Post # 1
My FI and I wanted to have our wedding on the 13th of June of next year because it is the day we started dating in 2009 so it’s a really special day for us. It happens to fall on a Thursday and I’ve been thinking about it and I feel like it would be really inconvienent for our guests who have to work the next day to come to our wedding and reception which will probably go pretty late into the night. I am completely willing to get married on the 15th which is still really close to the 13th. My FI on the other hand has his heart set on the 13th and I feel awful and he really doesn’t want to change it. I love him but he is making me want to pull my hair out. How do I convince him to change it to the 15th? Please please please help!!!!!
Post # 3
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: Hmm…could you two do a special private ceremony on the 13th before you do the actual wedding? That could be the best of both worlds.
Post # 4
@pengoala: my mom suggested that, I would consider it. I haven’t suggested that to him yet but I’ll see what he says. THANK YOU!
Post # 5
I just went to a wedding in December that was on a Thursday. It was not inconvenient for anyone, that I heard, and it was still an amazing and fun time. I would leave it as is.
Post # 6
@leafgum: Ah, thank you for shining some light for me! 🙂
Post # 7
Maybe you need to look at the Thursday seriously. People are getting married on different days now. I know Thursday are big nights for bars. If people can go to a bar, they can go to a wedding. Think about an evening wedding, June will be warm, and bright, then people wont have to miss work.
Post # 8
Thursday night’s not bad… with plenty of advance notice, people can take Friday off. Yay long weekend!
Post # 9
Hm, this might require some people to take two days off in order to attend your wedding. I personally wouldn’t do this to my guests; however, it would not be the end of the world. I suppose the two of you should have a conversation about what is more important, getting married two days off from your anniversary or having all your friends and family attend without trouble.
Two days off isn’t bad… you’ll still be able to celebrate your start of dating AND wedding anniversary on the same weekend.
Post # 10
Honestly, he just hasn’t thought through what it would mean for your guests. Put him in charge of explaining to everyone why the massive inconvenience of taking extra days off work (at least 3: Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday) rather than one (Friday), is worth the sentimental value to you of that particular day. I believe it won’t be long before having the wedding on the actual day, rather than near it, begins to lose its importance for him. Not everyone is on salary. For some people that schedule could mean loss of pay for three days instead of for just one.
And, if, after all of that, he still insists, well, the burden of explaning it to everyone is off your back, and you’ll know that it really was that important.
Post # 11
My fiancÃ© and I met on June 12 which would have been a Tuesday this year. Well instead we chose the 9th to be married and we will be on our honeymoon during the 12th 🙂 just a thought.
Post # 12
@ProfessorGirl: I agree with this.
@cocobean: That’s a great thought – celebrate your anniversary on your honeymoon! 🙂
Post # 13
I originally was planning my wedding on my 2nd wedding anniversary (I’m already married but never got a wedding due to serious health issues) on Oct 18th which was a Thursday…it actually WAS inconvenient for most of my family so I changed it to Sunday the 21st. But I have A LOT of people coming in from out of state so that’s why Thursday didn’t really work for them.
Really, it’s your wedding, so I’d say do what you wanna do, but weigh the options…you could always ask the guests whether it would be less convenient or not…then decide if it’s more important you keep it on a special date or more important more people attend. I like the idea of having a little separate commitment ceremony that date, though, and then the wedding on a weekend…
Post # 14
@Future_Mrs_Naugle: hmmm I don’t think it’s that inconvenient and you’re going to save a lot of $ having it on a weekday
IMHO people who don’t want to go because it’s during the week( when they’ve been given plenty of advance notice)probably aren’t very close to you and won’t really be missed. No one that cares about you is going to bail on your wedding because they want to get trashed while avoiding a hangover at work–it’s a wedding, not a keg party
Then again, I’m biased because I’m not a fan of huge weddings
Post # 15
@ProfessorGirl: Why would anyone have to take 3 days off of work? Unless they’re coming from far away I don’t see why that would be necessary-heck even if they were flying in that doesn’t mean they would have to take 3 days off…
Post # 16
I’m having about 160 people at my wedding. Only about 60 of them live in town, so a wedding on a Thursday would be super inconvenient seeing as how the rest will be flying or driving at minimum 4.5 hours. I think it depends on how many people you’re expecting from out of town. If everyone is in town, then sure why not? You’ll save money and your guests won’t be all that bothered. If a significant number are coming from out of town, then be prepared to see the number of attendees drop. I know folks who love me are spending quite a bit of money on a flight and hotel and stuff to come to my wedding, so I couldn’t ask them to take extra days off of work as well! Good luck!