(Closed) Please give me your opinion…would this be rude?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would it be wrong to ask my bridesmaids to cover the tip for their hair and makeup?
    No, not at all - you are paying for their hair and makeup. : (56 votes)
    46 %
    Yes, just cover the tip too. : (66 votes)
    54 %
  • Post # 3
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    14750 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think those are great gifts.  I wouldn’t write that on the card, but I would mention it to them individually.  I think that it is very sweet that you are thinking of the stylists also and wanting to make sure they get a tip.

    Post # 4
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    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    First of all, you’re an awesome bride for doing all of this for your bridesmaids. Seriously. Awesome.

    However, I think you should just go ahead and include the tips. Whenever you say you’re covering their hair, it’s kind of assumed the tip is included in that.

    The tip doesn’t have to be ginormous.

    But seriously. Can I be your bridesmaid?!

    Post # 5
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I wouldn’t know how much to tip because I like to pay a percentage and I don’t know what the total cost is. And honestly, I don’t want to know how much it costs because its a gift. So I would just prefer you pay the tip so I don’t have to guess what it is and worry about it being too high or low. And if you told me how much to tip I would wonder if I’m giving a good or bad tip. I vary what I give based on the quality, which I really can’t judge until after the fact. Plus it would be weird listening to you telling me how much to tip, or having to ask how much I should tip.

     

    Basically, while I would really appreciate your gift, I would feel award paying the tip.

    ETA: Without the note or being told, I would assume you were tipping them. So if you still want them to bring tip money, then let them know before the day of (preferably in person/on the phone not in the card so I can ask you how much ect.) 

    ETA2: Also it wouldn’t be “wrong”, but it might be a little weird/awkward. Which may or may not be worth it to you.

    Post # 7
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    41 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I had this exact same dilemma!!  My mom and I decided we would just cover the tip since like others have said the girls didn’t know how much everything would cost and also my girls were soooooo helpful with all of my wedding stuff/showers that I really didn’t feel right asking them to pay for anything else.  I know everything adds up SUPER quickly in the last few weeks before the wedding but we just figured what’s another $100ish dollars to spend on my best friends.

    I had 7 bridesmaids, myself and 2 mom’s all getting their hair done with 5 different stylists.  I made my maid of honor in charge of the “tip” money and gave her 9 $10 bills (I did mine myself) and had her hand them out to each bridesmaid/mom…that way the girls could each tip their personal stylists…it worked out great for us.  You could always give each girl 2 $xx bills to give the hair stylist and make-up artist if those are different people.

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    1292 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    You should cover the cost of the tip if you’re paying for the service.

    Post # 10
    Member
    365 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you can argue both sides here. It is super awesome that you are doing all this for your BMs! The only time I was a BM we had to pay for all this ourselves, plus our dresses and we weren’t given a gift.

    If it were me, I wouldn’t put anything on the card or say anything. Chances are your girls know you are spending quite a bit and some might offer to help with the tip (at least I would if I was one of your BMs). If they do, you can say that you would really appriciate that and Thank them. If they don’t, then that’s fine.

    Sort of like when you give someone a ride somewhere. You aren’t going to ask for gas money, but if they offer you can take it.

    Post # 12
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    650 posts
    Busy bee

    Its great what youre doing for your bridesmaids. I see no issue with you asking them to bring a tip but do not put it on the card, just mention it to them. I assume you know your friends well and if it would an issue then you would not have contemplated it to begin with 

    Post # 13
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    2100 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    The tip is your responsibility. They are doing you the favor of attending and being by your side. If you want their hair and make-up done, you tip. I was in a wedding & the bride paid for these items and we were not asked to tip. Our make up looked great & it was fun. Nice of you to do this!

    Post # 14
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    324 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    if i was told my bride would pay for my hair and makeup, i would not even think about needing to tip. I think you should just pay the tip too, because at that point it seems so weird to just pay $10-20, but not for anything else.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1800 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @tksjewelry:  +1

    I always tip my hair cutter, nail person. Most people who get their hair done and nails done tip, so I would think they would do it on their own, just reitterate in person beforehand.

    Post # 16
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    485 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I wouldn’t ask them to tip. Some people don’t tip as a rule so asking them to tip might be offensive to them, or they may not do it. It’s best you do it yourself as it’s almost an assumption it would be included.

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