Post # 1
This is my first time here and just looking for some advice.
my fiancé and I have been engaged for 3 years and have started looking around at wedding receptions. We plan to have our wedding in november 2015.
The problem is my fiances soon to be sister inlaw is extremely upset that we have started planning our wedding 4 months before her big day. She is getting married in september this year And got engaged a year ago. We are not getting married for another year and a half but we are only looking at venues and photographers as they both can be booked out well in advance. She has claimed that I am taking our soon to be parents inlaw attention away from her wedding cause that’s what they should be focusing on, not mine. Now she has been telling my parents inlaw that they dont like her as much as they like me.
This all seems crazy to me!
Weddings are meant to be happy and full of love and family. Now I feel like I should put a hold on doing anything for my wedding so it doesn’t cause any more trouble. It has also taken the excitement out of planning my wedding cause of the guilt I feel.
Was I wrong to start looking at options?
Post # 2
Zoey11: Nope, nope nope. You are not wrong to start looking at your options. Maybe just do it quietly and not talk about it with her and ask her family members to not mention it to her? She sounds very insecure or attention grabby.
Post # 3
Zoey11: I was going to say “4 months gap is plenty of time between weddings”. And then I reread the post: all you are doing is *planning* your wedding, and your wedding is more than a year after hers!!
The girl is nuts. Ignore her, and carry on planning. Believe it or not, your fiance’s parents are capable of thinking about something other than her wedding.
p.s. congratulations, and welcome to the Hive!
Post # 4
Thank you for ur replies. I really never thought it would be an issue and it has become a massive problem for everyone. I was starting to think I made a big mistake was was completely inconsiderate of her wedding.
I still do feel bad that it had caused such drama when it should be such a happy time for everyone.
Oh well definitely have to keep it quiet for the next 4 months and then I can be excited without guilt
Post # 5
I would continue planning but just not talk about it around her.
Post # 6
She is insane. Just smile, nod and carry on.
Post # 7
Zoey11: You are not wrong. She is acting very entitled.
Post # 8
Zoey11: Welcome! Ignore her childish bid for the spotlight.