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I think the last time I had my period was May...
I am nauseous every morning...
The smell of Maple makes me want to gag...
I want guacamole (sp?) all day...
I am praying I am pregnant. I want children so bad it hurts, and FI does too. He's scared he cant have any because of low testosterone levels in his body keeps him from growing hair on his arms or legs (even though his mom has the same trait). But I have such a weird feeling that I am pregnant. Every time I am late, i will take a test and crush my heart when I find out its negative. This time I took one and it came back inconclusive. I am waiting until next week before going to the doctor in case my period shows up fashionably late. Is it wrong to wish to be pregnant, especially with my wedding date coming up in October?
No, it's not wrong! Your wedding date shouldn't determine when you have kids! If you are both ready, and both want them, I say that's enough to make a baby!
Just curious, when was the last time you peed on a stick? ;)
I agree with Miss Snowflake. When you are ready, you are ready! I am keeping everything crossed for you. :)
I took a test a couple of days ago and it was inconclusive...I didnt want to take another one...scared it might break my heart 
Hmmm... if it was "inconclusive" I would take another. AND still go to the doc next week. Sometimes women just don't have enough of the pregnancy hormone in their system for it to show up in a urine test, but it will in a blood test.
Are you charting?
@MrsH1010: I don't have a clue how to chart either! So don't feel bad.
Post back with the results :-) FINGERS CROSSED!
I hope you guys are pregnant, just for your sake!
Your wedding may be soon, but if you guys are really worried about not being able to have kids, this could be such fantastic news, I think it'll just make the wedding day all the more special!
Keep us updated!
Hmmm... if there is even the faintest line then it's not inconclusive. It's either positive or negative, but no in between :)
Fingers crossed for you!
Best wishes to you! Id take the test again. SIL tried for about 6 months before they got a SUPER faint line. Mrs DG is right, even the faintest line might mean something good!
If you're nauseated and smells are getting to you ... well, that's how I knew, even though my first pregnancy test (when my period 5 days late) was negative. I spent another week miserable and cranky, took another test, and got the big blue plus sign of happiness. :-)
Good luck and keep us posted!
Good luck.... i hope you are pregnant.... and i don't think that when the wedding is should determine when you should be pregnant.... i also say take a test again... GOOD LUCK (and keep us updated)...
I hope you're pregnant, too, if that's what you guys really want! I totally relate to wanting to be pregnant!! Good luck, and keep us updated!
oh i hope you are i love reading you ladies posts about babies bc i'm not sure if i want kids...i love them but i like i'd be a sucky mom so i love hearing about girls who do want babies!!! sending you happy vibes!!!
I'm sending good baby vibes your way! I love when people have babies!
I hope u wish will come true..and if it is time for the baby to come and u two want it considering his fears of not being able to have a child it is nothing but blessing..mayb an early wedding gift?
so...I am pregnant! I took another test yesterday and found that little blue plus sign. I couldnt believe it! Neither could FI, but now he's a little upset. When we spoke about it a long time ago (back when I was 18-20), I told him I wasnt ready for kids and being pro-choice, may exercise other options. But now that I am 25, about to get married, and have my own home, why wouldnt I bring a child into this world? And I didnt think I would have to peel him from the ceiling, but to suggest that since he's not ready, I should consider other options threw me for the biggest loop. It's hurtful and with the way he's acting, I might have to consider having this baby alone.
Wow. I'm so sorry your FI reacted that way. It may just be that he was thrown for a loop and was a little bit caught off guard to find out you guys are pregnant with the wedding just around the corner. Give him a few days to adjust to the idea and see how it goes. If he continues to be unsupportive and suggests that you terminate your pregnancy against your will then you need to get out of the relationship and do what's best for you and your child.
I'm glad you got the result YOU wanted. Good luck!
.....ouch. First though, congratulations! It's very exciting news!
I think it's likely that your FI is in shock/freak-out mode. Is he hostile and insistant that you have an abortion? When did he suggest it and have you had a chance to talk to him since then? Do you think he might change his tune in a couple of days?
I thought you said he really wanted children.
Sounds like you guys have some things to work out..
Good luck!
he does really want children which is why this is such a surprise. he started telling me all of this right away which is why i think he didnt think about it.
@MissHelen: he isnt being hostile, i guess he expected me to say i would terminate the pregnancy when i found out, but that was me back when i was a student and owrked part time. i think he might change his mind, but his initial reaction is really damaging to me
Congratulations! I'm sorry he isn't reacting the way you hoped. Give him some time. My husband and I were actively trying, and when I conceived he still freaked out for like 3 weeks. He got really worried about money and his loss of freedom. Now I am 4 months along and he is just as happy as can be. Guys take longer to process this news than we do. I hope he comes around. Do you have a close girl friend with whom you can celebrate in the meantime?
Congratulation! I hope everything works out w/FI, hopefully he's just in shock and needs time to adjust. It stinks that you are SO happy and ready and he is acting like this. Maybe he just needs a little time.
Congratulations!!! That is great news! I agree that maybe your FI is just in shock.
@Texaslawgirl-LOL I dont know what charting is either.
Congratulations!
I completely understand why your FI's reaction hurt you - it must have been so disappointing to not be able to share your joy with him. But if he is usually a good person, you should give him some time to see how he will react once the shock wears off. My husband and I planned our pregnancy, and we are both still a bit scared. You also have had a big surprise, and should wait awhile before making any decisions about continuing the relationship. Give it a few weeks, and see how he behaves during that time, and how you feel about continuing the relationship. Best of luck to you!
wow, that is really tough.
If you are certain you want to have this child though, then you absolutely should. Give him a bit of time to adjust to this new reality, his reaction is clearly not what anyone would hope for, but the shock just might be too much for him to react appropriately right away. And I totally get why it would be damaging! Let him know you are not going to terminate, that while it is not ideal timing, how lucky you are that you were able to conceive and that you hope he wants to be a part of this with you....I am sure he will come around. Heck I have known women who found out they were pregnant unexpectedly, and married at the time, and it took them time to accpet and be excited about the pregnancy!
For the ladies who asked: "Charting" is where you chart your cycles, using a number of signs that your body gives you to determine when you ovulate, when you are and are not fertile, and when you will get your period. If you want more detail, I highly recommend picking up a copy of "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. Don't let the size of the book fool you - it's a big book, but there is so much good info in there, you won't even realize how long you've been reading! :)
@MrsH1010: CONGRATS!!!! I know your FI's reaction wasn't what you were expecting, but give him some time. Like many of the other ladies have said, it takes men a little longer to process the info than we do. Think about it... they mature later, both physically and emotionally... in a lot of cases, MUCH later. ;)
i can't believe your pregnant!! yay!! i'm sorry he was a bit shocked.. sometimes men talk without without thinking(more often than not sometimes!) i'm so happy for you!! me next!!
I am so excited for you. When DH and I found out I was preggers (1 month after the wedding) my hubs was less than enthused for a REALLY long time. Now that both our families know and I am finally begining to show he is coming around, now he is just worried that we won't have enough mula.
I wouldn't worry. The FI will come around. Just give him some time.
Congrats on your pregnancy!
And I agree with the other posters--give your FI time. News of an arriving baby is a big adjustment for many people, even those who are actively trying to have a child.
Congrats! I agree with Miss Snowflake, give him some time to process. Sorry he is acting so hurtful though. Please keep us posted!
congrats!!!!!
Well, I can see how he made his comment. If he's always expected you to abort, then it's only natural he responded negatively--it's not what he ever expected!! Ensue shock, surprise, and freak out on his part. Give him some time to come around to the idea, he'll warm up. If you want to have this baby (and it sounds like you do!) tell him he basically needs to get ready =-]
also, try not to hold a double standard. If you've always let it be known that you would want to terminate a pregnancy, try not to be upset with him over expecting the same now. He's just freaking out...i think he's been blindsided!
But that being said, if you weren't preventing pregnancy....i have to ask, didn't he think this would happen if you weren't using pills and stuff?! Silly boys. Give him a week I say! Maybe he'll surprise you at how quickly he turns around....=]
Congrats!!! Sorry your FI isn't jumping with joy yet, but he might come around. If not, then maybe it's a blessing in disguise that you find out about it now.If he wants kids though, then I'm sure he will. It's a big shock though, especially if he didn't even think you guys could get pregnant. Nothing will ever be more life changing than this little baby.
Totally lame, but I've told my husband that IF we were ever to have an oops baby, even if he's totally shocked and worried and stuff, he has to at least pretend to be happy when I first break the news to him. I don't mind if he has concerns and is worried and later approaches me about it, but I just don't want that to be the first thing out of his mouth because considering it is an oops, I will probably be stressed out already too. I ca
Congratulations!
I am sorry that your future hubs is acting that way but I think your best bet would be to give him a few days to process it all. And let him to it alone without probing him or asking him every second what he thinks. I am sorry he was rude to you and that he wasn't excited but give him a few days and then "schedule" a time to talk!
good luck! well wishes!!
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