7
before you go back to school, i would recommend you check out the program really well and see if they have placement services available and what the job outlook is for that field in your area (i assume you’re not willing to move wherever).
school counseling is a small, but great field–i have several friends who went in that direction. 2 friends spent a LONG time looking for a job in the city they lived in (and it was a big city!) and had a really hard time with finding jobs in that field..school counseling unfortunately is one of the first things a school district cuts when the budget goes bad.
and another thing, i would check out the starting salaries for the graduates of the school, and look at actual job offerings NOW and see what they are offering. my friends all started out at like $38k-$42k a year, which may not be as much as you are hoping for.
good luck 🙂 i have a background in social work and had to make the decision to go in another direction with grad school, mostly because of $$$$.
Post # 8
@blondeeebuckeye: can I ask what you went back to school for?
Post # 9
I am a school counselor and positions are hard to come by these days. I have been laid off every year since I started and I live in a big city. It sounds discouraging, but I find being a school counselor rewarding. I would also recommend looking into being a sub teacher while your doing your internship hours for extra money. I know some of my classmates also used their current workplace for internship credit.
Good luck. I hope your state/district pays school counselors well. I know that community college counselors here in my city get paid way more than K-12 counselors.