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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    Okay heres the situation:

    I am MOH in my friends wedding. Her family is from out of town (has to fly in) and the groom's family is from out of town (fly in or 7-8 hour drive) but all her friends are mostly in town here. (the wedding is here as well) I am planning her bridal shower, and i sent out a peliminary email to find out who could come to the bridal shower so i can give the place the final head count since i have to finalize the count before i can put a deposit down. It seems that neither her mom and sister nor the grooms mom and groom's sister can make it, costs too much to travel here. :(

    It is totally low key - nice bridal brunch with drinks and friends, but i feel horrible that NONE of the mothers will be able to make it.

    So i have now also planned a spa day for the moms and bridesmaids a day before the rehearsal when folks get into town. So that way the mom's get special time with the bride as well.

    Do you think this is sufficient? HELP?

     
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    not that into all this    November 12, 2011   Dyker Beach Golf Course, Brooklyn NY

    How thoughtful of you, I think it is a terrific MOH! 

     
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    MattandKristin    October 12, 2013   Japan

    I think that's a wonderful way to include everyone.

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    oh good! I was worried the moms would be mad that they cant come to the shower, but i know the bride and she wont be up for something so structured so close to the wedding when people will be there, so i figure the spa day is a way to relax everyone AND get family time in :)

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I think that sounds great! Really her sister should prob offer to throw her a separate family shower in their home town-- but I think you throwing one in her home town for friends is great!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    As both a just recently married bride and now a mother of the bride, I think this is an awesome idea :-)

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    Does the location you are doing the bridal shower at have internet acces?  You could always suprise her and skype them in.

     
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    jotasevic    August 27, 2011   Hallstead, PA

    you rock! great idea!

     
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    kermie    December 20, 2011  

    You are now my MOH. Ok? Deal?

    You're awesome! You can always talk to her mom about them not being there if you're really concerned, but I think its fabulous that you considered them and that you're trying to include them.

     
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    Miss. Snowball    October 8, 2011   Taylorsville, UT

    I love it :) That is so wonderful of you to plan for both :) What an awesome MOH!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    @tksjewelry: OMG best. idea. ever.

    @CorgiTales: and her sister isnt the most enthusiastic when it comes to weddings (different culture) - hence why the bride has a Maid of honor (her sister) and me the Matron of Honor - im all gung ho about wedding planning since i just got hitched myself (yall know how it is for a new bride - you swear you should be a wedding planner! lol)

     
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    nkwilson2    September 16, 2011   Indianapolis

    That sounds wonderful.  Don't feel guilty, it's out of your control.  I think it's great that you've found a different way to include them.  You're awesome!

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    Thank you ladies!!!!! i feel much better - and im now itching with ideas of how to skype into the shower or at the very least maybe get her mom to record a video message and play it? hmmmmm

     

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